Post # 1
Our wedding (ceremony and reception) will be at one location on a Friday night. Some folks will leave work early, others won’t, some will have time to eat before, others won’t. I’m still undecided about the time of day but we are looking at 6 or 7 for the ceremony with reception to follow immediately. Only about a 20 or 25 minutes ceremony 🙂
If it is dinner, it will be buffet with one main course – if apps, they will not be hand passed. Either way, we are doing a seating chart (which I know is more “dinner” esque)
As a guest, which would you prefer out of the poll options?
EDIT: We live in a high traffic area and the venue is about an hour north of the city areas. Someone getting off at 5 pm either way is going to be hard pressed to make it there on time for either time frame, unfortunately. I’m also open to going a bit later, say 8 pm, with appetizers beign the only option.
Post # 3
I am doing a heavy appetizers ceremony, and while I am really excited and think it will be a ton of fun, a good one is not like a dinner reception. We are not doing full seating, or seating charts. Instead, we are spending a decent chunk of change to create more varied seating and a lounge style atmosphere. It really impacts the style of the event, IMO.
Post # 4
how far from peoples homes is the wedding? if they have a drive i’d say start at 7 so off at 5 home to change and on time for the wedding!
Post # 5
The wedding is in Marysville? I think you could start at 7PM without a problem, that would give people a chance to leave Seattle and Everett and head up to be there by 7PM. It’s a wedding, people should plan to leave work early to accommodate for that.
Are you serving drinks? If so I think dinner would be a better option as people will take the time to eat (especially if apps aren’t going to be passed). As a guest attending a Friday night wedding, I think dinner is the way to go (unless you are able to do the apps passed). Good luck!
Post # 6
I’m having a Friday wedding and going full cocktail hour and dinner to follow I don’t think it would be too much
Post # 7
@sadie – The wedding is in Arlington. I guess the reason I’m so worried about it is that we live in Marysville and we have a hard time getting people who are any further south than Everett to come visit us. It’s always “well can we meet in between?” or “oh that is so far away!” – It’s really not, considering he and I live there and work in Seattle and Bellevue, repestcively. Now granted, yes it IS a wedding – but I’m actually concerned that people will arrive late due to traffic etc.
My first preference was 7:00 pm with a buffet dinner, so I think I will stick to that.
This is probably one of those moments where I’m overly concerned about people not being able to get off of work, etc… And if I were doing it during the day then I think that would be different. It’s night, is should be fine and be really fun.
Post # 8
People in Seattle have a very skewed sense of distance, owing to how densely laid out the city is, which is a great thing for the environment, but too bad for you living up in Marysville. I wouldn’t worry, though, about the “Oh that’s so far away” problem since it’s your wedding, which is a bit more of an important occasion than just coming up for a party.
Especially since you are having a seating chart and everything, I think people will be expecting a full dinner and will not eat beforehand regardless of what you serve. It seems to me that the most courteous thing to do for your guests is to provide them with a filling dinner after they brave rush hour to get to your wedding after a work day. (I voted to start your ceremony at 7pm.)
Post # 9
Thanks @LittlestBirds – I TOTALLY AGREE that people have a warped and skewed idea of distance. We chose Marysville and love it there – but I gotta say that hearing people who are CLOSE FRIENDS make comments like that just drives me insane. We drive into the “city” everyday and event for night time parties, etc and never complain because we chose to move to move there. And while I knwo it was our choice, it makes me sad when others act like we have completely put them out by doing so. (end rant on living in M-ville!)
What is nuts is the sit down dinner is actually the same cost as non-passed apps with our caterer, so in my head I’ve mentally been all about 7:00 pm / Dinner since day one. I’m letting people’s comments get in my head! 🙂
Post # 10
I think this is tricky and really depends on the style of food that you’re interested in.
We’re getting married on a Friday, but it’s New Year’s Eve, so most people will get off work earlier. We’re still not having the ceremony until 7PM though since it’ll last til after midnight and I just like later evening events. We’re doing heavy appetizers, but that’s more because we want the fun of finger foods! The plan is more to have more choices, especially more fun choices, than the standard buffet.
Our present plan is to do two tray passed appetizers during a social time (I don’t want to say hour, because it’ll be less than that) and then follow it with a heavy appetizer buffet. I want to throw that idea out there, that maybe you could do tray passed AND buffet!
I think that appetizers work better though with a more flexible seating arrangement though. Part of the reason we chose finger foods is so that people can walk around and mingle and aren’t stuck to the table with their fork and knife.
So I say: 7PM ceremony and do a buffet or else change your seating plans if you want a heavy appetizer buffet.
Post # 11
We’re starting at 6pm on a Friday, with dinner to follow, but it’s a full Catholic Mass so dinner isn’t until 8-8:30. I think that’ll be fine. Since many people will be driving up, I think they’d appreciate a dinner more than appetizers; it feels more formal and exciting for all that effort.
Post # 12
After reading the edit, I think you should opt for the later wedding with heavy apps. People will probably have something to eat on their way and it gives people more time to get there!