(Closed) Friday Night Wedding – dinner or heavy appetizers?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: As a guest, which would you prefer?
    6:00 p.m. - Dinner to follow : (6 votes)
    19 %
    6:00 p.m. - Heavy apps to follow : (1 votes)
    3 %
    7:00 p.m. - Dinner to follow : (14 votes)
    44 %
    7:00 p.m. - Heavy apps to follow : (5 votes)
    16 %
    8:00 p.m. - Guest have more time to arrive, Heavy apps : (6 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I am doing a heavy appetizers ceremony, and while I am really excited and think it will be a ton of fun, a good one is not like a dinner reception. We are not doing full seating, or seating charts. Instead, we are spending a decent chunk of change to create more varied seating and a lounge style atmosphere. It really impacts the style of the event, IMO.

    Post # 4
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    2249 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    how far from peoples homes is the wedding? if they have a drive i’d say start at 7 so off at 5 home to change and on time for the wedding!

    Post # 5
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    230 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    The wedding is in Marysville?  I think you could start at 7PM without a problem, that would give people a chance to leave Seattle and Everett and head up to be there by 7PM.  It’s a wedding, people should plan to leave work early to accommodate for that. 

    Are you serving drinks?  If so I think dinner would be a better option as people will take the time to eat (especially if apps aren’t going to be passed).  As a guest attending a Friday night wedding, I think dinner is the way to go (unless you are able to do the apps passed).  Good luck! 

    Post # 6
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    739 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m having a Friday wedding and going full cocktail hour and dinner to follow I don’t think it would be too much

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    People in Seattle have a very skewed sense of distance, owing to how densely laid out the city is, which is a great thing for the environment, but too bad for you living up in Marysville. I wouldn’t worry, though, about the “Oh that’s so far away” problem since it’s your wedding, which is a bit more of an important occasion than just coming up for a party.

    Especially since you are having a seating chart and everything, I think people will be expecting a full dinner and will not eat beforehand regardless of what you serve. It seems to me that the most courteous thing to do for your guests is to provide them with a filling dinner after they brave rush hour to get to your wedding after a work day. (I voted to start your ceremony at 7pm.)

    Post # 10
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I think this is tricky and really depends on the style of food that you’re interested in.

    We’re getting married on a Friday, but it’s New Year’s Eve, so most people will get off work earlier. We’re still not having the ceremony until 7PM though since it’ll last til after midnight and I just like later evening events. We’re doing heavy appetizers, but that’s more because we want the fun of finger foods! The plan is more to have more choices, especially more fun choices, than the standard buffet.

    Our present plan is to do two tray passed appetizers during a social time (I don’t want to say hour, because it’ll be less than that) and then follow it with a heavy appetizer buffet. I want to throw that idea out there, that maybe you could do tray passed AND buffet!

    I think that appetizers work better though with a more flexible seating arrangement though. Part of the reason we chose finger foods is so that people can walk around and mingle and aren’t stuck to the table with their fork and knife.

    So I say: 7PM ceremony and do a buffet or else change your seating plans if you want a heavy appetizer buffet.

    Post # 11
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    306 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We’re starting at 6pm on a Friday, with dinner to follow, but it’s a full Catholic Mass so dinner isn’t until 8-8:30. I think that’ll be fine. Since many people will be driving up, I think they’d appreciate a dinner more than appetizers; it feels more formal and exciting for all that effort.

    Post # 12
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    Bee Keeper

    After reading the edit, I think you should opt for the later wedding with heavy apps.  People will probably have something to eat on their way and it gives people more time to get there!

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