Post # 1
While trying to figure out how to cut venue costs, we looked into having it on a Friday night. It seems that we will be doing it ourselves without a venue now, so we can feasibly have it any time we want. But the idea is now in my head that July 22, 2011 would be a good idea. It is our dating anniversary, and he proposed on 7.22.09 so it would be a neat tie-in. Two of my BMs were excited at the prospect because they work rotating weekends and it would mean having to request less time off or something they said. . But then I got to thinking it might make other people take more time off! It would be in the evening, of course, but tell me, bees, would it be an inconvenience or is it not a big deal?
Edited in to add that most guests are local to 45 minutes away.
Post # 3
It all depends on how many guests have to travel. If most/all of your guests are local it’s totally fine. If I had to fly or drive a long way I probably would not attend a Friday night wedding unless it was a really god friend or family member.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
It really all depends. We’re having a Friday wedding, and will probably lose a lot of our guests because of it (many of our guests have to travel). But, for us, it was the only feasible option. If you have a lot of OOT guests and it doesn’t make too much of a difference if it’s Fri or Sat, I’d go with Saturday, just because it’s easier on most of the guests.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant
I think a lot of it depends on how local most of your guests are. It’s a bit harder to do a Friday night wedding if people have to fly in–they’ll probably want to schedule plenty of time in case of delays and such. If everyone is pretty local though, it sounds like it’d be a great option! It sounds special to the both of you and it’s a great way to save some $$! Ultimately, it’s your decision though so I say go for what you want!
Post # 6
I went to my first Friday night wedding last summer and at first I was really turned off by the idea, but now I love it. The wedding was so much fun and then we had all day Saturday to hang out with family and friends and bbq. It was relaxing and kind of a mini vacation. I say go for it!
Post # 7
Thanks, ladies! I added to the original post that most guests are close. I hadn’t even thought of that because of how few are really travelling.
Post # 8
I almost had a Friday night wedding, but my high maintenence groom was against it for no clear reason. Most of our guests are coming in during the day Friday so it would be a big deal. I have a coworker who loved getting married on Friday because it allowed them more time with their guests and their guests had more time to enjoy the location both Sat and Sun. I think if could could get married on your date-aversary that’s pretty ideal! I say go for it, people who want to attend your wedding will make it on whichever day you pick 🙂
Post # 9
Friday night weddings can be a little bit of a headache for guests. When I go to a Friday night wedding, I have to take the day off or at least a half day in order to get ready. As a guest Saturday night is much easier, but I do understand that in some cases that a Friday night wedding is better for the bride and groom. Also traffic on a Friday night during rush hour can be brutal. My FSIL’s wedding started over an hour late because the groom’s mother was in the limo and stuck in traffic. This caused them to lose an hour at the reception. Just something to think about. One other thing to think of is for people with children a lot might have to miss the ceremony because they will have to wait for their babysitters who may work.
Post # 10
I don’t mind Friday weddings, and I ALWAYS! have to travel 🙂
Post # 11
If I live close by, I would actually prefer a Friday night wedding. Then I have the rest of my weekend to do things I actually like/choose to do (not that I don’t like weddings, but I like not having plans on Saturday/Sunday to go away on a whim if I want, and attending a wedding is more like something you “have” to do).
If I live more than one hour away and the wedding is very early in the evening, I might not come, though… You need to let your guests have enough time to get ready…
Post # 12
I totally get why people do Friday night weddings. Although if I found out it was *just* to have a certain date I might be slightly annoyed… but if I always assume its to cut costs and that is 100% cool with me. Now, that doesn’t mean I’ll definitely go. If I couldn’t take a half day or a full day depending on where it was, I might not be able to. But I wouldn’t be upset. And for the most part if it was a family member or a good friend I would make every effort to be there.
Post # 13
@roxy821: lol at traffic. The saying around here is that a traffic jam is five cars stuck behind a tractor…
@egb: Getting ready time was the other thing I was thinking about. Since it’s outdoors and July, having a later ceremony would actually make the best sense. But then I worry people will be starving till it’s time to eat. I was thinking we could do bridal party/formal pictures before the ceremony so there won’t be a gap.
Post # 14
@Amaryllis: Friday night weddings can be fun if you take a couple of precautions.
You already noted that your guests are fairly local. That’s a good start!
This past Friday, I attended a wedding in which the ceremony began at 6:00. That was a pain because I get off work at 5:00. Can you say “Friday rush hour?” If the ceremony had been at 7:00 or 7:30, I’d have had no issue at all with it.
As for being a guest, I wore a dress with a cardigan to work that day and pack some hairspray, makeup and heels. After work, I took off the cardigan, put on the heels, fixed up my makeup and touched up my hair with hairspray, and I was good to go! So your guests don’t really need all day to get ready. 🙂
Friday weddings save a TON of money, and if the date is so special to you and your FI, I think you should do it! 🙂
Post # 15
Friday night wedding. Im totally cool with it.. because if i get invited to a wedding, i make sure with hell or highwater that i make an absolute definite to get there. Thats just me tho. I even had to take the day before to get to one wedding to travel (i lived 4hrs drive away) as long as you give people plenty of notice its great!
Post # 16
Pics beforehand is a very good idea. Or, as I’ve seen many times, you can have some food for the guests that serve as appetizers while you take your pictures, it helps not to starve before dinner… as long as it’s not too late by then.
Unless you want to have a less formal affair, have the ceremony later (like, 7:30-8:00 ish) in the evening, and it’s mostly a dessert/dancing reception. I’d find that pretty cool.