Post # 1
So I have always been against having a Friday night wedding. Whenever I have to go to one I complain a little because I usually have to take a half day of work or even a whole day if I have to travel to get there and in the begining of my planning I said I would never do this. Well now that I have looked all over for my reception location and finally found one that FH and I both love – we may do it on Friday night. The price difference is extremely significant, like $5-6 thousand! We haven’t signed a contract yet because I am still not sure about the Friday night. Have any of you had Friday weddings? What time did you start the ceremony (at a church not at reception location)? And did you feel guilty about asking your guests to come from work or to take off work to come??
Post # 3
I’m not having one but my fiance’s cousin just did. She had a ceremony in the park, not a church but she started at 7pm. Some people took off if they had to travel, some came from work. If it saves you that much I say go for it! People will understand and I wouldn’t be bothered by it personally.
Post # 4
Having to travel often – this makes things very difficult for guests. I understand the appeal and if that is what you want – go for it…. I just know as a guest to many Friday night weddings – it is hard, but I always make it for my friends and family.
Post # 5
I got married on a Friday night at 6pm. My daughter got married in May on a Friday at 5:30. Mine was in a church, but hers was on the beach.
I didn’t feel guilty at all. People that want to be there will come, no matter when it is.
Post # 6
I think its perfectly fine! People are doing Friday and Sunday weddings now and its not a big deal! Do what works best for you – the people that are most important will be there no matter what!
Post # 7
Friday night weddings are becoming really common, I dont see anything wrong with it. We’re actually considering getting married on a friday night too.
Post # 8
We’re doing a Friday night wedding, so I might be biased! I don’t have a problem with it, and actually as a guest, I also might prefer it–it gives you two days to recover, and it doesn’t take up your entire weekend. Someone with a very rigid work schedule or from out of town might have an issue with it, so I guess it depends on your guests.
Post # 9
I will add that I am getting married on a Sunday evening. We wanted a small wedding but even out of the 30 people that are invited nobody has had an issue with it. People haven’t said a word to us about taking off Monday from work being a hassle(the wedding is about 3 hours from most people, less for a couple and a lot more for a few others that would have to travel anyway).
Post # 10
I am invited as a guest to a Friday wedding next spring… and it’s at 4pm for the ceremony… a 2hr drive away! So I’m not a huge fan of that, since Fiance and me don’t get paid vacation time, and have to take the whole day instead of just a couple of hours… it’s very frustrating as a guest, in my opinion, especially for those on a very fixed budget. But to each their own, do what works for you!
Post # 11
I’m always going to say do what you want and this is no exception. I don’t see why there’s a problem with Friday weddings.
Post # 12
Im having a Friday wedding to cut down on costs, besides, we really wanted it to be fairly intimate. We’re having a small wedding with just family and select family friends invited — people who would really make the time for us! 🙂
Post # 13
I felt the same at first too. I didn’t want to have a wedding unless it was on a Saturday night. But, like you, I saw the price difference and weighed the pros and cons. We ended up going with the Friday date. The whole engagement I flip flopped between being glad we saved money and being convinced no one would show up. In the end though, it worked out great. I’m really glad we did it. First off, we sent save-the-dates early so everyone had a heads up to take off the day or request a half day or whatever. And every single important person was there. No complaints.
Post # 14
Thanks everyone! Having some reasurance helps in making the decision. The fartherst anyone is traveling from is about an hour and a half and I figure the people closest to me that want to be there will be there. I will be sending the Save-The-Date Cards early enough for them to make the arrangements if they have to.
We fell in love with the venue but the Saturday price was lingering a bit over our budget but the Friday price is just right so I think we may be going for it.
Post # 15
I know! The price difference can buy you a REALLY nice dress, or at the least, save some money for the house!! I say go for it.
Post # 16
I have never had a problem with a Friday night wedding. I think it’s absolutely worth saving the money if that’s what works best for you!