Post # 1
Buzz Buzz little Bees,
My Fiance and I are considering having a Friday or Sunday wedding to stay in our budget but are concerned this might deter a lot of our out of state family from attending.
He thinks Friday is better and I think Sunday is better. I would love to hear your take on the subject. Have you attended a Friday or Sunday wedding? Was it an inconvience? Have you had to rsvp no to a Friday or Sunday wedding because the day didn’t fit your schedule?
We are in the VERY early stages of planning a wedding 14 months away and looking for added opinions.
Thank you 💕
Post # 2
thatgirlelle : So many variables–would the Sunday wedding be morning/afternoon or evening? What time would the Friday wedding commence?
For guests driving more than two hours or who have to get on a plane to attend your wedding both Friday and Sunday will be very inconvenient for anyone who doesn’t get much time off work or has children in school.
Yes, I have declined wedding invitations that were not workable re: work and family schedules. You know your guests best–how many are out of town? How many have challenging work schedules or children to accommodate?
In my experience when a Saturday wedding isn’t possible, a late Friday wedding (6:30 ceremony or later) or an early Sunday wedding (brunch/lunch) are best for most guests.
Post # 3
beethree : the times of they events are up in the air still. I think your advice on a Friday evening or morning/midday Sunday is definitely ideal. We have about 20 family members coming from out of town. But they are the types to stay a few days before and a few days after.
Post # 4
thatgirlelle : I definitely would prefer the Friday evening. I was told once, here on the Bee, most everyone who will want to come, will be there either way. There will be a couple of people who will use your day as an excuse, but a very small amount.
Post # 5
It depends on the kind of vibe you and your fiance want for your reception. If you envision a high energy dance party with drinks flowing you should choose friday night. If you are looking for a more low-key lunch and mingling vibe go for a mid-day sunday wedding. If you choose friday, start your ceremony after 5, people will be coming from work. And if you go with Sunday, expect that people will likely leave by 6 or 7 to prepare for work the next day.
Post # 6
How out of town are we talking about here?
I like the idea of a Sunday brunch wedding. If your guests are traveling from out of town, they could theoretically come on Friday night or Saturday morning, enjoy the wedding and leave Sunday night to avoid missing work.
Friday night weddings might seem a bit rushed, unless the guests are willing to take a day off work to fly Friday morning. In that case, Sunday night weddings would be the same since they have to take Monday off to travel back home.
Post # 7
How far out of town are you talking?
We live seven hours from our family and would likely prefer a Sunday wedding. We would be able to drive in Sunday and only take one day off to drive back.
While we could theoretically leave after work on Thursday, we both hate driving until after midnight so we would likely take take at least a half day. I’m very stingy with my vacation hours so I always prefer the situation that requires less of them.
Post # 8
Unless we were very close, I probably would decline the invitation. Both are pretty inconvenient for travel. In my situation, Darling Husband has a hard time getting days off so we probably wouldn’t want to burn a day unless it was for someone we’re very close to.
Post # 9
thatgirlelle : your thread title says Saturday…(which is of course the best option). I guess I’d prefer Friday, because at least then I’d still party and enjoy the wedding. On a Sunday (night) id be thinking of staying sober and wouldn’t be as much fun.
Post # 10
Friday. I much prefer Friday to a Sunday wedding. Sundays are my relax before work day. I do a lot on Sundays and prefer not to have an event. I decline most Sunday events.
Post # 11
I know someone who was invited to a Friday evening wedding, that was 2 hours away. Wife and husband had to each take a full day off work and pay for a hotel room. The couple may have saved money, by hosting their wedding on a Friday night, but I’m sure the cost to the guests, in time off and hotel rooms was many times their savings.
Post # 12
I personally prefer Sunday brunch (as long as it’s not during football season). If I’m within about 2-3 hours driving distance, that gives me a chance to drive home without needing a hotel room. Plus, I just generally am not big on drinking and dancing much (or rather the last few weddings I’ve been to have had super crappy DJ’s and or played music not conducive to dancing and had cash bars (ugh), so if you’re not spending good money to have an awesome DJ then I would rather have breakfast food and a leisurely Sunday get-together and get home at a decent time than having to leave work early and get home super late and possibly be hung-over Saturday).
Post # 13
At the moment we’re planning on having our wedding Sunday night, over a Friday (with no public holiday on Monday); 3pm ceremony aiming to end reception by 10.30pm. The Saturday we wanted wasn’t available, and would have sent us over budget.
We decided on the Sunday mostly because the venue is roughly an hour’s drive for most people, so Friday isn’t viable for an afternoon ceremony/one where there’s still light, without people taking time off work. Further for some people, taking time off just isn’t possible, e.g. one of our teacher friends has said she definitely won’t be able to get the day off. We want as many of our friends and family to attend, hence we’re going with Sunday. (On this note I’m surprised the poll is so skewed towards Friday lol.)
So it depends on whether the people you want to attend the most would be able to get time off on the Friday, and if you want a ceremony conducted where there is still daylight/during working hours or after working hours. For your out of town guests they likely will have to take a day off either way to travel in, unless you have a Sunday brunch where they could jet out after; so that’s something to keep in mind too.
Personally as a guest I would prefer the Sunday, in case I wasn’t able to take the Friday off. Even if I really wanted to, there are just some work situations you can’t negotiate getting time off for. But I’d contact the people you want most at your wedding (and can’t see the day without) and see if one is better over the other; that might help you decide, as it did for us 🙂
Post # 14
catskillsinjune : omg I must subconsciously be dreaming of a Saturday wedding 😂😂 it was meant to say Sunday! Oops!
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
As a guest I would prefer Sunday. I’m really not in the mood to do much after work except shower, eat and channel surf or read. 😏 Also prefer not to take off work early. Early Sunday would be preferable but it depends on your options and guest list. Ours was going to be late morning/early afternoon Sunday but we’re almost certain it’ll change to 330-830 pm with the new venue. Brunch wasn’t an option with this place but that would have been our preference. Just be understanding if people leave early or prefer to decline due to the time. 😊