Post # 1
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Busy bee
Bees! Im in quite the dilemma. Due to budget, Fiance and I are choosing to do either a Friday night ceremony/reception, or a Sunday night ceremony/reception but we literally cant decide which one would be better!!! Help!
Some info:
-The wedding is in late October of next year and the only evening time the venue allows is 6pm-midnight.
-Both days are the same price.
-The majority of FI’s fam is from Ohio and will be coming down for the wedding (so Friday makes sense in this case).
-However, the majority of our friends dont have “real, corporate, career-type” jobs so being to work early on a Monday wouldnt really matter (thanks sh*tty economy!).
-I like the idea of Sunday but dont like that fact that people might leave waaaay earlier than 11pm, and that the weekend would be over so fast, but Friday just seems like a strange day to get married on (I dont know why I just feel that way lol no offense, but Im open to it!)
I added a poll, if you could pick the day and give me the reason that would be super! Thanks girls!
Post # 3
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Busy bee
Friday still gives people the time to “recover.” if even some of your guests have a traditional job. Also, that is a long way to travel home on a Sunday.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
There is a tradition in my very conservative Christian family to get married on a Friday night so that you can sleep in on Saturday and be fresh for church on Sunday.
Personally, I think that if you are worried about your reception ending early, get married on a Friday so that people/out of town guests don”t have to worry about being up and gone on Monday.
Just don’t have your ceremony during the day on Friday!
Post # 5
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Helper bee
I voted Friday. Your out of townies will have to skip a work day whichever day you pick, so that doesn’t seem like an issue.
But Friday just seems more fun to party late on. I think most people will want to party on a Friday at the END of a work week than the night before one. People will be more relaxed on not dreading Monday morning.
Post # 6
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Worker bee
I am having a destination wedding, my wedding is on a Sunday evening. Everyone coming has to travel home the next day anyway and some people are making a vacation out of it. Anyone who wants to come to your wedding and really wants to be there to celebrate with you will be there regardless. I work for a Drs office and my manager is telling the Dr who works on Monday that there will be no staff the day after my wedding cause everyone is going to come, so he has to take the day off too lol..
No matter what you choose it will be fine. My friend got married on a Friday in June and i had to take off that Friday anyway cause there was no way i was making it home from work in time to get ready and get there.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
@Rocketdog: “But Friday just seems more fun to party late on.”
I completley agree! As a guest, I much rather let loose and have fun on a Friday night than on a Sunday night.
As a fellow bride, I am getting married on a Friday (11.11.11). I’ve also been a guest at an out-of-town wedding on a Friday and had no problem getting out of work early on Friday, or maybe I took the day off, I can’t remember.
Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
Based on what you have written, I went with Friday. Friday gives the majority of the guests more time to enjoy a full weedkend off from work, so they might stay longer. Sunday, they may have to take Monday off, especially if they are travelling.
Post # 9
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Wannabee
I am going to be getting married on a Friday and we had considered Sunday, but you have to think about your guests and I agree with everyone else that it is easier for them to stay out late on friday.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
I’m getting married on a Sunday but considering your circumstances, Friday would probably be better for you.
Post # 11
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Helper bee
We went with a Friday, and it was great. We left for our honeymoon on Monday, and had a couple of days to veg out (and pack) before we left.
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
Friday evening weddings are not always cheaper. If Sunday works out better for you and your guests, then do that. If you have a fun party, no one will be inclinced to leave early.
Post # 13
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Blushing bee
I was going to vote for Sunday, except after reading your circumstances, I definitely say Friday. I think if you’ll be having a lot of important out of town guests, its better to be able to accomodate them so they can party with you. And besides, October next year is far enough away that maybe (hopefully!) your friends will have better jobs 🙂
Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
personally, i think as a guest i’d rather go to a sunday wedding, especially if i was coming from out of town. unless you’re flying very far distances, you can almost always get an early flight monday morning, and then go straight to the office. but to go to a friday wedding, i’d assume i had to get in by at least mid afternoon to have time to change and get ready, so i’d have to take a whole day off. i would think of it as the difference between a full day or a half day off, and i’d be more hesitant to take that whole day. plus, if you have a bridal party, they’ll need to take even more time off for a friday wedding if you have a rehearsal beforehand. and if i was an in-town guest, i would still probably have to take time off to be ready by 6pm.
our wedding ended at 12:30 on a saturday, and a lot of the older family/family friends or people with kids left earlier anyways, so i’m really not sure from my experience how much difference the day of the week makes on people staying til the end.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
I’d rather go to a Friday evening wedding. On Sundays, all I tend to think about (on and off) is how I have to work/go to school Monday, which is kind of depressing. Also, if you’re going til midnight, people might skip out early if they can’t/don’t want to take off Monday.
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
I voted for Friday!! But I’m biased… I love Friday night weddings, and my Fiance & I are getting married on a Friday night. 🙂
