Post # 16
catskillsinjune : just curious, if you can take half a day for a friday wedding, why can’t you also take half a day for a sunday wedding, why do you have to take all of monday off? hungover, got home late, just go in late.
OP, it really depends on how local everyone is. if a local wedding, i’d rather attend a friday wedding. if out of town, i’d expect i would take one day off, so it wouldn’t matter which.
Post # 17
ajillity81 : seriously? most workplaces have very different perceptions of fridays and mondays – coming in late on monday is not the same as leaving early on a friday. lots of people avoid scheduling friday afternoon meetings, for instance, while monday morning meetings are much more common. plus, from a productivity perspective, it’s totally different to leave early (and sober) on a friday than it is to come in hungover on a monday.
i don’t know about you, but these days my hangovers (which are rare) aren’t the kind of thing i just bounce back from a couple hours later. i’m DONE the next day. so showing up late to work on monday with a hangover? not really.
plus, there’s a major difference in the travel involved. i might have to leave work two hours early on a friday to get to a OP’s wedding. but if i stay there sunday night (because i was drinking), then monday morning is not just dealing with a hangover, but also dealing with traveling back home – this always takes extra time. in other words, it’s always more onerous and more time off work needed on a monday than a friday.
the wedding i recently went to was particularly shitty as it was on the west coast and everyone lived on the east coast. because of the time difference, it would have been MUCH easier for everyone to get toa friday wedding and only take off half a day, while it was IMPOSSIBLE to get a flight back to the east coast in time to get to work on time on monday. literally, the only flights to do so departed during the reception.
Post # 18
Friday night! I have been to both Friday and Sunday weddings and have found that Sunday weddings are super rough. Going to a wedding on a sunday and then needing to take the next day off sucks. For Friday Weddings, atleast you have the weekend to recover. I would only suggest a Sunday brunch/early afternoon wedding or a Friday night wedding. Good luck!
Post # 19
Friday night. But I’m biased because my wedding was on a Friday night 😉 The beginning of the weekend just seems to have a better vibe than the end of the weekend, though, and Fridays tend to be easier for people to leave work early.
Post # 20
ajillity81 : If guests have children there is also a huge difference in acquiring child care for a Friday night vs Sunday night and no fun dealing with early Monday morning kids-to-school even if one can get the morning off from work.
When you are a host you have to consider from the perspectives of all of your guests, not just your own.
Post # 21
Neither is ideal, because realistically people WILL have to take time off for either. But I would choose Friday night over Sunday night if a 1-2 hour drive is involved. I rather take a Friday off, drive there mid afternoon at my leisure, take Saturday and Sunday to recover from any hangovers, and back to work fresh on Monday. If it’s sunday night, for starters there’s going to be a 1-2 hour drive after, on a Sunday night, whether drinking or not, that’s tiring. So it’s likely that Monday is a write off anyway. And even if I take Monday off, it’s only one day to recover compared to two days if the wedding was on a Friday night.
I think for most people taking a Friday off or half of Friday off is much more palatable than a Monday off.
Post # 22
Both are inconvenient. Friday night requires me to take extra time off work, but a Sunday night wedding means I have to leave early, be exhausted at work the next day, or take Monday off.
Personally, I’d rather save more and have a Saturday wedding than inconvenience all of my guests.
Post # 23
With a 1-2 hour drive, neither is great.
That being said, I would prefer a Friday night wedding (starting after 7) as I could use some flex time to leave a couple hours early. With a Sunday night wedding I would likely end up taking all of Monday off.
What is the cost difference between a Saturday and Friday/Sunday?
Post # 24
I went with Friday night the only difference was Saturday had a hire food minimum and we would probably have no problem meting but that’s if everyone comes and we didn’t want to cut it close. The other reason I went with Friday is, I’m getting married in a destination area even though it’s not a destination wedding so we figured people would be able to stay and enjoy the weekend there if they want to. We also figured it wouldn’t matter a lot of people will have to pull theirs kids out of school either way and some are driving down for the weekend. If people want to go they will make it work. Do you have a personal preference are you hoping people stick around all weekend or are you try to make it more convenient. Room rates are normally around the same for either Friday and Saturday. Ultimately do what you can afford if You can only do Friday or Sunday because it’s cheaper do that. With weddings being so crazy expensive and just going up and up in price each year Friday or Sunday weddings are becoming more common.
Post # 25
I went with Friday night the only difference was Saturday had a higher food minimum and we would probably have no problem meting but that’s if everyone comes and we didn’t want to cut it close. The other reason I went with Friday is, I’m getting married in a destination area even though it’s not a destination wedding we figured people would be able to stay and enjoy the weekend there if they want to. We also figured it wouldn’t matter a lot of people will have to pull theirs kids out of school either way and some are driving down for the weekend. If people want to go they will make it work. Do you have a personal preference are you hoping people stick around all weekend or are you try to make it more convenient. Room rates are normally around the same for either Friday and Saturday. Ultimately do what you can afford if You can only do Friday or Sunday because it’s cheaper do that. With weddings being so crazy expensive and just going up and up in price each year Friday or Sunday weddings are becoming more common.
Post # 26
I used to hate Friday weddings, but after being to a couple, I actually prefer them over Saturdays! I can take a couple of hours off on Friday arvo or the whole of friday depending on travel (which already puts me in a good mood) go to the wedding and then have the rest of the weekend to either sight see if not local, or do my usual chores and hangover recovery over a full weekend. My vote is definitely Friday over Sunday, just make sure your bridesmaids and other VIPs are all good.
Post # 27
I would go for Friday night. Sundays are a drag. Many guests would be thinking about work the next day and you may find the wedding won’t be as fun as you would have hoped.
Post # 28
We got married on a Friday lunch time and had a wedding of about 100 people. Only 1 person couldn’t come because of work. She is a teacher so couldn’t get the day off (even though it was the last day of term) Instead she left work at 3:30 and came to the evening do.
Everyone else was able to attend and they only had about 7 months notice of the date. But then in the UK we get a lot more annual leave and taking the odd day off is not seen as a big deal.
Post # 29
catskillsinjune : yes, seriously. your post made it sound like like people only needed to take off a few hours for a friday wedding but needed to take off an entire day on monday for a sunday wedding. i was just pointing out that it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. i’ve come into work late on mondays during the time i was cycling for IVF (and they didn’t know what i was doing). my workplace is very flexible. as long as a person doesn’t make a habit of always calling in hungover/late, i don’t see a problem with it. it would be a problem for someone who doesn’t have flexibility, but then maybe they don’t for a friday either.
beethree : i get it, i have 2 little ones. but not everyone has kids. again, i was just pointing out that is doesn’t have to be all or nothing.
as i said in my post above, i certainly would prefer a friday wedding over a sunday wedding.
Post # 30
This has been such a great help! You guys brought up a lot of points I haven’t even thought about. Looks like a late Friday wedding is our best option if we can’t swing a Saturday. I think ideally we are going to try for Sat after reading all the comments to try to make things as easy as possible. Thanks again!