Post # 1
My fiance and I have our hearts set on the Byron Colby Barn for our wedding and also decided we want to get married in the Fall of 2011. Only problem is – their booked every Saturday in October and November. We’re not against a Friday or Sunday wedding – but i have a few reservations with each.
With a friday wedding I’m afraid that our ceremony (which will be taking place outside) will be dark. (I looked up the sunset time for the friday date were considering at it’s 5:45pm – 6pm is the earliest start time we’d want)… ALSO with friday weddings im nervous about how pictures will work. We don’t want to do the “first look” we want to see each other the first time that day when im walking down the aisle.
With a Sunday wedding – i’m nervous about it running too late and people leaving early to get to bed for work on Monday. I’m also nervous about it starting too early and our Pastor not being able to officiate our ceremony because of his duties at our church.
Help please – any advice on tips on a Friday OR Sunday weddings will be helpful! Thanks in advance 🙂
Post # 3
I am getting married on in June 2011 on a friday afternoon. I think friday can be great on the budget, but a little stress for the guests that have jobs. Some guests may not be able to attend our ceremony.
Post # 4
Personally, I think people would be more likely to take off a friday to come to a late afternoon wedding, than stay late for a sunday night wedding. However, our wedding is sunday on a holiday weekend so we dont really run into that problem… either way, i think you have to do whats best for YOU and worry about your guests second
Post # 5
Considering the time of year and your feelings about a first look I’d say a Sunday wedding is your best option.
Post # 6
Considering all your feelings it sounds like a Sunday wedding would be a better fit for you. As far as guests go, though, I think they’d love to take a Friday off or work at least half a day to go to your wedding. But, I’m sure if they could take a Friday off, then maybe they could just as easily take a Monday off if they wanted to stay later.
Post # 7
I am not a fan of either (speaking as a guest)
But in my opinion I would go with Sunday rather than Friday.
Friday wedding means you have to force your guests to take a day off work, or try to hurry in order to change, get ready etc. for your party.
If you choose to have it on Sunday – start earlier in a day around 3pm and end it 9pm
Guests will start leaving early anyways because everyone wants to get home at decant time and relax before going back to work on Monday.
That’s the unfortunate reality of it.
Post # 8
Here’s the things we thought of when we decided a Friday wedding was out (because all points were crucial to us). You can decide based on what your wedding includes:
Friday – 6 is an early start time for people getting off work. Anyone who works a 9-5 will have to come straight from work pretty much. I also live in Houston so it can take an hour to drive home from work. Also, FI’s whole family is coming to Houston from San Antonio which is a 3 hour drive. They would definitely have to all take off work Friday (which may not be possible for everyone). We would also have to have the rehearsal on Thursday so my out of town BMs and FIs parents would probably have to take off/leave early Thursday too. However, everyone can drink and sleep in the next day.
Sunday – everyone has work the next day. Out of town guests will have to drive home right after the wedding and may need to leave early. With that being said, no one will want to drink. Between work and potentially have to drive long distance, I wouldn’t touch alcohol. Having a fun wedding with alcohol was our biggest criteria for the reception so this wasn’t a possibility.
I hope this helps give you different possibilites and perspectives. There’s obviously benefits to both days (cost being a big one – always cheaper) but I figured I’d add some of the points we thought of.
Post # 9
A Sunday brunch or lunch wedding would be sweet. We’re having a Saturday brunch.
Post # 10
I voted for Friday, because, in general, I think people are more likely to take the afternoon off then to go in late on Friday. However, I see your concerns about sunset time in the fall. Sounds like you need to talk to your pastor first to see if he can do an early afternoon time. If you start at 4ish the party can be over by 10, which is probably early enough for most people. But, personally I would rather go to a Friday night wedding.
Post # 11
What about Friday, November 11? Then you can have it on a Friday, but at least some of your guests may have the day off work for Veteran’s Day/ Remembrance Day.