Post # 1
My fiance and I have our hearts set on the Byron Colby Barn for our wedding and also decided we want to get married in the Fall of 2011. Only problem is – their booked every Saturday in October and November. We’re not against a Friday or Sunday wedding – but i have a few reservations with each.
With a friday wedding I’m afraid that our ceremony (which will be taking place outside) will be dark. (I looked up the sunset time for the friday date were considering at it’s 5:45pm – 6pm is the earliest start time we’d want)… ALSO with friday weddings im nervous about how pictures will work. We don’t want to do the “first look” we want to see each other the first time that day when im walking down the aisle.
With a Sunday wedding – i’m nervous about it running too late and people leaving early to get to bed for work on Monday. I’m also nervous about it starting too early and our Pastor not being able to officiate our ceremony because of his duties at our church.
Help please – any advice on tips on a Friday OR Sunday weddings will be helpful! Thanks in advance 🙂
Post # 3
I would say sunday — as a guest I would not want to HAVE to take a day off of work to go to the wedding. On Sunday I wouldnt have to take any days off and just enjoy the wedding. I think thats your best bet — and as long as people party smart they wont need to leave early. 🙂 good luck!
Post # 4
If you do a late afternoon wedding on Sunday, you should be okay. People wouldn’t be out too late and worry about it disrupting their Monday morning routine, and most pastors will be finished with their duties by late morning/ early afternoon.
Post # 5
As a guest I’d prefer to do Friday night but I think you run the risk of people arriving late after work. The photos will be fine of an evening.
Sunday wont disrupt people’s work routines but people probably wont drink much and might leave early.
Post # 6
I’m getting married on a Sunday. I know a few people will leave early but closer people to us are booking the Monday off work.
Post # 7
Friday seems to be better since it’s a kick off to the weekend. Guests are more likely to let loose than if you had a Sunday wedding. Those who want to make it to the ceremony will do what they can to schedule to leave early from work, with enough advance notice.
Post # 8
My suggestion would be to try and get the Sunday of Columbus Day weekend. That way, you don’t have to worry about any of this. I am getting married on a Sunday, but its the Sunday right before July 4th and therefore, no one will likely have to work on the next day. Problem solved! Just my two cents!
Post # 9
I commented on one of the other threads but I would like to add that not everyone has Columbus Day off. I have a “real” corporate job and my office does not have Columbus Day off. Actually, most of my family and friends who also have “real” jobs don’t have the day off so if you’re planning for the Sunday of Columbus Day with the intention of making it easier on your guests because they’ll have Monday off, I would ask around and see if their jobs actually close on that Monday because alot of them don’t.
Post # 10
I’m having my wedding on a Friday. I think people will be more inclined to party on a Friday, as it’s the start of the weekend and I’d be worried that people won’t kick back and enjoy on a Sunday becuase they would be worred about getting up for work the next day. I’ve been a guest at both a Friday and a Sunday wedding and I’ve ended up taking off a day from work in either case. It probably depends on what works best for you and your guests.
@CaitMarae I’m with you on the Columbus Day thing, I only get off the “Major” Holidays too 🙂
Post # 11
I am getting married the Sunday before Labor day. I wanted to do a Sunday because I save about $1000 with my venue and I figured that the long holiday weekend would be perfect for that. No one has to worry about working/going to school the next day. Plus I don’t have to use a vacation day for that Monday. It all works out. And my anniversary will always be around a 3 day weekend which will be really nice.
I’ve never been to a Friday evening wedding but I think it would be hectic trying to get there on time with rush hour and having to change after work for the wedding. Sunday just sounds better to me, but to each bride her own. 🙂
Good Luck deciding on your special day.
Post # 12
I have the same problem, I am also trying to figure out what would be best a Friday or Sunday wedding. I decided on Sunday that way it would be easier to do the rehearsal and dinner the night before Saturday, instead of having to do it on Thursday which could conflict with some people’s work schedules or making them take off more work than they would need. Also, it people are coming from out of town have the wedding around 2 in the afternoon, it would leave them with plenty of time to enjoy themselves and depending on how far they live away make it back home.
Post # 13
Friday pros: no work on Sat.
Friday cons: have to leave work early -may not be possible
Sunday pros: no work for most
Sunday cons: work the next day (unless you do a holiday wkend)
Think about Labor Day Sunday or Columbus Day Sunday -I had friends do both! Most people won’t grumble about the holiday wkend, but get those invites out EARLY so people don’t make other plans.
Post # 14
Hello all. I’m having a Sunday June 12th wedding in Indiana. I’m from Trinidad where Sunday weddings are common, especially in Hindu, Muslim, and Seventh Day religions. I would say sun down in June is around 9:30pm and we have the venue till 10pm.
Out of 120 people invited, only 60 people RSVped. And, some of my fiance’s relatives downright complained about a Sunday wedding, yet they are having a family reunion the week after, on a Sunday. My point is: some people are just “dotish” and will say things about anytime of a wedding. People who want to be there, will be there to support you. I have attended Saturday weddings, where I left at 3am Sunday to catch a flight. I have attended Sunday weddings that went on and on, and I got up and went to work the next day. When you are an adult, you basically do what you have to do.
Have your wedding went you want it!!! If people want to ditch free food and drinks, oh WELL.
Post # 15
I’m having a Friday wedding and I have had such GOOD reactions when I told people. (Our venue only has weddings Friday and Sunday.) So many people told me they LOVE friday weddings because they still have the whole weekend. Since yours will be outdoors, that might be difficult if it’s dark, allthough having a ceremony with pretty lights illuminating the alter would be very romantic.