Post # 16
My wedding is on a sunday but its a long weekend so 99% of the guest have the monday off, If I was a guest a would much rather go to a sunday wedding over a friday wedding just because there would be to much of a time crunch for us to get ready, get kids to the sitter, ect but thats me no matter what day you have it on the important people will fine a way to make it work to be there for yous
Post # 17
Thats a tough decision. If you have it on Friday, you will have to expect some people can’t get off work to come to the ceremony and may not be able to come at all since it starts at 4. If you have it on Sunday, you will have to expect people will leave early and perhaps not enjoy themselves to the fullest (with drinking!) since they know they have to work the next day.
I know a lot of people have their weddings on Fridays to save money, but personally, I would just find a more affordable venue or cut the guest list and have it on Saturday. I’m all for saving money, but it really helps out guests to have it on a Saturday.
Post # 18
I’d say do it on Sunday since it has to start at 4 and end by 10. 4:00 on a Friday just seems too early for me to get everyone there. People will have to take at least a half day that Friday just to get there on time.
Post # 19
I would prefer the wedding to be on Sunday morning vs. Friday/Sunday evening. That’ll give me enough time to drive back from the venue without it being too late at night (or rushing to the wedding right after work). Also, I like brunches, so a brunch reception would be ideal.
However, if it’s a close friend or relative, then I will take a day off from work without any complaints. If it’s a wedding for just an acquaintance, then I will most likely not attend a Friday/Sunday evening wedding (if it’s out of the way –> more than 1 hr drive).
Post # 20
I voted for Sunday because I don’t think it’s right to ask all your guests to use vacation time on Friday afternoon just so that you can save money. But honestly, I don’t think Sunday is ideal for the kind of wedding you want (i.e., in the evening with dinner). Sunday weddings earlier in the day are great, but I definitely wouldn’t stay until 10pm on a Sunday night and then drive up to an hour back home.
If you think the cost savings are worth having lots of your guests leave early, then go for it. But personally I’d consider doing a Sunday daytime wedding instead, or else look for something more affordable on the Saturday.
Post # 21
If you are having it 4-10, I would definitely do Sunday. Ours is Friday but it is 6pm-2am. If yours was later, I’d say do Friday but it’s ore an afternoon event so I thi Sunday is perfect.
Post # 22
Ours is going to be at 430pm on a Friday down the shore. Our friends are drinkers and we wanted everyone to be able to drink, dance, and have a good time without worrying about work the next day. Plus a lot of our friends plan to make a weekend out of it.
I’m sure this will cause the declines to increase if people can’t leave work early, but I’m sure we will still have an amazing wedding.
Post # 23
We are having our wedding on a Sunday, but the following day is a holiday so guests already have the day off. Typically my family has a family reunion around this holiday and everyone seems to be on board since the wedding be like a first stop to the family reunion.
For us, it came down to a money issue. I don’t know about anyone else, but researching wedding venues showed me how much the reception can eat up a budget. Everyone wanted minimums for food and drink on Saturdays. Our venue didn’t have a minimum on Sunday or Friday and we are getting a discount as well.
I have been to both, I recommend for the Sunday event, keep it earlier in the day especially if people need to travel. Like I said we lucked out we have a holiday on the day after. I have been to a Friday weddings and some of the nicer ones were late nights and it turned into a weekend event.
Post # 24
We are having ours on Friday, and it’s the same time as yours OP, 4 – 10pm. We decided to do it on Friday BECAUSE almost everyone has to travel to get there ANYWAY (they would take Friday off if it was on Friday, and Monday off if it was on Sunday), and then we’re making the rest of the weekend into a fun family get-together. Since people would be traveling either way, we want them to have the rest of the weekend to hang out with us and/or travel back and get things done before work on Monday.
Post # 25
Ideally neither but, in your particular situation.. Sunday.
4pm on a Friday is just an inconvenience for most people who work.
Post # 26
I voted for Friday before I read your update. Since the ceremony must start at 4pm and the reception can’t last longer than 10pm, I’d do Sunday. If your wedding was able to start later and was going to last later in the evening I would say do a Friday, but in your case a Sunday will work better.
Post # 27
We’re planning a Sunday wedding due to cost. We live in NOVA outside of DC and a Fri wedding would be a challenge due to traffic. So – we think a Sun wedding would be best.
Post # 28
You may want to have your wedding later on that Friday because 4PM is a bit steep for many people.
The last wedding I went to was on a Friday and even though it was a bit hectic…I loved it! It was bothersome to me at first because I had to turn in all of my assignments early (I’m a student), rush to the nail salon, rush home and get dressed, not to mention do my hair which takes forever and then run to the wedding. I’m getting exhausted just typing that lol.
I have even decided that I want my wedding on a Friday, so go for it love!
Post # 29
Last year we went to a Friday wedding. We knew months before it was going to be a Friday weekend and about a two hour drive. So, we took off. It was at a bed and breakfast and everybody stayed there. It cost us a good penny. But totally worth it. Having a short work week. Bonus!
I was also her makeup artist. So we left pretty early in the morning to make sure we were there in time. So whenever she was ready for me. I was there to do my thing.
We are going to have a Friday wedding. We are not sure where yet. It will be about two to three hour drive. The date we wanted just needed up on a Friday. The ones that have to travel via airplane already know about this. ( Over a year to get their stuff together ) If our guest can not ask for one day off months ahead of time. Then I have no words. I want to have a weekend event. Friday the wedding. Saturday relax and play games with the guest that stayed at the house. Sunday we are kicking everybody out and having the place to ourselves.
Post # 30
I’m a bit peeved that one of my close friends is having her wedding on a Friday in early September. I’m a teacher and it is the last day of the first week of school and I have to duck out early from school. Not thrilled. I get that you can stay out and party, however I would much prefer a Sunday brunch wedding myself. People only get a certain amount of time off of work and frankly it’s a bit rude to expect them to do that for your wedding. I know people will take time off, however sometimes there are situations where people can’t get off work or can’t afford to take off work.