So my boss questions everything I do, that’s no secret. We’ve had issues before, but I am new to the company and it took a while to “catch on” to some of his ways. One of the issues I have is just his overall treatment of me and how he speaks to me, he loves to talk down to me or talk AT me. Whatever; I have worked in worse roles so NBD. He’s one of those “I’m the smartest person in the room and the rest of you are peasants” type of people.
Then he started highly, highly micromanaging my projects. To the point of literally taking a red pen to my projects and scratching through them, like a teacher would do a student. He’d come to my desk and make a big ceremony about handing me a red marked sheet of paper. To the point that other people in my dept have noticed his open.. hostility or aggression towards me. He micromanages my time a lot, as in; I get to work before 7am every day and stay well past 5 every evening and it still isn’t enough. I still have to get excessive permission to go to dr’s appts or take any time off. He likes to correct me in public, in front of my peers or those who report to me. It’s a constant stream of subtle undermining, When I found out I was pregnant last, that resulted in a CP, he needed to/wanted to know exactly where I was going when I was having betas drawn. It’s just little things building up over time more and more—to the point I actually reached out to HR to see about the possibility of changing departments and at least beginning to document some of our conversations.
Which is just backstory to earlier.
Today, we’re on a conference call with a vendor and we’re wrapping it up. There’s 5-6 people from our organization and about as many from the vendors on the call. I sent the meeting organizer an email earlier this week asking him if he’d help me coordinate the schedules of his people and I’d do the same for mine (I am a middle manager at a corporate office, FWIW), since we’re trying to get a training session together next week. Well on the call the vendor says to me, “I got your email but it asked for a ‘meeting maker’, is that the same as a calendar invite?”
To which I said, “yeah exactly, same thing! Just send something over to coordinate”
Well my boss jumps on that are starts chiming in YOU NEVER KNOW WITHF FROMATOZ… I NEVER KNOW WHAT SHE’S TALKING ABOUT… DONT FEEL BAD AT ALL! SHE SAYS THINGS ALL THE TIME THAT LEAVES ME CONFUSED AHAHAHA!” ugh ok…? That goes on for an uncomfortable 15-20 seconds with crickets in the background, no one really knows how to respond because he would not let it go!
I guess I assumed incorrectly that people understand when we’re talking about calendars and scheduling that a “meeting maker” is just a placeholder/ calendar invite/ whatever you want to fucking call it.
Just wanted to poll the Bees on it and see if I am totally off base! Looks by the poll results most people would also not know what I was referring to so maybe I AM in the minority on that specific phrase.