Post # 1
Hello everyone! This is my VERY FIRST post! I am already extrremely grateful for stumbling across this site! I am also obviously VERY excited… We are planning a Friday the 13th wedding which is how I found this site I was looking for reactions to Friday weddings in general and moreover Friday the 13th weddings.
My wish was granted… I see mostly positive responses to this. I don’t expect everyone to LOVE that it’s on a Friday, but I think ultimately the people who want to be there will be. Besides, I am not looking to have a HUGE wedding to begin with– like 50-75 people. I actually just visited my venue yesterday and it is PERFECT which was a HUGE relief… the chapel is beautiful… the reception area is smaller than it appeared on the website… but they have a pavillion adjacent to the main building that I can put additional seating and tables… so I think it will work and the price is right… so I think I can stop looking. When I showed my FH the pictures he felt the same way… and they said we can have kegs and customize the decorations in any way we choose… so with that kind of creative control I know I can make it BEAUTIFUL.
Ok so my questions or rather, what do you all think about these things:
1. The wedding is in April (spring) our colors are going to be black, red, and ivory..,. dominantly, black and ivory, but with splashes of red here and there… white and red roses, orchids, jasmine, casablanca lilies… lots of lace… I am actually debating on using black lace parasols and gloves for the bridesmaids… I want kind of a gothic victorian look…(But I don’t want it to look like halloween… it is a wedding… and I don’t want to offend the families…I want them to see that we take this seriously, but we have want it to be our own) my FH and I are both sleeved in tattoos… so we’re kind of not a traditional bride and groom to begin with.
2. My FH has a 7 year old son and we want to incorporate him into the service, we feel he is too old to be a ring bearer and we don’t think a candlelighter is a big enough role for him… suggestions?
3. How important is a first dance…? We don’t dance… but if it is something people will fuss about maybe we should start practicing… we have a year after all.
4. Has anyone heard anything about microdwarf.com I am getting mixed reviews… they have a no return/exchange policy…? Their website looks phenomenal, but I don’t want to be disappointed. They are about $250.00 a piece.
Ok that is all for now… thanks for you input and for reading my post 😀
Post # 3
Answer to #4: http://www.etsy.com
I got several items for our wedding there and loved each one. We got our cake topper made as well and it was only $50.00. $250 sounds waaay high. All of the items on etsy are handmade and I know I’ve seen caketoppers similar to that microdwarf site on there.
Post # 4
Welcome, and congrats!
Can you put your FH son in the wedding party? I’m not sure if there is an equivalent of Jr. Bridesmaid for the men. I also don’t know how old is too old for ring bearer. You could always have him stand up there with the two of you, and have your officiant recognize that you are becoming one family, etc.
I dunno. I think a first dance is sort of important… people expect to see it, too. If you really hate dancing, don’t do it though. Another idea- I have seen people dance together for 30 seconds or less, and then have the DJ announce that the other couples join you on the dance floor. That way, you aren’t singled out.
Post # 5
Awesome ideas… THANKS! It’s great how I get such quick responses!
I’m thinking the term is junior groomsman… and as I have been filtering through all the posts on here I see that is what most women in my situation do… Fh thinks he is a big boy and is too old to be a ring bearer… “he’s not a baby” LOL! so that’s fine. I just don’t want him to feel like he is under any pressure.
In response to the microdwarf comments… I keep getting the same response.. TOO EXPENSIVE and they aren’t good to do business with. So I am leaning away from them… I am DEFINITELY going to check out etsy.
The dancing thing honestly scares the hell out of me, but I think it is importatnt… I do like the idea of getting everyone else out there… that would take a lot of the stares off us… which wouldn’t be too bad… but I know we’re uncoordinated… in that respect, it could be dangerous to the other guests to have them come out and dance near us… maybe I need a written disclaimer… jk.
Post # 6
Hey there! I’m a 4-13-12 bride too!! Welcome :oD I just wanted to mention that the little “bobble head” cake topper from microdwarf.com can be seen on an episode of 4 weddings on TLC: The episode was in season 2 called chips & onion dip. The first bride, Karen had one on her cake and it looked super cute!! The brides photographer posted a slide show of her wedding photography on youtube and you can see the topper in it! Here’s the link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RvabS3FXzG4 scroll to 3:03 in and you’ll see a few shots of it. Hope this helps!!!
Post # 7
1 – The colours sound great! I would see that combo as being very elegant and totally gothic/Victorian. I am sort of thinknig of Scarlet O’Hara with that, but I hope I don’t offend you with that. Maybe if you are worried about too much black, do black dresses with white details and then the parisols and gloves can be red.
2 – For my eventual wedding, I reall want my nephews as part of the party but by the time it actually comes around, my oldest nephew will be a teen, probably. My solution? Jr. Groomsman because I also will have a Jr. Bridesmaid. I know it’s not traditional, but for me it evens out and I think it would be fine and look fine even if you don’t have a Jr. Bridesmaid because hey, it’s your wedding party, you can do what you want with it!
3- I have only ever been to weddings where there was a first dance, so I can’t say that I’ve been to one that hasn’t done it at all. However, the latest wedding I attended, their song was from Sailor Moon and they did the sawying, middle school type dance. I’ve seen videos where the bride and groom did like a flashmob and included the rest of the bridal party too for something unforgettable. I would not say it is nessecary at all, though.
4- Sorry, I have not heard of that website. It looks like they do a great job, but I would not be willing to spend $250 on a cake topper. Then again, I don’t think I would want a topper at all, so maybe that’s just me.
Good luck – sounds like an awesome wedding!