Post # 17
From another Friday night bride-to-be, I caught a TON of crap over our choosing a Friday (which we also did for financial reasons.) I assumed that we would get a lower turnout, but so far I’m getting 99% YES to my RSVPs. People complained for sure, but they got a Save the Date 5 months ago and most of them made the arrangements.
I think either way (Friday or Sunday) you will hear complaints or people will choose not to come. It’s all about the atmosphere you want. I agree that Friday tends to be more of a party and Sunday is more laid back.
Let us know when you choose!
Post # 18
We’re having a Sunday afternoon wedding. We aren’t huge party people so having a never ending nighttime party wasn’t a priority for us. We’re still having dinner at 5 and dancing after that like normal, but if someone is from out of town (the furthest from us is a 2 hr drive) then they can leave after some dancing and still be home by 10 to go to work the next day.
I’ve attended Friday weddings and they are just really stressful for me because you either have to take time off work or be in a huge rush to get home from work (in rush hour), get ready and then rush to the ceremony. I also think it’s more fair to the bridesmaids that they don’t have to take Friday off work to spend the day getting ready with you, if you have a Sunday wedding.
Post # 19
I’d prefer Friday night because then I’d have all weekend to recover and relax. If guests are coming from out of town, they’d have the weekend to explore the area.
Sundays are for recovering and/or gearing up for the work week.
You’re also looking at the difference between a night and day event. They each have a different feel to them so it’s really up to what you want to have your wedding be like.
Post # 20
K, guys! I’ve posted a poll so we’ll see how that goes. Thanks all for your input. It seems like everyone has vaild pro and con points for both. The majority of our guests are in town folk (most of the Out of Town people probably won’t come anyway.) I am really only worried about one or two Out of Town guests in particular, but both families are super close to me, so I figure they would be willing to make the sacrifice because they are awesomely amazing people like that.
Just some more details to help with the situation: We are not planning on having a party-style wedding. (Lots of family members are religious even though we aren’t so we are respecting their beliefs with no alcohol.) It’s going to be a small wedding. Only about 60 people coming. We are planning on doing it later in the evening on Friday if we choose that route: ceremony at 7 pm followed by reception immediately after until about 9:30 or 10. (which is when we have to be out of the venue anyway.) We live in a pretty small city so traffic isn’t really an issue for people who want to go home from work, eat dinner and get ready. (They won’t have to worry about driving around town really being a time issue.)
My biggest concern is having our wedding on a Friday however, and having members of our bridal party from Out of Town not be able to make the rehearsal. That could be bad….
But then again, I feel bad asking people to take a Monday off of work. Monday’s are tough work days to miss…
Post # 21
We had a Sunday wedding and people ended up taking Monday off (instead of Friday) so it worked out. We had a lot of Out of Town guests. Some flights even got delayed/cancelled so it was good they had more time rather than rushing for a Friday night wedding.
Post # 22
For a local wedding, I would attend either, no problem. For an out of town wedding though? Unless we’re super close, don’t expect me to be there for either. Sorry!
Have you considered a morning wedding with brunch reception? Saturday morning would be lovely!
Post # 23
Our wedding is going to be on a Sunday. We probably preferred Saturday but we got engaged 5 months ago and wanted a Fall wedding but didn’t want to wait until Fall 2011. Soooo Sunday and Fridays were our only options 5 months ago.
ANYWAY, I’m loving Sunday so far because we are planning the weekend to spend time with our Out of Town friends and family then the wedding will be the “grand finale” then we’ll jet off to our honeymoon Monday morning!
The ceremony will be at 2:30 with the reception at 4:00. We’re having beer and wine and ipod for music, so it will be fun but nothing CRAZY! I plan on dancing the whole time. 🙂
I CANT WAIT!!
Post # 24
Our wedding was on a Friday evening. Out of 160 invitations, 110 people attended. A few folks left early because our reception featured only light refreshments and cake (no alcohol) and apparently they could not concieve of a Friday night w/o alcohol. Didn’t bother us a bit!
Post # 25
mine is on sunday.. and i know it will be tricky but am sticking to the sunday and i think it will work better than a friday because we have the saturday before to prep the place
Post # 26
Ours was on Sunday. Guests came either Friday or Saturday. We had big group dinners Friday and Saturday and hung out with guests on Saturday morning. If we’d had a Friday wedding we would have seen out of towners at the wedding and on Saturday morning for breakfast. Rehearsal on Thursday would have been really awkward too.
Post # 27
I mostly voted Friday because I prefer evening events to afternoon events. And if was Sunday, I might try to get a flight/drive Sunday night and that would make everything much less fun.
Post # 28
I think that a Friday night would lend itself to a nice evening wedding, and if I were local it probably wouldn’t be a big deal to get to… As an out of town guest, I would probably rather have it be Friday with a plan of more casual celebrating Saturday, and possibly even Sunday morning. Whereas, I think Sunday afternoon, I would be planning to depart the event and go home.
Post # 29
Personally I’d rather attend a Friday wedding than a Sunday one. This way you have one day to recover and another to travel back home (if necessary). Sundays don’t leave you much time.
Post # 30
I suppose Friday, because of the whole weekend to recover thing.
I’ll be honest though, we went to an out-of-town wedding last Friday evening and I told The Guy I’m never going to another one. We both had to take a half day off work, and traffic was horrible, so the drive that’s normally two hours took 3+ and it was all very stressful and we were absolutely exhausted after having gotten up early/worked like crazy to be able to leave early.
Having said that, if you don’t have any out-of-town guests then go for it. I know the people who didn’t have to come from out of town thought it was great, because they just jumped onthe subway after work, went to the wedding and then still got to enjoy a full weekend.
Post # 31
We’re doing a Sunday wedding, so I may be a bit biased 😉
It will be so nice to have time on Friday & Saturday to tie up loose ends. Ceremony will be starting @ noon, w/ reception to start immediately after & going til 7pm. It’s not extremely late, and those that need to drive home (the longest is 2 hours) still have plenty of time to do so. We haven’t heard any complaints about it & it seems to work fine for everyone. Those that are flying in will have to take time off regardless, even if it was a Saturday event.
And although it is a Sunday, it will NOT stop us from partying. We are having an after-party that will go from 7:30/8-whenever.