Post # 32
Now that I’m planning a Sunday wedding and gotten into the details, it doesn’t seem like it will be much different from a Saturday wedding (most of our guests are local, so it’s not a big deal for them to stay out until nine or ten). As a bride, I actually like the idea of getting the wedding/reception done with earlier in the day–more time for other activities, and the possibility of getting to bed at a human hour! 😀
The thing that throws me off a Friday wedding is the local people having to get off work early, or go to work and then rush to get ready for a wedding. Stressful, and a long day. For people who are traveling, it doesn’t seem to make much of a difference if it’s Fri/Sun; if they want to go, they’ll take the time off one way or another.
Also, you should keep in mind that work schedules aren’t all Monday-Friday, 9-5. I work Thursday through Sunday, so no typical wedding day would work for me, haha!
Post # 33
I had a Friday wedding so I’m biased. We were in “special circumstances”, where my husband’s family decided to piggy back a family reunion onto whatever weekend was before the wedding, so they were all in town, and my whole family is local. We’re emergency services workers, so our friends all work crazy schedules.
I thought the Friday worked out pretty well.
Post # 34
You mentioned your plan for Friday would be evening/night event but what about Sunday? And where is the venue? Outside, or in a hotel? Would the ambiance of the venue sway you either direction? What would make for better photos?
Like others said, I think the feel of a Friday evening event is usually “PARTY” so without drinking, that could let some of the guests down (if even just supconsciously), where a sunday event the mentality may be more relaxing and quiet. However i know that when I attend Sunday events, I always feel like “I need to work tomorrow, so I need to make lunches, laundry, and get to bed early” and therefore not really relax and enjoy it as well.
For what it’s worth, I am in a Friday wedding next weekend which is Out of Town for the entire wedding party 9except B&G) and FH and I are taking Thursday off to drive up and do the rehearsal and dinner. It is working fine for 3 out of 4 of the wedding party, but just last week the best man said that he could not make it because his boss would not give him the day off work.
All that said, I think you need to consider all the other aspects of the wedding as well as the schedules of your guests. But do what YOU want! Don’t let anyone make your mind for you.
Post # 35
Here’s what I think:
If you’re going for a party type atmosphere (drinking, dancing, going late into the night type celebration), I think Friday is much better.
If you’re looking for a low-key afternoon type celebration (some drinking, mingling, probably little to no dancing, etc), I think Sunday works better than a Friday. This is what FH & I are doing, btw. It suits us much better than having a huge party.
Post # 36
I typically prefer Friday weddings, especially if they’re in the evening. That way I can take a half day & have Saturday to recover. For Sunday weddings I typically take Monday off to recover, which kind of sucks because it forces me to use a vacation day, and those are extremely valuable to me! Clearly, if it’s a friend or family member, I’ll happily go to both, but if I can not use a vacation day, then I am much happier!
Post # 37
Oh, and if you have a Friday wedding, that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to have the rehearsal on Thursday. My wedding is on Saturday, and I had my rehearsal this past weekend due to restrictions with my venue . . . It’s perfectly fine to do the rehearsal other days than the one before the wedding!
Post # 38
As someone who is usually exhausted after work on a Friday, I’d much prefer a Sunday wedding. Especially considering the size and feel of your wedding, I’d say Sunday is the way to go.
Post # 39
And this is partly in response to your question and partly in general, but I’d MUCH rather take a Monday off work than a Friday.
MONDAYS SUCK! Friday’s don’t. 🙂
Post # 40
I’m biased because I’m having a Sunday evening wedding. We picked it because it’s a destination wedding (anywhere from 1.5 hours away and up) for everyone so everyone would take one day off anyway and having friday afternoon and Monday to get everything in place seemed like a good idea.
Post # 41
I, too, was debating this. Two points were made to me by the venue coordinator and my mother …
1. Friday traffic is a nightmare (we are just outside of DC)
2. You might feel more obligated to entertain your Out of Town guests for the rest of the weekend if the wedding is Friday night.
Post # 42
I am a Friday bride! I pick fri vs sun because if you get in late you still have the rest of the weekend to relax etc. I am pretty lazy on Sundays I barely like to leave the house so I would dread having to go to work the day after a wedding.