Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2009 - The Marvimon House
hello! i’m megan marie. and i am new new new. and i need help!
oh, so many choices:
our venue is available for fridays, saturdays and sundays.
on a saturday, our venue is.. expensive.
on a friday or sunday the venue is $1000 less. on a friday or sunday with 75 people or less, its $2000 less. (this is just for venue rental, nothing else is included in price).
we originally put a hold on a saturday, but now i am thinking of switching it up to save some money, and be able to put that toward other things.. (a photobooth? a palm reader! the possibilities are endless!)
so i gues my question is… would a friday or sunday be preferable to guests? to you? it would be a 5:00 p.m. ceremony, followed by cocktail hour and dinner, reception and ceremony taking place at the same venue.
and another question.. if you have "interviewed" more than one vendor for the same service, what is the most polite way to tell the ones that you didn’t choose, "no, thank you"??? we have met with SO MANY wonderful people already, and once we choose a date we will have to choose some vendors, and i don’t know how to pick 🙁 its making me anxious. i wish i could have six photographers, three caterers and eight cake makers!!!
Post # 3
I like Friday weddings- I know it’s hard because some people have to take off work, etc., but it seems that Friday weddings leave the whole weekend to people at least, and also, people leave early on Sunday nights because of work Monday. I suppose if you’re having a luncheon or day wedding it might not matter, but if you’re having an evening reception, I say go with Friday!
It is hard to choose vendors- I say choose carefully because I’ve regretted some decisions I made along the way and it’s an expensive change of heart sometimes! As for telling them thanks but no thanks, we didn’t really even have to worry about that because most vendors are so busy booking things, that if they don’t hear back from you they usually just assume you’re not going with them.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2009 - Beach Social Hall
I think that Friday would be a better day for a 5pm wedding; that gives your guests the opportunity to enjoy themselves without worrying about work the next day (Monday morning). Best wishes 🙂
Post # 5
I’d say that this question is one that you are actually going to know the best answer to more than anyone on here, because only you know where your guests are coming from, how mobile they are, and who it is most important for you to have with you on your big day.
If most of the guest list VIPs live in the area and would not be driving long distances to come to your wedding, a 5:00 ceremony on Friday (which would be least expensive) would probably be fine. Local guests can probably leave work a little early, enjoy both the ceremony and the party, and go back home with no big problem. Of course, the same could be said for Sunday for these guests, but most people would probably enjoy having a day off to recover after the wedding.
On the other hand, if your guests have to drive a long way and drive back home after the party (I’m thinking that for most people on my list, that would be considered anyone coming from between one to 3 hours away) or are coming from even further and will need a hotel room, a Friday wedding would require taking a day off of work, which is something that many people in the current economic climate cannot easily afford to do.
For those same people who are driving but not staying overnight for your wedding, a Sunday might be fine, but they would likely have to leave your reception early in order to be home in time to get up for work the next morning. People staying overnight might not be able to attend on Sunday at all if they are unable to take the next day off from work.
As I said, you know the circumstances of your guest list the best, and you know who it is most important for you to have around you on your big day. Make your plans with the VIPs of your guest list in mind, and hopefully everyone else will be able to work something out. You can never please everyone, but you can certainly do your best to find a happy compromise. 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
Friday for sure! Sunday is a bummer because you have to wake up for work on Monday… BOOOO!
Post # 7
We did a Sunday early afternoon and it worked well. People were still able to catch flights home after the wedding so they didn’t have to take any time off of work. Friday wasn’t an option for us (Jewish wedding). I think Friday works for mostly local guests, but it would definitely limit the number of guests if they need to travel.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2009 - The Marvimon House
thank you, everyone, for the great advice.
i think we are going to go with the sunday option.. perhaps have it in the afternoon instead of early evening.
our guests will be half and half, half local, half flying in. the way we see it now, the people flying in would have to take a day off either way, so we might as well make it easier on the local people (and ourselves) by having it on sunday. although we won’t be able to do a ‘day after’ brunch, we might end up having a ‘day before’ event.. (we aren’t having a rehearsal dinner – there isn’t much to rehearse).
Post # 9
Megsss that sounds like a great idea. And to let a vendor know your not going to use them. I just shoot them an email and say we arent going to be using their services and thanks for their time, thats all you need to say. I know it is kind of uncomfortable but hey it is business.