(Closed) Friday was the worst day of my life…one twin had no HB at 9 week appointment

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 31
191 posts
Blushing bee

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lillieb33:  I am so so sorry. This is increadibly painful and my heart goes out to you.


My cousin had twins and lost one. The one came out healthy and strong. He’s absolutely fine.

Post # 32
6039 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State


lillieb33:  my son was a twin. His twin stopped developting at around 7 weeks. My body absorbed that fetus and my son was born completely healthy. I’m so sorry this happened OP.

Post # 33
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am so sorry for your loss. Big hugs to you and your family. I am wishing you a safe and healthy pregnancy for your other baby. Take good care of yourself during this difficult time  xoxo

Post # 34
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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lillieb33:  I’m so sorry you and your husband are going through this, you must still be in shock. I have no words of advice, but just wanted to reach out and tell you that I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing your other baby lots of health and happiness.   

Post # 35
3563 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am so sorry you are going through this.  I don’t have personal experience with this, as I’m just heading into RE appointments for the first time.  However, a coworker of mine and his wife had a difficult time conceiving and ended up doing IVF with donated eggs and donated sperm.  She also had twins, and lost one twin at 8 weeks.  The remaining twin survived and she went on to have a healthy pregnancy and they now have a beautiful, healthy 2 year old little girl.   

Post # 39
1206 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m very sorry for what you’re going through. While this didn’t happen to me, I do have a friend who lost one of her twins during pregnancy. The surviving twin was born perfectly healthy with no problems.  He’s now so grown up and in middle school and doing great.

Post # 40
7151 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I am so sorry for your loss, and my heart goes out to you. This must be a very emotionally confusing time – mourning for one twin while still celebrating the other. Take the time you need to mourn this loss. You will be in my thoughts.

Post # 41
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’m so sorry! This must incredibly painful right now. But since that baby is being absorbed by your body, your little child will *always* be with you and a part of you.

Post # 42
7199 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

I am so sorry for your loss. That must be so devistating. 

“Vanishing twins” are more common than people realize. I also have a friend who was a surviving twin. Her mother didn’t know she was having twins, miscarried one and they wanted to do a D&C but she refused. A few weeks later they “discovered” my friend and she is perfectly healthy and just had her second child!

Post # 43
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I lost a twin at 7 weeks. I am now 16 weeks with the surviving twin and he is developing very well and healthy. I didn’t even know I was pregnant with twins until I found out I lost one. My first OB appt was supposed to be at 8 weeks but when I started bleeding at 7 weeks they moved my appt up that day and that’s when I found out.

I was in tears waiting for my ultrasound.  I felt in my heart I had miscarried. I was so shocked, happy, and relieved when she pointed to the screen and showed me my baby and the heartbeat. But then she pointed to another part of the screen and calmly broke the news that I had lost a twin. I was devastated that I lost one but happy that I still had one. My emotions were just all over the place.

Throughout the remainder of the first trimester I was in a constant state of anxiety about my surviving baby. I was so afraid that I was going to miscarry again. It wasn’t until my most previous ultrasound at 14 weeks when I started feeling confident that this baby is going to make it. I am now in my 16th week and while I still worry, I am not nearly as panicked as I was before. 

It’s only been 3 days for you. Trust me, as time goes on you will feel more reassured. Most surviving twins make it through and are born healthy. Pregnancy would be so much easier if we could all have our own personal ultrasound machines at home and check on our babies when we are worried. This is a very hard and scary time. Just remember, your miscarriage rate goes down everyday so everyday is a better day.

Post # 44
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sorry for your loss! I just wanted to share my story. We were ttc for 11 months before I got my bop. My 9 week ultrasound showed 2 sacs but only one heartbeat. I’d had a very strong bfp and bled at 6 weeks. by my next scan at 11  weeks there was no signs of ever having a twin pregnancy. I have a beautiful 9 week old baby boy next to me! Stay strong 🙂

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