Post # 1
Curious about everyone’s opinion on Friday Weddings? As I look at different venues they all have a discount for Fridays or Sundays. So, we’ve started considering a Friday. Does this annoy you as a guest that you might have to take off a day of work? I live in Akron, OH where my Fiance is from. But we are getting married in Pittsburgh, PA. thats about an hour and a half drive for half our guest list. So, they’d prob have to take some time off work.
Other questions is about the rehersal dinner? Is it done on Thursday night if the wedding is friday? For our wedding party, is this too much to ask?
Post # 3
In your situation, Fiance and I would go. We would not be happy about it and some not so nice names might come out about your wedding. I would have to be at work super early or take a day off. We would do it because Fiance and I love weddings, but I would view it as self-centered instead of guest-centered.
I have seen this work best if it over the summer, semi formal (not black tie), a kid friendly wedding (so parents don’t have to get the kids set with a babysitter), and have the ceremony start and 6 and the reception immediately after. I find that when you have to move from venue to venue on a Friday, there is rush hour traffic and it makes it for a long night. This is especially hard if people shifted their schedules for your wedding
RDs are normally on Thursday, so your bridal party would need to take 2 days off. Again, I would not be happy, but would do it.
Post # 4
I voted if we weren’t close, I wouldn’t go. I would much rather go to a Sunday afternoon wedding, personally.
Post # 5
I would do it and not even think twice about it…I would prefer Friday over Sunday because I still would have the whole weekend. As a guest you probably would only have to take a 1/2 day off. For the people in the wedding, probably 2 days. I would not think it was a big deal at all but I make my own schedule!
Post # 6
My Darling Husband and I had a Friday night wedding on a holiday weekend, and we still had a fairly large (150 people) turnout. Ours also was a semi-destination wedding, since our venue was about an hour and a half away from where I and the majority of our guests lived, three hours away from Darling Husband and his friends, four hours away from both sets of parents and some of our extended families, and much farther away than that for some of our other guests. We had our rehearsal and rehearsal dinner on a Thursdsay night.
Post # 7
I’m having a friday wedding but it’s local for 95% of my guests and I realize that not everyone is going to make it to the ceremony and may only make it to the reception (which I’m completely fine with- I would rather have a smaller ceremony and larger reception). I decided to do it on a friday because they have the best deals, most of my guest list likes to drink so a Sunday was out of the question, and it was local. If it was over 30 minutes away I would have never picked a friday.
But this way if people still want to go away for the weekend or have weekend plans it won’t take their whole weekend up. I’m very pleased. Hopefully most of my guests will be as well 🙂
Post # 8
It all depends- a Friday night wedding starting 6pm or later not a problem but a Friday afternoon wedding if you are not family or a close friend then I am more than likely not going to attend.
Post # 9
I have no problem with it, I’d prefer it over a Sunday. My parents went to a Sunday night wedding and left early because they had work in the morning. One of my friends was griping because she had to ask off for Thursday and Friday for a few recent Friday weddings, but she didn’t have to pay a dime for her wedding and doesn’t understand people are trying to work on budgets to pay for their own weddings these days. I understand it and would be there!
Post # 10
If it were later in the evening and I didn’t live more than a couple hours away, I’d be there, but may be late. (I can’t take off work, pretty much period.)
On the other hand, I’m having a friday wedding that’s not local to almost anyone. But it’s really small, so I’m not super worried about it. Whoever shows up will show up. Friday is better than Sunday because you can still have the weekend ahead of you. We’re doing some fun stuff in our city of choice (since we’re flying back to the US for the wedding) on Saturday and Sunday that people are invited to join us for if the want as well, we’re just not paying for it haha.
@Pollywog: Not so nice names? Seems like an awfully small offense to be turning someone into gossip material over. (Am I misunderstanding?) Better not to go to a party than to go and complain about it, don’t you think?
Post # 11
Truthfully, I’d probably make it for the reception, but it would depend on how close we are for the ceremony (where I’d have to take a half day versus make up a few hours). DH is a teacher so most likely if its over an hour he couldnt make it unless it was during the summer.
Post # 12
Unless you’re a very close friend or family member, I would not attend a weekday wedding.
Edit: My husband is in the military. It would depend on him. If he was deployed, I would not go at all. We have no one to take care of our two pets and I would not want to leave them home alone while I was an hour and a half away. Not to mention, he may not be able to get the time off. The military isn’t lenient about that sort of stuff — they wanted to deploy him a few days before our wedding.
Post # 13
we’re having a friday wedding. none of our guests have commented or seemed to care that it’s on a friday. i think theyre all looking forward to having an excuse to take a long weekend. 😀 i say go for it!
Post # 14
@sarg88: I’m having a Friday wedding. Doing it mostly for savings. my view is that if someone wants to attend, they will make it happen.
Post # 15
Also want to add I was a bridesmaid in a great friends wedding that was on a Friday. I took off Friday and a half day Thursday (I live 1.5 hors away). As one of her bffs, I was so happy to do so, but I do think its different when you’re a guest versus in the Wedding Party. Her rehearsal was Thursday night.
for sure do whatever works for you guys as a couple! 🙂
Post # 16
It really just depends. If most of your guestlist is only an hour and a half away, then its not as big of a deal. For my Fiance and I, we would attend if it started after 6 or after. If we had to travel further, we probably would not attend because we’d have to miss a lot of work. Unless of course it was like our closest friends/family, then of course we would take the day off. I would start the ceremony at 6-6:30, cocktail hour 6:30-7:30 and dinner starting at 7:30.