Post # 17
Self centered?!! We are jewish and cannot get married on a Friday or Saturday night – in our situation MANY of the guests would not attend. We are getting married on a Sunday…i think it is rude to say you would consider the bride and groom to be self centered if they were to get married on an evening other than a Saturday.
Post # 18
Please go with a Sunday wedding over a Friday! It’s much more convient since you are also getting married in a different state form other family and friends who have to travel to get to the wedding. This is much more guest friendly, since most people will only have to take off from work on a Monday as oppose to Thursday and Friday.
Post # 19
I’ve been to plenty of local Friday weddings and I’ve never had a problem with it. However, a 1.5 hour drive would be too long for me. I get awful motion sickness and I know I wouldn’t make it that long without puking lol:-)
Post # 20
It wouldn’t bother me. Fiance may or may not come based on his schedule which varies wildly so day of the week is moot. I would much rather my friend save serious money for a house than try to please everyone. If Friday saves you a boatload than go with Friday 😉
ETA: As a guest I would appreciate an email about what rush hour traffic looked like thru that area at different points of the day so I could plan my trip accordingly.
Post # 21
Fiance and I were trying to decide the same thing for our wedding, not for financial reasons but because our wedding involves an entire 4 day weekend of activities and we wanted to “get the wedding over with” on Friday. Our wedding was going to be at least an hour drive for most people and a 10+ hour drive or flight for a few others. So we actually just polled most of our guests and asked if they would be ok with Friday wedding. Everyone we polled said they would be there if we had it Friday or Saturday. Out of about 10 couples, only 1 or 2 people said they would prefer Saturday but would still attend a Friday wedding. We ended up choosing a Saturday wedding though because given the fact that we could do either, we didn’t want to inconvenience or exclude a few important guests that would have to fly and pay hefty travel expenses along with taking off work.
The way I see it though is if someone is truly close to you (friend or family), they WILL make the effort to go to your wedding no matter what day it is on and if they are truly happy for you they won’t complain about it being an inconvenience and that is exactly what was expressed to us when we did our “poll”. Everyone was so excited about the wedding and happy for us they didn’t care what day it was on.
On the other hand, you do have to keep in mind some people’s financial situations and whether they can afford to take off work and afford travel costs for a destination wedding. Sometimes flights are actually cheaper on Fridays and Sundays, but it doesn’t sound like anyone is flying in for your wedding so I don’t see why taking off a little early from work that day would be an inconvenience.
Sorry I can’t answer your rehearsal dinner question as we won’t be having attendants and won’t have a typical rehearsal dinner. We will just be having dinners together the whole weekend for anyone who is there. Maybe you can do the rehearsal dinner at a place that is close to everyone.
Post # 22
If Friday is the day that you want to set your wedding date, do just that. Whoever wants to attend will and those are the people that you want to celebrate with you. As for the rehearsal dinner have it on Thursday night, almost positive that our attendants will take off to attend.
Post # 23
I probably wouldn’t go unless I was very close to you. My time off is precious, and my new job has a lot less vacation than my previous one. I’d be much happier with a Sunday wedding!
Post # 24
Personally, I don’t care for Friday weddings. After a long, exhausting work week, the last thing I want to do is party until 10 or 11 p.m. (I’m getting old, haha.) I’ve been to them before and the church is basically empty. I also cannot see asking people to take off of work. Unless it was someone extremely important to me, I would not attend the church.
My venue was cheapter too on Fridays and Sundays (I think most of them are). (Not to mention a $35 per head difference!) Therefore, I chose a Sunday. I chose the 5-10 p.m. slot instead of the 7 p.m. – 12 a.m. slot. Everyone knew for 16 months when my wedding was, so if someone wanted to take off that following Monday, then it was up to them. Not one single guest left early.
Post # 25
If I wanted to be there, I would be there. As long as I have enough notice to get the day off, I would take it off! I would prefer a Friday night wedding vs. a Sunday wedding, for sure!
Post # 26
It depends on how close we are. I would try to make it but honestly, if it was too much of a hassle I would have to decline and send you a gift.
Post # 27
I’m biased since we’re having a Friday wedding, with a (gasp) 4PM ceremony. AND most of our guests are from out of town! Our Rehearsal Dinner is going to be on Thursday; not sure I understand why the Rehearsal Dinner would be two days before the wedding, but anyone who’s going to be there (the Bridal Party, basically) is already going to have to take off of work.
Post # 28
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
I went to a Friday evening wedding. It was a lot of fun and I honestly didn’t even remember that it was a Friday not a Saturday until a few weeks ago my friend (her wedding) and I were talking about it and I was like “OH yeah that’s right”. If it were a Destination Wedding on a Friday I can understand how some people might be annoyed with having to drive hours etc, then again if its a Destination Wedding they would have to take off work anyway.
I say go for it. Its your wedding.
Post # 29
I’ve been to plenty of local Friday weddings and I’ve never had a problem with it.
Post # 30
I’ve seen this come up a lot on here and am always surprised at how many people get annoyed with Friday weddings. They are ever-increasing in popularity so get used to it! The 5 or so weddings I’ve gone to over the past few years have all been Fridays as will mine be.
Post # 31
I’m getting married on a Friday- our wedding date is meaningful to us so we never considered anything else… Yes, people might have to take a day, or half day off work but I don’t see that as being a big deal. I wouldn’t blink at taking a Friday off to celebrate- any excuse in fact! The people most important to me will be there and thats the main thing.