Post # 32
Unless you were really close to me, I would not take a full day off from work (which would probably be necessary, since I’d need to budget 2 hours to drive, then checking into a hotel, getting ready, etc) for a Friday wedding. While it’s much cheaper for you, you do have to consider the inconvenience on your guests if a big chunk of them have to travel.
Post # 33
I kinda hate Friday weddings, but not as much as Sunday weddings (if they’re late weddings – like 6pm, because I can never get up early enough the next day for work). The problem I have is that I wouldn’t ever take a full day off from work unless I had to commute somewhere far, which means I’ve gotten up super early that day and now I’m tired and exhausted from the week at work and I can’t enjoy the wedding. My friend had a Fri wedding, it started at 7pm, and I had to leave work at 1 to make it on time (get home, change, get there, etc) – I was so tired I can’t even remember the wedding. I can’t even remember her dress! I always remember the dress! lol.
My other friend is having a 7/5 Friday wedding – but since everyone is off from work on 7/4, she anticipates that a lot of people would already be taking that day off from work. I will have to take the day for sure since I will be coming up from another state. Not sure how she’s going to do the Rehearsal Dinner – but my friend had hers a week before the wedding (Sunday wedding – different one than we’ve discussed).
But if you can’t afford a Sat wedding, Fri > Sun, IMO.
Post # 34
I’ve been to Friday weddings where I didn’t HAVE to take off from work. I just went to the reception and didn’t attend the church. Others were a little bit later, so I didn’t have to worry about taking off from work. I’d actually rather go to a Friday night wedding than to a Sunday wedding.
And a wedding is about the couple. I would totally disagree that a Friday wedding is “self-centered”. People do what they have to do.
Post # 35
We’re getting married on a friday. For is it was an easy choice, as it was easier dealing with vendors (date wise and price wise). Our rehersal is going to be the sunday before the big day. I didn’t want our wedding party to have to take another day off, so I asked our church if we could do it on a Sunday and they happy to help. A friday wedding is not for everyone, and some guests won’t like it, but you know what its your day and if it helps financially then i say do it… at the end of the day the only two attendants that matter are you and your Fiance. That’s how we looked at it 🙂
Post # 36
I wouldn’t care.
Our wedding will be on a friday, but it’s not because we WANTED friday, it’s because halloween fell on a friday.
Post # 37
We are having a Friday wedding, the weekend of our wedding falls on remembrance weekend so having it Friday so the church can still do there remembrance rehearsal Saturday and our guests who have commitments for the Sunday can be home to honour Remembrance Day. It works out well as it is off peak and being a Friday also makes it cheaper on top of the off peak costs. We sent out save the date cards which would be a years notice for guests to plan. The rehearsal will be the day before so the Thursday as then it saves travelling again for those in the rehearsal, and we have reserved rooms for all those involved in the rehearsal. It is your day and I say go for it, if people aren’t moaning about the day they will moan about something else, all that is important is what you and your fiance want, people who love you will make the effort to be there. I am now focusing more on what my Fiance and I want as you can’t please everyone, and really it’s about pleasing us and our day. So do what you feel is right.
Post # 38
Personally, I am SOOOO HAPPY we ended up having our wedding on a Friday. At first, when our church along with every venue I liked were allready booked for every saturday in September/October I was nervous about having a Friday wedding because I thought people would be “annoyed with me.” Here are the reasons I am happy about it now
1. Cheaper- not by much at all really, maybe a small discount here and there (atleast in my area), but still- it’s something
2. The people that want to be there will be there. If somebody can’t take a half day off of work to come to my 3pm wedding then frankly, I don’t care if you’re there (and I don’t care to spend all that money on you if you saw my wedding as an inconvienence). Save the dates are sent out in advance for a reason- and I made sure it said “friday”on them to give people a extra heads up even if they didn’t look at the date on a calender to see it was on a friday. People take off work for tons of things that aren’t a wedding, personal days, etc…..they can take a half day for somebody they are close to’s wedding.
I should add there ARE people that work crazy hours and do have issues with work. But you know who these people are and can reach out to them- MOST people do not have these issues when they know months and months in advance.
3.Kind of doubling up on this point- but the people that care will come and it makes you feel good. My fiances friend works about 6 hours away, and another across the country, there was no question of them traveling and getting a hotel and taking multople days off. Then on the other hand you have bridal party members complaining about “taking off all day.” Really puts things into perspective!
4.When you start looking for vendors for things like makeup,hair, etc (if you havn’t allready) you realize the good ones book up almost as fast as DJs and photographers! We decided to add a videographer recenetly and everyone we looked at was booked on the saturday, but not the day of our wedding!
5. This might be a plus just for our guests…Many of our guests that are out of town (a lot of the bridal party) are originally from the area. A friday wedding will let them have the whole weekend to spend at home with family, instead of getting in on a friday, being at the rehearsal/wedding then going home. They will have all day Saturday to do what they would like at home.
Hope this helps!
Post # 39
I thought about Friday too. Besides being cheaper, aother big reason was a few venues I absolutley loved had a minmum guest count for Saturdays that my small wedding wouldn’t meet. I decided against it. Most guests would be out of town, and it would suck for them to take another day off than they have to. I just didn’t feel like it was worth inconveniencing my guests. It’s already a small wedding, I wanted everyone invited to feel good about being there.
Post # 40
If it is an evening wedding and most of the guest are in town that is fine. But if guests have to travel or you are doing a daytime wedding Sunday would be more convenient to the guests
Post # 41
this nailed exactly What I would said, especially #2. I loved my Friday wedding and it gave my mostly Pittsburgh family and friends the chance to make a weekend out of visiting the DC area.
People will come if they want to come, period.
Post # 42
I’ve only seen this work well when nearly all guests lived in the same city as the venue. Even then, the couple called the guests they cared about to make sure it’d be alright & of course we all said fine.
I probably wouldn’t go if it was out of state unless I was in the wedding. if you dont run it by a lot of ppl in advance to get them to cosign, choosing a friday or weekday when most guests are out of state can be a signal that the couple probably wants a lot if declines.
Post # 43
We are having a friday wedding. We had a specfic date in mind, so it wasn’t exactly a choice!