Post # 1
Is anyone else getting flack about having your wedding on a Friday? We picked this date because we liked the idea of being married on 11/11/11, I knew it was a Friday, but it is an evening wedding. Some of our out of town guests (live about 5 hours from here) are grumbling that they will have to take time off work to come. I still REALLY want this as my date, but I don’t know what to say to these people whining about this. I mean, it’s not like we aren’t giving them advance notice. 🙁 Is there some sort of law that all weddings have to take place on a Saturday?
Post # 3
Meh try to ignore it. Our wedding is on a Sunday so lots of people have to take Monday off. If people are that bitter, they don’t have to come. They certainly shouldn’t come and complain! Don’t worry! 🙂
Post # 4
@SandyThePoet: There is absolutely no rule, and I’ve gone to weddings before on Fridays! Those people are just being whiners, and if they don’t like it, they don’t have to come. Have your wedding on Friday! 😀
Post # 5
people who care about you will be there, no matter when or where. that’s all that matters!
have the wedding you want, and just ignore everyone’s complaints. just tell them “i hope you can make it!”
Post # 6
There are always grumblers about wedding dates, times. etc. Pick a date that makes you happy and is good for your budget! You are giving them plenty of advance notice. If they want to be there, they will make it a priority.
As an aside, many people do no work the traditional 9-5, Mon – Fri workweek, and would have to take a weekend day off anyway (myself included), so there is no “perfect” day to have a wedding 🙂
Post # 7
@SandyThePoet: Just ignore it and dont change your date whatever you do. It soooo esay to complain about things..thats what people do. heck i have even done it…you think i didnt complain about the wedding i went to that was on a thursday??!! *laugh*
People will forget about it. I was annoyed it was on a weekday, i had to take time off work etc and then i went to the wedding and had a great time and never looked back.
Thats what people do…IGNORE THEM 🙂
Post # 8
What I’ve learned is, you’re never going to make 100% of your guests happy. 11-11-11 is a cool date! The only reason I would ever urge you to change your date is if it made it really hard for immediate family members or those you are super close to. Those are the other people I really tried to accomodate for, even then out date wasn’t the most convenient for everyone, but we still pulled it off….and I got married on a Tuesday 🙂
Post # 9
Nope, no law! My wedding is on a Friday and it’s staying that way. You’re right, you gave them plenty of notice. Taking a day or half a day off of work is not too much to ask. I’m sure even if your wedding was on a Saturday people would find something to complain about. Don’t let it get to you!
Post # 10
um i’m going to a wedding today in 3.5 hours. I didn’t even think “OMG SUCH AN INCONVENIENCE”. Whatever
Post # 11
It is hard for out of town guests to come to a friday wedding. Thats a fact, so its normal for people to complain a little. I’m having a sunday wedding and trying to make sure it doesnt run too late because I know that when I’ve been a guest at sunday weddings I’m always concsious of work the next day.
Post # 12
Dont worry! The last two wedding I went to were on Fridays. Unfortunatley, we had to miss the ceremony as we couldn’t get out of work for them but we made the reception just fine! We probably left a little earlier than some people becauase we had gotten up that day at 5am for work, but if you’re able to go into realizing that some folks will love to come but may leave a little early then keep the Friday! If we could take off on Fridays in our jobs we would and enjoy a long weekend. 🙂
Post # 13
There is absolutely no law that says that all weddings need to occur on Saturdays. We are having a Friday wedding too! For your situation, the date you chose should be enough of an explanation as to why it’s a Friday wedding. I’ve yet to have people complain about our choosing a Friday but if they did I would just tell them that our venue wasn’t available for any Saturday receptions.
It’s important to remember that those who want to be there will be there regardless of the day of the week. If someone doesn’t “want” to be at your wedding, then they’re not worth including anyway. You’re giving your guests plenty of notice. Taking 1 day off really isn’t all that much to ask. If anything it will allow for them to have somewhat of a relaxing weekend. If you were getting married on a Saturday, they would more than likely have to drive 5 hours out the morning of your wedding and then turn around and drive 5 hours home the next day. Their whole weekend is blown on traveling and they won’t have much time to relax. Atleast this way, they can have all day Sunday to wind down before a new work week.
Post # 14
I have nothing against any day of the week for a wedding, Friday or otherwise…
BUT, the only issue I have with weddings (regardless of the day they’re on, but I hear this more from weekday weddings), is when the bride and groom pull the “if they really cared about me or wanted to be there, they’ll be there, and if they can’t leave work early for my wedding, then I dont want them there.”
Some people are on a really fixed income, don’t have vacation time or any paid time off, and depensed on every hour of work they have scheduled just to make their bills. For instance, if Darling Husband and I had chosen a Friday for our wedding (which was an hour drive away for most of our guests), then my grandmother wouldn’t have been able to make it to my wedding. Not because she didn’t want to be there, not because she couldn’t ask her boss for the time off… but because she wouldnt’ have been able to afford her bills if she skipped out on work early.
Not saying that all Friday wedding brides and grooms are that way, but the ones I’ve attended (or have coming up this year) have all given that as an argument for their wedding… that people didn’t care about them enough to come if they had to miss it.
That said, the same thing holds true for Saturday/Sunday weddings when guests can’t make it because they work on the weekends.
I’m going to a Friday wedding this year… and the ceremony is at 4pm. And it’s two hours away from most of the guests. So I’ll be taking a half day. But if I couldn’t afford to lose 4 hours of work, it wouldn’t be because I didn’t “care.”
Post # 15
I’m a fellow Friday wedding and I’ve had a few complaints but mainly everyone is excited to take that day off. It gives them a reason not to go to work. Everyone in the bridal party of course is off. But I wouldn’t change the date AT ALL.. That date means something to you so you stick with it.. 🙂 Take care Day Twin.. And Congrats!
Post # 16
I also remember getting a lot of flack and support at the same time. In the end, we moved the date to 11.12.11 and we’re doing the rehearsal on 11.11.11
It’s less stressful and more folks will attend the wedding on 11.12.11