Friday wedding? Is it too inconvenient for guests?

posted 6 months ago in Logistics
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

I’d find it difficult to get time off on a Friday because of my shift patterns, and I know several people who would really struggle (teachers, etc). To be honest, I’d probably find it too much of an inconvenience, unless it was for immediate family. 

That said, I’m in the UK and our weddings are generally much longer, so I’d have to take an entire day off. If it was the evening and I was local, it might not be so bad.

Post # 32
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - City, State

If you give people plenty of notice of the date, those that wouldn’t want to miss it will be able to get the time off work. I think if you leave it until late to send out invitations, it may be a different matter. And the later it is in the day, the more likely it will be that you will have more people able to attend. At the end of the day, it’s your wedding. If it was me, as long as those I wanted there the most were able to attend, I’d go for it. 

Post # 33
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

We are having our wedding on a Friday due to the venue we wanted already being booked for all Saturdays for 2019. I love Friday weddings! Its pretty easy to get time off of work for me though. I like them because you still have the whole weekend ahead of you. There are only so many weekends in the summer and our schedule is usually pretty booked up so I wecome Friday weddings!!

Post # 34
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - City, State

We are having a Friday wedding by choice! It falls on our 7 year anniversary and we were praying that anniversary would be a Friday! We both love Friday’s and know all our family and friends will be able to make it! We found out after picking the day that Fiancés parents also got married on a Friday 😁. We are very happy with our choice. Our ceremony is at 1:30pm and our reception starts at 5:30pm. If you’ve found a venue you love, GO FOR GOLD! 

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

This would be really difficult for me and my work but it depends on your guests. 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I think Friday weddings are fine, as long as a large majority of your guests (>70%) are in-town. Getting married on ANY day of the week is fine, as long as people only have to travel 15 minutes to get home, you know? 

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

Ours was on a Friday. Prices for weekends were too high so we just picked Friday fully expecting to have a very small wedding because people couldn’t come. Of course we missed them but we understood it.

Luckily for my husband all of his immediate family members came plus a few of his extended family. It was treated as a couple days vacation since it was a destination wedding for almost everybody. The 4 extended family members I had there were localish (2.5ish hours away)to the venue and wouldn’t have missed it for the world. Plus all retired so it wasn’t a big deal for them to come like it may have been if they were working.

So yeah I think if you are prepared to understand that since it’s a work day some might not be able to come I think go for it. 

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

We had a Friday wedding and the turn out was great, a lot of people came from out of state too! A few guests told us that they liked the fact that the wedding was on a Friday because they feel like Saturday weddings kill the whole weekend.   

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

chitownyogini :  I’d say do what you want! I am having my wedding on a Thursday because it’s sooo much cheaper to book the venue on a weekday. The people who love you and want to come will find a way to make it work. I probably would have gone with a Friday though, if I could do it again. 

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I’m fine with Friday weddings, but that’s because it’s pretty easy for me to take half a day off work to attend. As long as I’m close enough with the person, I’ll do it.

But there are definitely people who are NOT fine with it, so know your crowd. For instance, my FI’s cousin just sent out STD’s for her Friday wedding in September, and his family’s reaction was…not great. I guess she didn’t tell anyone ahead of time she was doing it on a Friday, and a lot of the aunts and uncles are saying it’s really hard for them to make it work on a Friday. My Future Mother-In-Law was complaining how she has to listen to all the aunts and uncles complain. They’re being overly dramatic about it, in my opinion – like, just don’t go if you can’t go! But I do think she could have mitigated a lot of the complaining if she had just talked to people ahead of time (at least her dad! He didn’t know either until the STD).

Post # 41
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2020 - Germany

My best friend got married on a Friday and I made damn sure I was there despite living in another country. In my opinion, assuming you give people enough notice, if they want to be there, they’ll make it happen. I realise this may be a naive view of the world as things aren’t *always* that easy but I think it applies to most things. That’s quite a price difference as well! Good luck, I hope you can make it work 🙂 

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: St. petersburg, FL

We are having a Friday wedding (Destination wedding, but it’s in the U.S.) and invited approximately 230 people. We knew this would make it so some people wouldn’t attend, but we have received a surprisingly large number of YES rsvp’s. We booked our venue last August (2018) for our May 2019 wedding and told our VIPs right away. We sent invitations in October, so we gave all of our guests plenty of notice. If people want to come, cool, but we understand if they can’t make it. Just how it is – don’t feel bad about a Friday wedding!

Post # 43
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Helper bee

I love Friday weddings so long as it doesn’t interfere with work time too much. Like no I wouldn’t want to use one of my vacation days for someone else’s wedding, but leaving a bit early is okay. 

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’m not a fan because they’re inconvenient to me. 7pm would be the earliest where I’d likely be able to make it work, but depending where it is, I would probably still have to leave work early. So, unless you were a good friend or family, I’d probably decline. 

Post # 45
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2020 - Lone Star Mansion

If some people have to drive more than an hour or fly to get there it would be very inconvenient and I would count on many people not being able to make it. 

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