Friday wedding? Is it too inconvenient for guests?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 46
947 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

we had a friday wedding and it started at 5. we were fully aware that doing so would cause people to not come. to be honest, a majority did! i think friday wedding are becoming more and more popular. personally i dont mind a friday wedding. that means i still have my entire weekend to myself!

Post # 47
474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Overall, Friday weddings do not bother me as long as they start later (closer to 6pm the better). It can definitely be a pain and requires most people to leave work early or even take a half day if they need to travel more than 30 minutes to the wedding.  Saturday is preferable, but I don’t find Friday to be that terrible.  It really depends on your crowd. 

Post # 48
78 posts
Worker bee

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chitownyogini :  Honestly, I hate Friday weddings. I have gone to a few, because I still care about the couples enough to go, but I really find it to be a pain. I am usually so tired by Friday and both my husband and I have had to take a 1/2 day of vacation from work to attend, which I am not overly happy about. Even the “local” ones, I have had to use some PTO to make it on time. Then when I’m there, I find I’m not as much fun, dancing, enjoying myself like on Saturdays… I’m more tired, spacing out, tend to get bored easily, looking at the clock wanting to go home and put on my PJ’s lol. Again I go for my friends and do not say anything to them, I would never do that to a loved one, and I will be there for their special day – but that being said, I do wish people would not have weddings on a Friday. I find it a little selfish that they do that to afford a “dream venue” – passing off inconvenice to guests and requiring them to use their vacation etc. I feel another venue should be selected that you can afford without passing off costs to your guests.

Post # 49
8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Friday weddings are a pain in the ass for a lot of people. As you may have noticed, many of the people responding that they are great chose to have Friday weddings and may not even realize how many people complained about it, just not to their faces. And despite the suggestions otherwise, not everyone can take any day off if they just have enough notice. Most people in the US have very limited PTO and there are some days/times that are not an option. For hourly workers who take time off to attend–they are giving up income so that you can save money.

If you live in or near a metropolitan area even a 6 pm ceremony may require people to take a half day off work to allow for time to get home, change, and get to your venue. Anyone with children has additional layers of things to deal with on a week day. A 6:30 or 7pm start is much friendlier. 

Post # 50
2597 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I would prefer to attend a friday wedding. 6 p.m. or later.  Great way to kick off a weekend without killing my entire weekend. 

Post # 51
1249 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’d have no problem attending a Friday wedding but I also have a very flexible job with generous vacation (at least for the U.S.). So it’s mostly knowing your crowd and what their relative situations would be. Like a previous poster said with jobs like teaching it’s a lot more difficult to just sneak out a few hours early on a Friday. 

Post # 53
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: Covington, KY

I’m having a Friday wedding because it saved us like 2k! I understand it could be more inconvenient for some guests, so we made the wedding later in the day (7pm) to help out with that (at least that’s my logic). Luckily, most of my guests don’t live that far away and only a few set of guests that are from out of town.

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