Friday wedding on Thanksgiving weekend? (Canada)

posted 2 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

I think the time of year is beautiful- fall colours, temps still pretty decent. 

I totally wouldn’t mind a Friday wedding- but if it’s over Thanksgiving long weekend and people have to travel, they could face traffic jams and booked up hotel rooms (if you’re in a tourist-y area). It’s still do-able (we had ours over a long weekend last summer, Civic holiday weekend end of July/early August)….but only a handful had to drive from another city, our longer-distance fam stayed with us and came a week before

Post # 3
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Helper bee

Having been to a Thanksgiving weekend wedding a few years ago, I say avoid it. Picking holiday weekends that are often steeped in traditions (big family dinners, turkey, etc), I feel like its not a nice thing to take people away from their families during that time.

We had to forgo BOTH our family Thanksgivings because of the wedding we went to (we had to travel and stayed overnight, too far for us to get to the family stuff on both dates). They were our friends, and we loved them, so we made it work but it was sad to miss out on the family get togethers. 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

IDK if its just me and my circle, but as Canadians, we don’t really have the same facination with thanksgiving that americans do. It’s a nice time to get together, but we seem to put much more emphasis on christmas; thanksgiving is just another excuse for a long weekend lol. 

I would be totally fine with this personally. I would check with your VIPs and see what they think.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2017

 You’re going to get a range of replies.  Personally, if I am close enough to someone, I’m going to be at their wedding no matter what.  It wouldn’t bother me.  

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

It wouldn’t bother me at all.  But if a lot of your guest go out of town to visit their families for Thanksgiving, you may have a lower turn-out.  Additionally, some married couples will do one thanksgiving on Thursday with one side and then do it again with the other side on Friday, so people like that may also have a conflict.

I ended up having a Sunday wedding becuase of my venue’s cost and availability, and I worried a lot about it but we had a 98% turn out and everyone was wonderful about it.  I just made sure to talk to all my VIPs ahead of time to get their opinion on it before we booked anything.  I’d recommend you do the same!  Good luck!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

mrslc :  If very few guests are from out of town and don’t have to travel/book hotels I would definitely say go for it! 🙂 I don’t know anyone who celebrates the Friday of Thanksgiving (since in Canada it’s always on a Monday, unlike the states). Also I agree with PP, I mean I love Thanksgiving but I don’t think Canadians put the same kind of crazy emphasis on it. I’ve missed the past three years of family Thanksgivings and it wasn’t a huge deal. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

mrslc :  so I’m a supply teacher, I don’t get paid days off or holiday pay. My only concern would be having 2 4 day weeks back to back and my next pay being low. My board tends to put a P.A. day (no pay) on the third week of Oct. So my main concern is that all of it together would be 3 short weeks in a row. If I wasn’t super close to the person I’d think of skipping it. That may also be because I’ve been to 18 weddings in 3 years sooooo lol. 

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I join the chorus. Go for it. You already said the only people who will have to travel are retired, and the point has been made the Canadians don’t celebrate Thanksgiving to the extent that Americans do.

We may have a turkey dinner but that’s about it.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

The only issue I see is tgat your guests might have a really hard time booking an extra day off work on tgat particular weekend.

I’d personally go with September 28th 😊

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