(Closed) Friday Wedding Pros and Cons, Dos and Donts

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

I just want to make sure that i am making it possible for every single one of my guests to be able to come.

First, no matter how far ahead you plan or send your STDs there will be people who have other obligations or situations on the day of your wedding. It’s just life.

Are you inviting 50 of your nearest and dearest or 500 people including extended family and friends? The closer the relationship you have with someone the more likely they are to take off work to attend your wedding. Because–let’s be real–who goes to work ready to attend a wedding? People have to go home, get ready, perhaps deal with child care, and then travel to your wedding. You’ll have better luck if you schedule a Friday wedding later in the evening. A 5:00 or 6:00 ceremony may be poorly attended. 

There is a reason why it’s cheaper–it is inconvenient for a lot of people. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Just a thought as a guest  – Have your ceremony at 6:00 or ideally even later. Yes, your guests live close, but that does not account time to go home,  shower and change, drop kids off at a babysitter, traffic, etc.   I’ve been to two Friday weddings. One the ceremony started at 5:30, and all of the guests attended the ceremony.  The other was at 4:00 and barely half of the guests made it to the ceremony. I don’t think that is a coincidence. 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Definitely schedule it later in the evening.  In my area, any wedding before 7 or 730 would be poorly attended because of traffic .

Don’t get mad at people who can’t attend because it’s on a Friday.  I’d be hard-pressed to make a Friday wedding and I’m honestly exhausted by the time Friday evening comes around.  No amount of advanced notice with a STD will help with that for me. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

PROS: you basically have your pick of venues and vendors

CONS: it wasn’t AS cheap as I thought. We would have saved 1,200 on the venue, but vendors didn’t really offer any discounts. 

We ultimately decided to just go with a Saturday to get the church we wanted 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

If you know that a large amount of your guests will be working that day then its going to be inconvenient for them no matter how close they live so its good to accept that now. That doesn’t mean you should change the date (although as a guest I’d prefer an early Sunday over Friday if its solely due to cutting costs) but definitely be understanding of others circumstances. A later ceremony would be ideal. 7 – 7:30 pm. I doubt anyone will be bold enough to complain to you directly but that doesn’t mean they won’t find this annoying. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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imjessjess :  If you’re trying to save money, have you considered a Sunday wedding? They are also significantly cheaper and have the benefit of being a bit more convenient for guests since it’s an actual weekend day as opposed to a work day like Friday…

When we were planning our wedding we had to decide between Friday or Sunday and ended up going for Sunday since it was way more convenient for most people. We had a Sunday brunch wedding to make it even cheaper than a night wedding. Just a thought. We literally saved $12,000 having a Sunday afternoon wedding at our venue.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

We’ve booked for Good Friday 2018 – in the UK it’s the first day of a four day weekend and therefore the majority of our guests won’t be working. The plan is currently for the ceremony to start at 4pm although we haven’t set anything in stone. That means people should be able to travel up in the morning if they want to.

We’ll do a first look, so we’ll go straight from the ceremony into the reception.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We got married on a Friday. We had our ceremony at 1pm. We only had a handful of guests not be able to make it. We’re in the U.K. Though where people have more paid leave than in the states. 

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: February 2017

We are getting married on a Friday, in February of this year & only 1 person complained about having to work lol … Ceremony is at 3:30 & receptioin is at 6:00 pm 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We got married on a Friday. Our ceremony started at 6:30 so that people had some time after work. But most of our guests were from out of town anyway so they were all taking off a couple days from work anyway so having our wedding on a Friday vs a Saturday didn’t really make that much of a difference to 90% of our guests.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We invited 134 people to our Friday wedding, and had 110 attend. Some of the declines may have been because they couldn’t get off work for the day, but I don’t know how many exactly. We even had our ceremony fairly early, at 4:30 because it was late October and we wanted it to be outside, but not in the dark. It rained all day and there was traffic getting to our location coming from every direction, which made my grandparents late (we waited for them), and 1-2 other friend couples were also late and missed the ceremony. Everybody else was there on time, and a ton of my friends said they were even happy to take a random Friday off from work 🙂 

 ETA: to echo PP about cost savings, yes our venue did offer great savings (reduced ceremony chair rental fee, reduced dinner price and reduced minimum number of guests) which did end up saving us thousands/made it affordable for us to use that vendor at all; our others like photography, DJ/photobooth did not offer a Friday night discount. YMMV though

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Please don’t bank on all your guests attending just because you give them notice now. You could tell me two years in advance and unless you were immediate family or my best friend, I would not take off work for your Friday wedding. I might come to the reception if it were later. It’s fine to have a Friday wedding, but acknowledge that it’s inconvenient and accept that not everyone will make it (not everyone makes it to a Saturday wedding that’s much more convenient, either). I agree with PPs to start your ceremony as late as possible. I’d personally love to go to a Sunday brunch wedding and you’d still save money. 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Don’t assume that everyone is happy just because no one complains. I went to a Monday wedding over the summer and while I would never ever ever say a word to the bride or groom, it was really inconvenient for me and there were other guests commenting on it too. So, lack of complaints isn’t the same as everyone being happy about it.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Maybe I’m biased because I’m having a Friday wedding and recently attended a Friday wedding, but I honestly prefer it to a Sunday or even a Saturday to a lesser extent. The weekend is just getting started, so as a guest if you have errands or need to decompress during the weekend you’ll still have the majority of the time to do what you need to do. Depending on how late the ceremony is, you may only need to take a half day off work. When given enough notice, I personally can use my PTO without a problem. I’ve never been invited to a wedding of someone I consider to only be an acquaintance, so I’ve never hesitated to take off work for a wedding.

Our ceremony will be at 5 PM. The venue is around an hour away from half the guests, with the other half flying down from up north. A lot of guests have already booked their rooms and flights, and they’re looking forward to making a weekend out of it. I have not received a complaint about the day yet. 

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