Friday Wedding vs Sunday Wedding

posted 3 years ago in Venue
  • poll: Considering the potential savings and conveniences, which would be best for our destination wedding?
    Friday Night Wedding : (20 votes)
    28 %
    Saturday Night Wedding : (34 votes)
    48 %
    Sunday Night Wedding : (17 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 2
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    We did a Friday wedding (we were in Colorado too!). 90% of our guests were from out of town and came in on Wednesday so they all probably would have taken that Friday off for a Saturday wedding anyway – we also had a 50% decline rate which I was 100% okay with as we had cleared the date with our our VIPs anyway. Our Friday wedding started at 6:30 to give anyone local some time after work. I have zero regrets about having a Friday wedding.

    If I had done a Sunday wedding, I would have done brunch instead of dinner because I don’t think people really want to party on Sunday night and will leave early but that could be different with a primarily out of town wedding.

    Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    mariana1114 :  I think when you are hosting a wedding, in particular a destination wedding where guests will be spending a lot of money just to attend your choice of location, you are obligated to think about your guests and their wallets as well as your own.

    Not only will having a wedding in this location at that time of year cost your guests more but having it on a Friday or Sunday will also make those that want to or have to (because we all know obligation sometimes forces our hand) attend take more time off work than if it is held on a Sunday which equals more financial cost to them (either in lost pay or lost vacation time).

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    mariana1114 :  personally I would likely have to decline a destination wedding on a Friday or Sunday. To angle for savings for you that impacts the expense for the guests as well as requiring them to take out additional holiday days from work is not very nice in my book. Also ideally a Destination Wedding should have various options of accommodation in different price points including Airbnb in the area. 

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    mariana1114 :  we also had a Destination Wedding and actually never considered any day but a Saturday in order to make it easier for guests to attend, accommodation in various price points / availability of Airbnb did matter to the majority of our non family guests and not having to take days off from work was a deal breaker in several cases as well – so I’m speaking partly from that experience as well.

    How many guests are you expecting? Have you spoken to those coming from further away about what would make it easier/to see if they actually can attend at all regardless the day? 

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    mariana1114 :  So if you think it’s not really going to impact numbers of guests more adversely than it anyway would and there are options for places to stay (so not necessarily a huge impact re hotel rates on different days unless they choose the priciest 5 star of the area) then this all comes down to “do you want a Sunday wedding”? If you don’t mind it, it seems a no brainier cost wise for you guys. You could practically pay half your honeymoon with the savings you’d make.

    I think Sunday is also slightly better overall compared to Friday (but then start earlier) as people can arrive at the weekend (not taking days off work) and leave Monday (taking only a half day, or full day off like you mentioned). Excluding the ozzies as they’ll have a bit of a logistical nightmare whatever you do 😅 (A bit like our US guests at our wedding, they all just made a week long holiday of it).

    ETA: if hosting on a Sunday reigns people’s drinking in somewhat I would only take that as a bonus as I personally wouldn’t want people getting sloshed at my wedding. But if you create a good vibe people won’t think about the fact it’s Sunday, I’ve gone to Sunday brunch parties that were wilder and boozier than many weddings. 

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee

    I had a Friday night wedding and loved it. The way I see it…

    If your guests are traveling from out of town for a Friday night wedding, they will probably take Thursday and Friday off of work. They will have to stay Thursday and Friday night but could check out Saturday during the day.

    If your guests travel for a Sunday night wedding, they will likely stay Saturday and Sunday and take Monday off of work- it’s one day more to take off work but the same amount of days in a hotel. On Monday, there may be a rush to travel back home rather than stay and explore the area.

    If people are local, Friday night is a much easier option- can go to work on Friday, party it up at night, and then have the weekend to recover. A Sunday night wedding would be more stressful on them, unless they take Monday off of work.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    Us strangers on the internet can give you different opinions and things to consider but you know your crowd better than we do. So think about who you will be inviting, who is likely to make it and who you really want to make it. Go through those people and weigh up the advantages between a Friday, Saturday or Sunday wedding.

    So for example, a Sunday wedding would have been better for the few children we had attending because they only need Monday off school, rather than a Thursday and a Friday. However, both our families enjoy a drink and wouldn’t enjoy themselves the same on Sunday wedding when they’d be travelling probably very early on a Monday. (Somehow a Saturday they’re fine with and leaving late on the Sunday but a Sunday wedding would be different). Knowing our families and friends they would also prefer to do the Friday then they could sight see on the Saturday and possibly the Sunday. So a Friday wedding would make more sense in that situation.

    Obviously with your longer haul guests they’ll be taking a couple of days off. However, you could look at if there is a difference in flight prices for the different arrival and departure dates (making some assumptions about when people might arrive and depart).

    If you’re still in doubt, then ask you VIPs if the Friday/Sunday works for them and then you can make an educated decision.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    How much more expensive is the hotel on saturday night, compared to the other nights.  My vacation days are important and cost me money, so unless the cost difference was $300+, I would rather pay that and have the wedding on the Saturday than have to take a vacation day….

    Post # 13
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    Blushing bee

    Definitely Saturday – but be sure you can afford to host 200 guests just in case they surprise you!

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    We were playing with the idea of a Sunday wedding to make it cheaper. In the end, we went with a Saturday. It made the most sense for us. People could arrive Friday night, leave sunday. 

    You just transfer all wedding cost to your guests by hosting on another day. 

    Post # 15
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    Blushing bee

    We were considering a Friday or Sunday wedding as it was significantly cheaper, in the end we went for a Saturday. I did not want people to have to worry about booking time off work, especially if they are self employed or don’t get paid time off. 

    We did end up paying a lot more for a Saturday but it’s worth it so that my guests can attend and not worry

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