Post # 17
I definitely think Friday weddings are ok, but we are a bit baised (wink). I would advise to schedule them later in the evening, if possible, so that people don’t have to take off an entire day. I personally don’t see the big deal with people leaving 1/2 day, especially if you give adequate notice with a save the date. The other thing is weddings are OPTIONAL. No one is forced to attend and those that can and want to make it will do.
We have alot of people that work weekends, so Saturdays/Sundays would have been just as much as an inconvenience. Our Friday happens to be NYE so it worked out well!
Post # 18
As far as guests complaining of it being on a Friday…complain away. Your snit isn’t going to bother me. And since they are not paying for, they have no say.
Yeesh, that’s a crappy attitude. No one is getting in a “snit,” people are giving valid concerns that any guest would have in attending a Friday night wedding. I think your kind of attitude is why a lot of people are put off by Friday night weddings, assuming the bride doesn’t care about her guests’ comfort or convienence in the least.
I’m getting married on a Sunday because I really needed the discounts and figured a Sunday wedding would be less inconvienent for my guests than a Friday wedding, as half of them are traveling from out of town. I just hate the thought of everyone trying to rush to my ceremony after a full work day.
Post # 19
We thought about a Friday evening reception, but vetoed it since a lot of our guests were Out of Town. I wish we could have saved the $$ though 😛
I think if a lot of your guests are local it’s okay. I went to two local Friday weddings this summer and used it as an excuse to take a half day from work, since I have comp time. It was nice because I wasn’t rushing. But I think if I’d tried to go straight from work to a wedding I might have been a little resentful of the bride and groom. I will say though that the wedding that started at 7:30 had a much better turnout than the wedding that started at 5:30. So my advice would definitely be to start your ceremony later rather than earlier.
Post # 20
I posted this poll a few weeks ago:
and I ended up booking a Friday night is August. I am having a church ceremony at 4:30 and the reception at 7:00. The farthest anyone has to travel is about an hour (with the exception of maybe 2 or 3 that will be flying in). Everyone I have talked to said they were excited for the excuse to take off a Friday in the middle of summer. When making the decision to make the ceremony early I also realized that not eveyone will make it but will still come to the reception and I am totally ok with that. I think it depends on each person and their situation – how far guests have to travel, and if they will be able to get there for your wedding. Otherwise, it is become increasinly more popular because of the savings (and I know it is huge!) so of course I am going to say go for it but as the others have said, dont be disapointed or angry if some people can’t make it.
Post # 21
Who has a Friday night wedding at 5:30??? Egads!
Post # 22
I think there are obvious pro’s and con’s to having a Friday wedding. I think the biggest thing to consider is whether or not those people you for sure for sure want at the wedding would be able to take a Friday off with reasonable notice. Send the invites out earlier than you would with a Saturday wedding, since more people will need to request time off. If you feel good with a Friday wedding, go for it!
Post # 23
My daughter did in May, and I did (30 years ago, but mine was at 6pm).
The people that want to be there will be there, no matter what time or day it is. I’d personally prefer a Friday evening to a Sunday evening wedding. Who wants to leave early or get home late and have to get up early for work the next day? Even worse if you have to travel far to get home afterwards. I would think people missing a few hours or a half day of work to attend a Friday evening wedding is way more preferable than a Sunday, then travel home and possibly missing a full day of work on Monday.
Post # 24
@lezlers — I had the whole day off for unrelated reasons so at the time I didn’t think anything of it. But in looking back, it does seem really strange because if I’d been at work, I never would have made the ceremony, since Friday traffic around here is hideous.
Regardless of what you want or think, people will do whatever they want, and make exactly the amount of effort they want. I thought that by sending out my STD’s in February for my October wedding, some people could save up a bit for plane tickets to come to the wedding, but I had a few claim poverty. Whatever. If it’s important, people will make the effort to be there for your wedding, no matter what day it’s on. I had a friend who got married at 2:00 on a Wednesday and she had a great turnout. Just goes to show you… 🙂
Post # 25
“Yeesh, that’s a crappy attitude. No one is getting in a “snit,” people are giving valid concerns that any guest would have in attending a Friday night wedding. I think your kind of attitude is why a lot of people are put off by Friday night weddings, assuming the bride doesn’t care about her guests’ comfort or convienence in the least.
I’m getting married on a Sunday because I really needed the discounts and figured a Sunday wedding would be less inconvienent for my guests than a Friday wedding, as half of them are traveling from out of town. I just hate the thought of everyone trying to rush to my ceremony after a full work day.”
Sweetheart, my attitude is anything but crappy. We did consider our guests (GASP!) believe it or not. I am an extremely considerate person. I/we do care about our guests comfort…in no way, shape or form did I say ANYTHING about that. Infact, we care so much for our guest’s comfort that we are inviting all OTT guests to rehearsal dinner because we feel that they traveled the day before and we want to have them join us for dinner. We are also giving all of our OTT guests welcome bags so they have a few snacks and goodies while getting ready and/or hanging out in their room. We are also doing a welcome hour from 9-10pm the night before just in case we missed anyone. Oh and did I mention that we also offered to pay for a few OTT guests’ plane tickets because we really wanted them to join us!??!?
The day of the wedding – ON FRIDAY, we are providing them with a shuttle bus to and from the reception so no one has to worry about getting lost and/or drinking and driving. So, please refrain from pointing the finger and making accusations when you don’t really know.
And who gets married at 5:30pm on a FRIDAY? Not me…because we’re getting married at 4pm. WHY? We’ve always wanted to get married outside and with daylight savings being the following weekend, this is what we chose.
It’s what we want. And again, if a guest is upset about it, I’m sorry, we did what we could, but these are just how the cards are falling.
And just like you…we really needed the discounts. Which is why YOU choose Sunday and WE choose Friday. We all have our different reasons.
Post # 26
@christalynn11 – I wasn’t trying to insult any Friday brides, I just personally don’t like Friday weddings. They are so much of a hassle for me and I wanted to give the OP that feedback. Getting off work at 5 then changing in the bathroom at work, rushing to the ceremony site (fighting rush hour traffic) is not fun. I’ve wanted to go to every wedding that I was invited to on a Friday but they have all been difficult. I don’t have a job that allows ANY leeway on getting off early or even taking days off. Plus if by some miracle I can get off I don’t get paid time off. Also I totally hear you on my cousin thing. I knew I wouldn’t be able to make it to the ceremony so I rsvp’d no to everything, then I get a call from my aunt saying I had to go to the reception because (cousin) would be pissed if I didn’t, so I went and then she complained about that, she was a friday bride that felt everyone should take off the whole day and treat it like Saturday. But even w/o my experience with her, the Friday weddings I’ve gone too where just stressful given my circumstance.
Post # 27
I was responding to the attitude espoused in your initial post, specifically, using phrases like “snit” to describe people’s honest responses to the OP’s question and seeming disregard of any of your guests’ potential issues with phrases like “no money, no say.” All we have to go on is what you post so excuse the hell out of me if I didn’t know every detail of your planned hospitality campaign. By the tone of your response, however, I think I was spot on with my comment about your attitude as it is way out of proportion with what I originally posted.
In other words, calm down sweetheart, you can have your wedding whenever and wherever you want, no one is trying to force you to anything you don’t want to. Yeesh is right.
Post # 28
Thank you all for the responses!
We were thinking about Friday at 7pm and then the reception from 8-11pm.
Saturday were were going to have a wedding brunch and then go rest and hang out with friends.
Post # 29
Not remotely offended 🙂 I think your comments were helpful to the OP, I was mostly playing the Friday night bride perspective to your Friday night guest! 🙂
Same here – Ceremony is at 7 with the reception to follow immediately. Same location, no gap. We are doing a first look so the guests aren’t waiting forever for us – and more importantly, to eat! I’ll come back after my wedding next month and give you real life feedback in a recap! 🙂
Post # 30
I was responding to the attitude espoused in your initial post, specifically, using phrases like “snit” to describe people’s honest responses to the OP’s question and seeming disregard of any of your guests’ potential issues with phrases like “no money, no say.”
As far as guests complaining of it being on a Friday…complain away. Your snit isn’t going to bother me. And since they are not paying for, they have no say
Let’s just clarify, Lezlers, that when I used the word ‘snit’ in the sentence above, I was not referring to bees posting on this thread at all…I was referring to guests getting annoyed about brides having a wedding on a Friday. Okay?!
In my last post to you, I was merely defending myself against your accusations. You would’ve done the same thing. So again, enough. You don’t know anything about me or my wedding and same goes with me for you. I’ve seen other comments that you have posted yesterday and maybe you should listen to your own advice at times.
Post # 31
In my case, my venue had no saturdays left for 2011, so we had to choose a Friday or Sunday. We chose Friday because we know our guests will partake in drinking and wanted it to be on the weekend. Also, it was NOT that much cheaper for us to have it on a Friday. We saved maybe a few hundred dollars.