Post # 32
I’ve been to one Friday wedding and my experience was that a lot of people left early becasue they were tired after a long work week. It depends on your crowd though. If you have a lot of people traveling I would say do a Saturday wedding if you want them to be there otherwise it means taking off of work, school, etc.
Post # 33
Ah, I see, your totally over-the-top response was really in response to other posts I’ve made on this board you don’t like that have nothing whatsoever to do with what I’ve posted here. I’m flattered I have a fan.
Post # 34
I had a Friday night wedding and it was fine. You just have to understand that not as many people would be able to make it and some people did end up missing the ceremony because of traffic. we would have done a Saturday wedding but our venue wouldn’t let us do the ceremony there on Saturday.
Post # 35
@lezlers: Who has a Friday night wedding at 5:30??? Egads
Ummmm….we are. EGADS! 80% of our 60 guests are out of town, and will most likely already be in town for at least one day before our ceremony, because they will have to fly in for the wedding. We took every single guest in to consideration before deciding on a Friday, and every single person we talked to had no qualms about a Friday wedding. Not all weddings or situations are created equal. We chose that time specifically because by the time the ceremony is over, and people drive from the church to the reception, it will be probably 6:30pm, if not a bit later. We have the reception venue from 6:30pm-11:30pm, so there ya go.
As for the OP, obviously I am biased because we’re having a Friday wedding. We are the ones paying for it, and the savings was significant enough that it wasn’t really a hard choice for us. People will be there if they want to be, and are able to be. And if not? Then that sucks, but we’ll understand. Just be sure to let people know well enough in advance that it is not on a Saturday (like we have) and you should be fine.
Post # 36
Personally, I think Friday weddings are a fine idea, especially if you want an evening wedding. I’d much rather go to a local wedding on a Friday night than a Sunday night. It gives me the weekend to rest if need be.
Post # 37
I’m having a Thursday night wedding, so I think Friday nights are just fine too! 🙂
Ultimately, though, I think you have to know your guest list and determine yourself if it’s going to be “fine” or not. We are having a super-small wedding (it’s the second time around for both of us), with JUST our immediate family members, and we’ve decided to get married in the town closest to the bulk of both of our families. I mean, we are still going to have some family members who are having to do a long drive, but most of those particular members are retired. We are giving everyone else waaaaaay advance notice so that they can make plans accordingly.
I know that it might be “inconvenient,” but for our guest list, we also know that they wouldn’t miss this day for anything. And we’re getting married in DC in June…with a guest list of 40, there’s absolutely NO way we’d be able to meet the food and beverage minimums for an evening ceremony, cocktail hour, and dinner reception at any of the venues we like on a Saturday night. The venues flat-out wouldn’t book us. But for a Thursday night? Man, we’re getting a great deal! I’m actually pretty pleased with my negotiating. 🙂
But for larger weddings and guest lists that include extended family and friends/acquaintences with whom you’re not terribly close, you may find that people choose not to come because of the timing. I guess it depends on how YOU feel about that. IMO, brides these days are looking at different days and different venues and different reception styles to stay within a reasonable budget, and I wouldn’t be surprised or put out if I were to get an invitation for a Friday wedding.
Post # 38
@lezlers: your guests will have to take Monday off to travel back home.
Post # 39
I’m really sick of hearing about how inconvenienced a guest feels. Its not YOUR day. You can decline the invite!! I’m planning a wedding and I am up almost everynight worrying about what other people are going to think and I’m sick of it. Unless you’re signing a check that is paying for the wedding, its not your concern.
Wedding cost A LOT of money–talk about an “inconvenience”. It really irks me that I will have guests that are unsatisfied with my date, my church, my venue, my flowers, or even my dress!
You are invited to CELEBRATE. If you are going to complain- DON’T COME.
Post # 40
We originally planned a Saturday wedding, but due to venue availability, we had to move it to a Friday. About half our guests were from out of town, and I really don’t think it impacted attendance at all. I would just suggest to you to have it in the evening; our wedding started at 6 p.m. so people could just leave work a little early if they had to. Most of our out of town guests flew in Friday morning to make it, so they only missed one day of work. I’ll be doing the same thing for a friend of mine in October and I don’t mind taking one day off at all!
@jennifer.master: True about the Sunday travel. Just proves that there will be inconveniences relate to any day of the week you may choose to hae your wedding.