Post # 32
As a guest I loathe Friday weddings. I understand the reasons why people do them but for me it is a big hassle because I live about 40 mins from the city but work a further hour from home out of the city. So I basically have to either take a leave day or half a leave day but given that spring/summer is my busy season (as well as wedding season!) I would probably end up having to just go in early to ensure that the work got completed for before the weekend (we do a lot of reactive work rather than planned). So I wouldn’t be able to enjoy/particiapte as much in a Friday night wedding because I would be exhausted, rushed and would probably leave early (or decline depending on the relationship). I enjoy going to weddings and really hate missing the ceremony and not being able to fully participate.
Post # 33
I’m having a Sunday wedding. I still get a lot pf discounted prices from vendors and no one has to take off work. The cons are that I don’t think people will want to stay very late because they have to work the next day, but i’m ok with not having the party/club atmosphere.
Post # 34
I am having a Friday night wedding (ceremony is at 6, reception 630-1130). 85%+ of our guests are local, so I didn’t see a major issue.
We want the entire weekend to relax before leaving for our honey moon and it’s saving us a little bit of money!
I’ve only heard (through the grapevine) a few grumbles, but they are from insignificant people, so I don’t really care.
Post # 35
Mine was on a Friday, but I would probably rather attend a larger wedding on a Saturday. It’s just more convienent.
Post # 36
I know Fridays are a lot cheaper and I don’t fault brides for choosing it for that reason, but I HATE Friday weddings because it’s not easy for me to take the day off.
Post # 37
Friday weddings are cheaper, hands down. Saturday weddings are more convenient, but that doesn’t mean that Friday is out of the question. So it partially comes down to whether cost or convenience is more important to you?
Post # 38
I would prefer a Friday wedding as a guest. I like to be lazy on Saturdays.
Post # 39
One thing to think about with Friday weddings is how to work in all the extra stuff (rehearsals, brunches, etc.) in a way that doesn’t require the wedding party to give up too many weekdays. I am a bridesmaid in a Friday wedding next month and the Friday wedding isn’t so much a big deal. What is a big deal is the Wednesday rehearsal, followed by wedding activities all day Thursday… I think with a Friday wedding, there should be slightly lower expectations in terms of participation in pre-wedding activities. But I think a Friday wedding can be a great way to save money if you plan well. 🙂
Post # 40
As a guest I dislike Friday weddings. The ones I’ve been to started around 5 or 6, and when you work until 5, you end up having to leave work early so you can go home and change and get ready. And then you have to deal with rush hour traffic trying to get there. Because of all the logistical issues, people tend to be later to the ceremony, so as the bride you might have to decide whether to start on time and have people missing, or make your guests wait for others to show up. Also, it’s a really long day for guests to attend a wedding on top of having worked all day.
Everyone keeps saying that having it on a non-Saturday is a great way to save money. But personally, I’m having my wedding on a Sunday of a holiday weekend, and only one vendor, the DJ, gave us any kind of discount for having it on a non-Saturday.
Post # 41
I am all about a Saturday wedding. I can only think of a few people I’d take a day off work for and that is my sibling, my child or my parents. I’d be more apt to do it if there was some big reason the bride chose Friday, but I’d be highly annoyed if the bride bragged about choosing Friday because she saved money. Seeing as the guests will be losing money by having to take a day off on top of the gifts, travel etc. to me it is like transfering the cost to your guests. Howver the OP situation would make sense, if you are working around a holiday, someone is getting deployed, you are a teacher so a summer wedding is the only time you can get off- those sorts of things wouldn’t bother me.