(Closed) Friday Weddings – Yay or nay?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Friday weddings?

    Yes

    No

    Depends (explain below)

  • Post # 31
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I’m fine with a local Friday wedding. It’s not a big deal for me to take off a couple hours on a Friday (85% of my office leaves by noon on Fridays). As for a destination wedding, same rule would apply for a Saturday destination wedding. If I’m close, I’ll be there. If not, I won’t.

    Post # 32
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    I don’t mind Friday weddings. If it’s close friends or family, I’ll gladly take off to attend, even if it’s not local for me. If it’s an aquaintance or a distant relative, and I have to take off work to attend (so if it starts earlier than 6:30), I probably won’t, but I won’t bear any ill will towards them either.

    As for me personally, I wouldn’t have a Friday wedding. My brother and SIL live 3 hours away, my SO’s sister and Brother-In-Law live across the country, and my SO’s aunt (who he’s close with) lives 8 hours away. I wouldn’t want to inconvenience them by having the wedding on a Friday, or make them take extra time off of work. I’d rather do a Sunday morning wedding, or a smaller wedding, if cost was the issue.

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2019

    I have no issue with Friday weddings but I am in the position to take time off & always love the opportunity to take a half day, ha! 

    It’s hard to accomidate everyone, we do our best but there will always outliers. Do what’s best for y’all and make the necessary accomidations for your guest, no sense in driving yourself crazy. Funny enough, we have a Saturday wedding coming up in December but I am taking a half day the Friday before because we have to travel. So honestly, you’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. Be reasonable with your timing & location and let your guest decide for themselves.  

    I plan on having a Sunday wedding because I have a good friend who is Jewish and wouldn’t be able to attend a Saturday or Friday evening event. It’s important to me to have her there so I am planning a Sunday wedding alittle differently so guest will get home at a decent time if they need to work the following Monday. It is what it is, enjoy the process! Goodluck bee! 

    Post # 34
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2019 - Saint Louis, MO

    My fiancé and I are planning on doing a Friday simply because Fridays are cheaper and at the venue we love all the Saturday’s are booked up. We are saving 1500 just having the wedding on a Friday. Also I only have a small handful of guests coming from out of state. I feel like if people are going to come on a Saturday they will come on a Friday. I plan on having my wedding start at 5 or 6pm.

    Post # 35
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    We’re having a Friday wedding (next week!) and so far it’s turned out just fine. We let all VIPs know as soon as we had the date and we’ve had most everyone RSVP yes, even with family out of town. Most of the declines were from my mom’s work friends or from distant family. The bigger thing we were worried about was the traffic and ease of navigation for out of town family. We found a place that was not in the middle of the city (we live in a big city) but just outside of it, not far off the interstate, and near a nice hotel.

    TLDR; The Friday wasn’t an issue for us at all, but we also made sure that we got a place in as convenient a place as possible for out of towners.

    Post # 36
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    Friday weddings are perfectly fine. I would send save the dates just to give a heads up to VIPs that may need to request a half day. I think only Monday through Thursday weddings inconvenience guests. 

    Post # 37
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    Fridays are only ok if it’s local and later in the evening. Otherwise am not taking off work just to attend. 

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    ebonyt93 : glad *you’re* saving money but unfortunately it’s passing additional costs to the guests as a pp mentioned. … may affect your acceptance rate and gifts…

    Post # 38
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2019 - Saint Louis, MO

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    mrstodd2bee :  what extra costs am I passing to guests? 

    Post # 39
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2019

    I think it depends on the location and your guests. Are you having your wedding in an area where people may want to spend the weekend you may want to go with Friday then you have the weekend with everyone after. Will people be coming out of town.  Is it local all these things can make a difference. 

    Post # 40
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I’d most likely not be able to come. I’m a teacher and I can’t just take days off. If the wedding was in my hometown or somewhere really close AND started late-ish in the afternoon, I’d try my best. But over here, weddings frequently start early afternoon and that would mean a lot of stress for me. I’ve only been to one Friday wedding and in that case I was superlucky. It actually started around 2pm but it was the very last day of school and the principal gave me permission to skip that day since there wasn’t much happening anyway. Any other Friday would have been impossible.

    Post # 41
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    Know your crowd. I usually work until at least 5 PM on Fridays and it’s a huge hassle to leave early or take time off. And Friday afternoon traffic around where I live is an utter and total nightmare. H has a very limited number of paid vacation days to take off, and has to use them up for friends’ weddings. Almost every wedding we’ve attended (other than our own) was on a Friday for the past two years, and it has been stressful. I do think it’s selfish for a couple to have a Friday afternoon wedding because of the inconvenience and cost to guests.  Friday evening (7 pm or later) for a mostly local crowd?  Fine.

    Post # 42
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

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    ebonyt93 :  it’s not exactly passing costs to guests, but while a Friday wedding is cheaper for you, it can cost your guests more to attend.

    For example weekday hourly paid workers. You will be surprised how many jobs are time sheet based, and people take home pay will be affected.

    Even if people have paid personal/vacation days off, they still have to do that.

    Post # 43
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2019 - Saint Louis, MO

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    cherryberrypie :  glad most of my guests don’t mind we are doing it on a Friday! To each their own! Unless someone is going to pay for our wedding I’ll pass! The wedding is going to start at 6:30pm. I know for me I am blessed to have a job where I can take off with ease. If they don’t want to come that’s fine and I will completely understand but most if not all are super excited! The venue we picked is extremely popular in STL and has no Saturday’s open except 1 day in November and December and we want to take pictures on the rooftop so November and December will not work. Thank God my guests are understanding and know we are a young couple doing the best we can!! 

    Post # 44
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    Blushing bee

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    cthebeenyc :  I said depends. We are having a Friday wedding to give people from out of town time to get back home. We hate when we have to rush home Sunday morning after a Saturday wedding. 

    That said, we are getting married Black Friday. So everyone has the day before off, and sometimes even a couple days before!

    Post # 45
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2019 - Saint Louis, MO

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    lolac :  do what works best for you. We are having a Friday wedding and guess what? Our guests haven’t said a peep only happy responses.

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