(Closed) "Friend" asked for me to return gift they gave me.

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 46
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Buzzing bee

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Vitana:  Why does it matter if it’s tacky or not?

It seems to me that you two aren’t even friends anymore and you want to keep the ring out of spite or to “teach him a lesson.”

Give it back. Block him on Facebook. Move on. It’s that simple.

 

I’ve been in a somewhat similar situation before. One of my exes called me 6 months after we broke up to ask for a couple of expensive presents he had purchased me for my birthday a year and two years prior. I had already sold these at that point and he was livid. One of them was a camera and the other was an ugly bracelet that he claimed was a family heirloom (but I had not been told this until he called me that day demanding it back, so I’m not sure of the authenticity of that statement). I left him with the info of the shop where I had sold the bracelet. If these items had been in my posession I would have given them back just to not have to deal with any drama because he spun out of control after that. I opted to block him on everything and change my phone number since we weren’t living in the same state and I felt like a restraining order was overkill. He emailed me a couple of times to ask to talk and I never answered. I wish him well, but I don’t want him in my life.

Post # 47
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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Vitana:  That’s an odd request for sure. I think to avoid any drama I would just say “sure” and mail it back to him. I think it is weird of him to suddenly request it back, but I wouldn’t want to be caught in any potential drama. This way you can send it back and keep away from him. 

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Post # 48
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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Vitana:  If you never see the guy, I’d honestly just not respond. 

Post # 50
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Buzzing bee

He shouldn’t be asking for it back but I personally would tell him you appreciated the gift but are happy to give it back if its important to him and give it right on back.  Just because the whole situation is so weird. 

Post # 51
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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Vitana:  I didn’t say giving a gift to a friend was odd, but that giving a ring specifically was a bit out of the ordinary to me. It probably has to do with the fact that I see certain gifts as more intimate than others, and a ring often falls within that category. While it’s your choice to give it back or not, I solely expressed that I would not want to deal with any potential drama that could arise and would just give it back, even if I think it’s rude of him to ask that of you. 

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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