(Closed) Friend assuming her new SO is invited…what to do?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Hillzie: I would wait and see where their relationship is when you send the invites. Will she know other people at the wedding?

Are there a big group of unattached friends who all know each other invited?

Is your wedding local?

If you are having a local wedding with a bunch of people she knows (and she and her new beau haven’t moved in together by the time the invites are sent out), I’d just make it clear on the invite that the invitation is for one person and address it only to her.

If she asks to bring him, I’d politely let her know that unfortunately you  have a space constraint and are unable to accommodate him.

Post # 4
921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would just nicely tell her that unfortunately there isn’t enough room to give her a +1 for the wedding next time she brings it up.

Post # 5
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would honestly just wait and see if I were you. At the end of the day, you want all of your guests to be as happy as possible at the wedding. I understand you have space restricitons, but you can always work around it when the time comes to try and grant her a plus 1. For now, if you want you can warn her by saying something like “We have major space restrictions so I can’t promise you can bring a date, but I will try my best especially considering you’ve found such a great guy”

Post # 6
1559 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Hillzie: As someone who has been to a wedding without a date before, it can be very awkward if you don’t know anybody there. 

Unless she is part of a big group of friends who will keep her company, then I think you should go ahead and give her a +1. 

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