(Closed) Friend bullying me into being a bridesmaid

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
9647 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

remind her that it is your wedding and you pick who the bridesmaids are, explain that you want supportive friends who understand it is your wedding and not theirs. if she threatens not to come unless she is a bridesmaid say that you are sorry that she will not be able to attend. 

Post # 4
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wouldn’t say “we’ll see” because that will only prolong the agony of her pestering you.  Just tell her it’s a small wedding party and it’s already been set.  IF she asks why your best friend and not her, say, “Becasue she’s my best friend and I only wanted a small wedding party of two bridesmaids”. 


Post # 5
11272 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

as pp said, tell her that it is a small wedding and will only have 2 bm.  however, it is still really important to you for her to be part of your big day so perhaps you can give her another duty at the wedding.  read a poem, hand out programs, say grace.  there are many things to keep her really special.


Post # 6
746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I second mypinkshoes! You might want to practice at home with your Fiance saying ‘no’ — I know it sounds silly, but it could really help. Also, give her a job where her aggressive personality will be an asset — perhaps she could be an usher?

Post # 7
123 posts
Blushing bee

@likelimeade:  Be a bouncer at the reception,lol

Just tell her no, and stick by your word. Keep explaining you have 2 groomsmen and want an even number, and explain why you cose those 2 women.

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