Friend cheated on husband – time to end the friendship?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

bucky91 :  in my opinion, I don’t think you’re being judgy, you just don’t want and/or need that sh*t in your life. Save the drama for your llama, all set! I wouldn’t want that negativity around either. Bye!

Post # 18
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Sugar bee

A relationship/marriage is between two people.  And what you might see as a doting husband, could be a facade and behind the scenes he could be abusive or neglectful.

Yes, people can be assholes and cheat for no good reason other than they want to cheat, but it’s really hard to judge a relationship based off of what you see on the outside.  

 

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper

bucky91 :  she would not be my friend any longer.  But that’s just me.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

She sounds gross. She’s showing no remorse, revelling in the drama, and playing the martyr. Since you’re not even close anymore…Give her the chop!

Post # 22
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Sugar bee

I agree with others. that kind of behaviour is really telling about a person’s character. To be so cavalier about cheating and so self pitying about the consequences shows that she’s extremely narcissistic and lacks empathy. If that’s how she acts toward the person she’s meant to love most in the world, imagine how she’ll act toward her friends. 

Post # 23
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Newbee

bucky91 :  i don’t think you’re being too judgmental. Just seeing the posts and feeling the way you feel when you see them is a reason enough imo to distance yourself. On top of that, i think this whole issue is showing her true character, and i personally wouldn’t want someone like that in my life. There’s nothing wrong with distancing yourself from someone who doesn’t enhance your life. We need relationships with people who add to our lives and make it better! 

Post # 24
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Newbee

bucky91 :  that’s why i would just distance myself. It’s not with the headache. This is real life with real people who have feelings and she’s treating it like it’s high school/middle school nonsense. Ugh!

Post # 25
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Newbee

bucky91 :  I was best friends with a girl since high school, and we stopped talked about 6 months ago completely.

Our friendship just faded because she was cheating on her fiance the same time my serious boyfriend cheated on me. She would tell me how much of a jerk he was for cheating on me, and then she would talk about how conflicted she was about the two guys she was backstabbing to me the very minute.

It was very hard to lose her as a friend, and I actually didn’t just delete her from my life. It just kind of happened. I was sad for a while, but you get over it and find better people to surround yourself with.

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