- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
Ok so as some of you know I got married last Saturday and it was magical 😊 My BFF was maid of honour but is more than a BFF she is known as another sister in my family as she has been my friend since 6 years old. We argue like siblings and have always said you can’t choose family. We actually didn’t speak for a year following me upsetting her when I got her work where I worked and not agreeing with her behaviour – and treating her as an employee while at work- basically being professional rather than giving her leeway and allowances and special treatment. When she saw on FB and through friends I was engaged she got back in touch and in January I asked her to be maid of honour – there was never a question…
she loves my husband and has been there through shit relationships and past choices and often didn’t like previous partners – often valid reasons – but also as she even said, she felt jealousy and that they were taking over my life and I put them first… Sometimes true.
So my mum is in this country just for my wedding and leaving on Monday – she asked my mum, sister and aunt to meet for dinner and then told me and said “not sure if you feel it’s ok but girls only just us” I said sure and I do feel that’s ok but just it was 3 days after we tied the knot and my husband still wants to see my mum some more as she only comes here once a year if that! But I was fine, but it was when she then said “we could then come to yours for drinks after … Oh will he be there … Yes of course he lives with you too…” She seemed to want me to ask him not to be there. I said errr yessss that’s how it will be now we are married.
Anyway we met and she was quieter than usual and all my family wanted to discuss is how I felt being married and now babies – she was shocked that I had decided I was actually going to start trying this year -when before we both said we weren’t ready. she didn’t talk as much and my mum noticed.
Do you think it’s getting used to the change that it’s no longer me her and my family?
Will this change?
she broke up with her partner whom I adore of 5 years to travel and to date other guys …. I totally get this as this was me before my husband but she didn’t really approve.
Will she be able to go out as I did with her ex as the third wheel ? I really didn’t mind.
I want her to accept the new dynamics … How can I make it easier? Any advice?