(Closed) Friend Dilemma: Need Your Advice

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What should I do?

    Talk to friend (about what?)

    Send an invite and hope for the best

    Send an invite and expect the worst

    Don't send an invite

    Other (tell me what you think in the comments)

  • Post # 3
    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think…you need to just invite her.  The worst that will happen is you will feel a little sad when she declines.  The best that could happen is that your friend comes to your wedding to celebrate with you.

    Post # 4
    3470 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    Why don’t you talk to the mutual friend about it– tell her that you know the dates are the same, and you understand if she can’t make it to your wedding.  Let her know that you still want to maintain your friendship, and would love it if she could make it to a pre-wedding event or something. 

    Basically– be the better person.  Chances are, this local wedding will be much easier for her to attend than your wedding which is far away; even without the other wedding, there are lots of reasons why she potentially wouldn’t be able to make it to yours.  But she’s your friend, and you’ve got to be understanding of her situation. 

    Post # 6
    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think you should send her an invite because she was a friend and you’d be thrilled to have her there. I think you’re right in assuming that she has a stronger relationship with the other girl, and will probably choose her wedding, but at least she knows you thought of her, which means a lot.

    Post # 8
    2008 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Yes, do invite her.  She’s your friend, she might be hurt to not be included as much as you would be to have her not come!

    I agree with inviting her to a pre-wedding event and telling her it would mean so much for her to attend. 

    The topic ‘Friend Dilemma: Need Your Advice’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors