Post # 16
taytay41 : because she’s very clear that it’s a wedding gift, I would send her a thank you card, as that’s what you would do to other people who give you a wedding gift. You don’t give a gift to say thank you to someone who gives you a gift, do you?
I’m a musician who has played at countless weddings as a gift. The only time I was confused was when the bride, my friend, paid me. Because she told me she would pay me ahead of time, I got her a gift. Then someone at the wedding told me I was supposed to give the pay back as the gift. Ugh.
It’s a wedding gift, accept it, say thank you graciously, send her a card. Be glad you have such a nice friend.
Post # 17
She wouldn’t be staying at our home. As my first post said “her time and home” is what is needed.
I think maybe I’ll write her a thank you card- with a GC to a dog supply store (for her dog- I mean- he’s letting a dog share his home too) and take her out for a nice dinner.
A gift is a gift… But if I were to pay for this service ($1700.00) it just seems like an awful lot as a gift to myself and Darling Husband. Personally just makes me feel slightly uncomfortable with someone being that generous.
Our home will be checked on by one of DHs brothers.
Post # 18
I had a friend watch my 2 dogs for 3 nights. I left $100 cash for her in with the dog supplies.
Post # 19
taytay41 : Some of our friends did a similar thing for us. I took them out for dinner and purchased them a nice gift while on vacation, along with a heartfelt card.
Post # 20
For reference, when I book a dog sitter off of Doggyvacay.com I pay $25 a day, and tip them an extra day… The lady that I book lets my pomeranian sleep in her bed with her…
$1700 for 2 weeks is outrageous to me. But a gift is a gift… Maybe send her with a bottle of wine, gift card for dinner, and all of the pet supplies
Post # 21
TxIslandGirl : I was just gonna say the same thing!! I Work from home and occasionally dogsit thrhough Rover.com, and I’d need to watch four dogs for two weeks for that kind of money!!
Anyway OP, I think that taking your friend out to dinner and maybe bringing her back a small gift (and possibly something for her dog as well.) would be more than enough.
Post # 21
I would compare it to what you would have to pay a dogsitter on rover, not a kennel.
Post # 22
bring something nice from your honeymoon.
Post # 23
TxIslandGirl : it may sound outrageous but it’s something Darling Husband and I are willing to pay. We went to different kennels to see what they had to offer and the one we feel more comfortable with would be $1700.
There were some that were more expensive. Others waaaay cheaper. But none of those satisfied us that they would look after our girl how we would prefer.
Maybe it’s the area? Costs range from $1000.00- $2500.00 for the time frame we are looking at.
We have a relationship with this kennel as well. She’s been to training and daycare and has interacted with the trainers and keepers. So it’s not someone we just find off of a website.
Post # 24
taytay41 : We has friends watch out dog while we were on our honeymoon. We got them a gift from our travels and took them out for a nice dinner. That was their ‘payment’. They seemed really happy with it, and happy to have our dog for 10 days.
Post # 25
a friend/coworker of mine watched our dog when we were having issues finding a sitter through rover.com.
we felt it’d be strange to negotiate cost or even to give him a check/cash, so instead we went to home depot and got him a $200 gift card. (That was how much the sitters we were looking at through rover were charging for the job)
In the case of your friend, a thoughtful gift may be more appropriate, since a gift card is essentially cash (dunno why it made me feel better though hahaha).
Post # 26
I like the small basket of treats for her as well. And then my go-to gift for people giving me a substantial gift/favor that saves me considerable money is a gift certificate for a more upscale restaurant they might not otherwise treat themselves to – such as the new french place that opened up and is getting rave reviews or the fancy steakhouse where they’ve never heard of a bloomin’ onion and make sure it’s enough for two to order an app, two entrees, two desserts, and a bottle of wine (so somewhere in the $200-250ish range).
If I otherwise knew they had a hobby or something else going on the same amount in a gift certificate might work as well, but I generally gravitate to the special occasion type restaurant.
Post # 27
I always bring back something nice to anyone who cares for my pets when I am away. Even if they just stop by to feed the cat for a weekend. When my SIL stayed at our house to care for my 2 dogs and cat, we brought her a gift and also paid her like $50/day. It costs way more than that to use the kennel we like for all my pets, so I feel like its still a deal. And I want her to be eager to say yes in the future. If she refused the money, I would probably get her a gift card or take her out to dinner a few times.