- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
I’m not engaged yet but I know this issue is going to happen as soon as I do and start telling people. I want to know what I’m going to do when the time comes. The issue is selecting my bridesmaids. I know who I’m going to ask to be Maid/Matron of Honor. i was her Maid/Matron of Honor, she loves loves loves planning parties and events, and is an awesome friend. No issue there.
The problem is with two of my oldest friends. First some background. Myself, Friend 1 and Friend 2 were inseperable for years. We did everything together. Friend 1 was the first of us to get a boyfriend and get married while Friend 2 and I were single for a long time. But Friend 2 had a very strange relationship with Friend 1 and her husband. It started when they were dating and carried over after they were married. Friend 2 was Friend 1’s Maid/Matron of Honor actually. She totally took over their wedding. Friend 2 was in the middle of that relationship for years. Friend 1 and her husband eventually had to move for work and asked Friend 2 to go with them (and live with them). I stay here and tried to stay out of it as much as I could. Anyways Friend 1 finally got tired of not having any time along with her husband (Friend 2 treated him like her husband too) and their friendship ended. Badly. They haven’t spoken in about 5-6 years now. But I did maintain friendships with both of them. And this is the problem.
I’m closer to Friend 1 as she moved back here with her family a few years ago while Friend 2 still lives away. Friend 2 has always been extremely self centered and I don’t even talk to her on the phone much. She usually talks about her job and her relationship (with a guy who’s married but that’s also none of my business). I know that if I ask one of these girls I really have to ask both to keep the peace. But I don’t want to deal with that drama on one of the happiest days of my life. I’m leaning towards just having a Maid/Matron of Honor and that’s it. Ugh friend drama is the worst. I know Friend 2 in particular will expect to be asked and might even bring it up immediately.