(Closed) Friend Drama and Bridesmaids

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@LarLa:  I would just talk to each of them separately about your concerns and ask them if either would be ok with being in a bridal party with the other one.  They might just be mature enough to say, sure, we can do that, without having to start a bunch of drama.  Regardless of what we see on TV I refuse to believe that everyone has to act like spoiled immature little brats all the time. 

If you get the feeling from talking to them that one or the other will NOT be able to put their feelings aside to make you happy…. just go with your plan of just having a Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 4
1491 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LarLa:   Now that is quite the situation!  And I agree, keeping the drama to a minimum from the start is the best way to go.   However, it sounds like you and Friend 1’s friendship has grown and been sustained over time.  And your friendship with Friend 2 has suffered a bit from distance and her issues. 


You could stick to having only the Maid/Matron of Honor, but then you might miss out on having a bridesmaid (or four, or six, etc).  If you do want an additional bridesmaid,  I would ask Friend 1 to be a bridesmaid as you two seem to be closer now…plus she lives closer.    There is no requirement that you have to have old friends who you are not close with anymore as your bridemaid.  Only pick people that you feel good about and that you think will be a benefit to your wedding and your mood, not a downer or a drama-llama.  Also, people who automatically  “expect” to be asked to be a bridesmaid, or bring it up themselves?  Uh no.   



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