Post # 1
I have a friend who has recently opened a cake business and she’s pretty short on customers. I don’t find this surprising because her cakes aren’t very good. The actual cakes themselves don’t taste great, the icing is always sickly and the decoration is kind of terrible. They’re nowhere near up to the professional standard.
She asked me last week if she could make my wedding cake as her gift to me and I’m totally stuck. I was talking about wedding planning and I mentioned to a friend that I can’t seem to find the rght baker. I guess word must have gotten back to her. I’m really not sure what to do because I don’t have a baker and she knows that so I can’t even lie about it.
She is the dramatic type so if I say ‘Sorry but Made Up Bakery is doing my cake’ she’ll whine and huff and nag me to tell her why I don’t want her to bake me a wedding cake filled with love. She frequently bemoans her lack of customers to me and I’m scared I’ll be forced to tell her that her cakes are crap. What do I do?
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
@Carlasgettingmarried: Why not just say that someone else has already offered to pay for your cake as a gift? Maybe your grandma or something, but make sure you let your grandma know so if this friend asks at the wedding then you won’t get dropped in it!
Post # 4
Could you tell her that your venue/caterer has a preferred vendors list and you have to chose a bakery from that list? She sounds like the type that is going to be offended no matter what you do or don’t do. Just tell her nicely that you already have a baker who is doing your cake but thanks for the offer. There’s no easy way out of this one. Sorry!
Post # 5
@chronicwhimsy: This is exactly what I was going to say. So and so heard you didnt know where to get your cake and they have already put a deposit and a first payment on a cake as a gift for you.
Post # 6
@GeorgiaBride5: This. “Oh, I really appreciate it, but I have to work off of a list from the venue and I am not allowed to use vendors off the list.”
Post # 7
Uhm, you say “Thank you for the offer, but no; I have our wedding cake covered already.” Even if you don’t really have it covered – that’s not her beeswax and you don’t want her cake, so end of story.
And let her huff and puff all she wants – it’s terrible business practice.
If she really gets on your case, let her know: “Is this how you plan on attracting customers? Because it’s really making me feel uncomfortable.”
Post # 8
Could you let her make a groom’s cake?
Post # 9
@slpscientist: I don’t think so. My FH and I are both obsessed with food and the cake is important to us. I really don’t want a cake that I’ll be embarassed to have at my wedding. Even if it is only a groom’s cake.
Post # 10
I have a friend who is a “baker” too…her stuff tastes like straight baking soda and is the consistency of a dry sponge, but I digress.
I’d keep it simple: “The cake situation is taken care of.” If she asks by whom, just play coy and say “It’s all a surprise.” Keep repeating yourself if she starts nagging.
Post # 11
What about having her make a cake or cupcakes for a shower if she’s that insistent to make you one?
Post # 12
is she a legit business, permits and all? maybe tell her that you’re not allowed to bring any food vendors that don’t have insurance/sanitary permits/something like that
Post # 13
My response when I needed to fire a vendor was just to blame it on my fiance! This might work if she is not friends with yours (and if it’s ok with him!). That way, you can give her the critical feedback that maybe she needs in order to not destroy her financial future with a business that will never work out, but it’s not like she’s going to whine to him about it.
Post # 14
A: I’d want someone to tell me if what I produced was shitty. I used to make soap and I used my friends and family as testers. I trusted their opinions. If I made something bad, I wanted to know. Just putting that out there.
B: Just tell her you’ve got it covered or your mother/grandmother/friend/whoever put a down payment on a cake as a gift for you.
Post # 15
I was about to say what a PP just said. I am in the midst of becoming a legal baker…there is a LOT that goes into it. You have to have the health dept. permits, inspections, a business license and the most important thing…insurance! If she doesn’t have these things, tell her the venue won’t allow a cake from a baker that doens’t have insurance/isn’t licensed.
Post # 16
This is a situation that calls out for “I’m so sorry but we have to use our venue’s approved vendors”.
After all, nobody wants their wedding blogged on Cake Wrecks, do they?