(Closed) Friend drama threatens my wedding hair… what would you do? ( a little long)

posted 7 years ago in Beauty
  • poll: What would you do?
    Hire J, since she is willing. : (8 votes)
    36 %
    Tell J there is too much drama and find someone else. : (3 votes)
    14 %
    Have a hair trial with J and talk with her before deciding. : (11 votes)
    50 %
    Other (please explain below) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    5183 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think she sounds like a good deal. Maybe to protect yourself, you should have your lawyer draft a contract. Then if anything happens, you can take her to court for breech of contract. It sounds harsh.. but it is needed these days. 

    Post # 4
    14658 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If she is in fact a professional and wants to build her portfolio, I would hope she is professional enough to keep her personal relationship out of this.  I would talk to her and be completely upfront about the falling out with N and hear it from her that what you two have is strictly business and has nothing to do with N.

    Is N a bridesmaid?? Would J have to work on her also?  If so, then I may reconsider…

    Post # 5
    2232 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think if J still wants to do it then maybe she is trying to be professional and keep her promise. Maybe when you talk to her next you can mention that N is in the wedding and will she be ok with that (will they even see each other on the day?).

    Who knows, maybe she unfriended you in anger (along with everyone else) and now realizes that she shouldn’t have and her career is worth more than whatever this argument was.


    Post # 7
    1890 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    J sounds unreliable and like a drama queen.  I’d just go with someone else and stay out of this mess.

    You’ll learn as you get closer to the wedding that the best thing in the WORLD is vendors who are professional, reliable, available when you need to get in touch with them for something, and of course do a good job and have a solid portfolio.  It’s truly worth it to pay a little more for the hair/makeup people who are experienced, have great reviews on Wedding Wire, and who you know you can count on.  This girl sounds like she’s already being flaky and dramatic–so not worth the price break, In My Humble Opinion.

    Post # 8
    66 posts
    Worker bee

    i agree with the PP who said stick with her. I mean, after x amount of time, she DID contact  you back. if in fact she was cutting you out as a JOB, not just an acquaintance, then i’d be concerned. but hopefully, if she wants to build a portfolio, she knows that friend issues, can’t be messing up money 🙂  lol!!

    i would definitely call around, get a couple prices, w/o telling ANYBODY, so this way, if it falls through, you have a back up(that may cost more, but is guaranteed!). but if she does indeed come through, then she is a true professional, and you spent a needless hour or so on the phone 🙂


    as for her unfriending you…maybe it’s because she is taking the steps to separate work from personal. not just that, if she doesn’t know you well, maybe she had the thought if she wanted to cut N off, that you may mention her activities(if she doesn’t want N to know something). which sounds petty, but i completely understand. when my “what he is” and i separated, i had quite a few of his coworkers(all male, but he knew, no big deal there, it’s offshore work lol) on my page. week by week, he was just “curious” about things. it took me a minute to catch on, and tho i still tt these guys in person, they are no longer my “friends” online lol. it’s just a privacy thing, nothing really personal. and they say they understand.

    Post # 9
    5667 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @JessLee83: You hit the nail on the head. I agree 100%!

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