(Closed) Friend going braless around hubby

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 181
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I rarely wear a bra, but I wouldn’t do it around another man. Unless they were in MY home then F ya. I don’t even wear a bra at work, but a tight cami under my uniform.

Post # 182
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

writersblock :  Not de-sexualized and maybe not all across Europe, but overall it’s not as hyper sexualized as it is in North America. This is due to less censorship of breasts, topless beaches etc being acceptable, when something becomes common place it loses it’s excitement.

If Europe isn’t a good enough example for you, take a look at certain African tribes where women are topless all of the time and those men don’t see it as sexual in the slightest.

The point is that breasts aren’t sexual, we’ve only made them so, and we can undo it. 

Post # 183
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If I didn’t say anything my husband certainly would have.  It’s just not appropriate in someone else’s home. 

Post # 184
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Worker bee

She’s either blind or gross. I bet she got dressed in the dark. 

Post # 185
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

bzbride2277 :  wow I wish I could get away without wearing a bra! If I did that my ‘girls’ would end up polishing my shoes. 

 

Post # 186
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Helper bee

Kaymar :   Yipeebee :   Same here…I can’t believe some of the responses I’m reading. ‘She should watch what she’s wearing around my husband’. Absolutely insane. I’ve been with my fiance at beaches in Europe where women are topless, he didn’t even notice. I did! And there was nowhere in my head thinking ‘wow, she needs to put a top on’ but more or so like ‘damn, she’s bold, I wish I was that confident in my body’. We should be celebrating women instead of putting them to shame just because “I” wouldn’t do that. So what? I wouldn’t do a lot of things but I would never shame a woman for having breasts, having a body shape and wearing whatever she feels comfortable. It’s so sad that some of these women believe sitting around braless is something to be ashamed of but yeah, I’ve started checking the Bee less frequently. This anti-feminist, racism, hatred that I’m reading nowadays is just sad.

Post # 187
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

sparkles8rosegold :  Yep summed up by a totally idiotic comment from @punchberry just before yours..

 

She’s either blind or gross. I bet she got dressed in the dark. 

 

Post # 188
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2017

You could maybe say it in a friendly way, like “I just thought you should know, did you realise that your top is really sheer”. Perhaps she didn’t realise it was see-through. If she has left then I wouldn’t bring it up now but maybe if it happens next time then say something at the time.

Post # 189
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Worker bee

MrsKing212 :  Why are you trying to pick a fight on the internet? Grow up. You’re really sad. 🖒

Post # 191
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Helper bee

Late to the party here, but a few things.  1. I couldn’t care less as long as people feel comfortable in my home, they can dress however they want.  2. I am not threatened by nipples, and nor is my husband so it wouldn’t freak me out.  3. It seems like you don’t trust the friend or the spouse if you’re worried about what she/he does in front of a spouse and if the spouse sees it.  4.  I would never do this because I wouldn’t want to make anyone uncomfortable.  and Last…5. Knowing my husband and myself… we’d probably just laugh and say “What’s up, Areolas?”  And laugh our butts off.  And my friend would laugh too, because that’s what friends do.  

Post # 193
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

No, I wouldn’t mention it. I mean, I see women out in public ALL the time where you can see their nipples and even more so their booty. I know my husband respects me enough to not be oggling some stranger’s nipples on the street and I know it would be the same in our home. 

I’m not saying it’s weird for this to make you uncomfortable. It is your true feelings and that is fine, obviously. But I would just let it go. If you talk with anyone I would say let that be your husband not her.

Post # 194
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Ah, also just seen this is 3 weeks old. 

Post # 195
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

bzbride2277 :  I think this is inappropriate. It’s one thing if she’s hanging around in a shirt with a hoodie on (I never wear a bra at home but no one could really tell), quite another in something you can see through!

I also think it would be hard to bring up, but if this person is a close friend perhaps it won’t be a problem. If i wil make things really weird or humiliate your friend, perhaps it’s not worth it. On the other hand, maybe she doesn’t know and should be told!

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