(Closed) Friend going through a tragedy – what can I do?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
5117 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Maybe see if there are some local restaurants close to the hospital he is in, and ask if they’d deliver a gift card to her? Having a change up of food and not having to worry about some meals would be great. 

Post # 4
159 posts
Blushing bee

gift gas cards for traveling back and forth to the hospital, as mentioned by NDBee restaurant gift cards,  a mini spa massage (for stress!) gift certificate, and if you know her really well, a housing cleaning gift certificate (she will be at the hospital a lot, but some people are funny about having strangers come into their home to clean – but i know I wouldnt be 😉 and you can add in your note why you are giving her that – ” i know you will be busy helping “jim” (insert boyfriends name there) get better, so I thought this might help ease up on some of the stress etc.”


Its very nice and thoughtful that you want to do something special for her!

Post # 6
1841 posts
Buzzing bee

They may not allow deliveries to the ICU, but I am guessing she is staying at the hospital with him? When my grandfather was in the hospital I had 2 dozen of my grandmothers favorite cookes sent there from a local bakery I knew she would be staying there and would appreciate the treat.

I think your resturant and spa idea is a good one, especially after an event like this she is going to need a massage.

Post # 7
1227 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

NDBee is right on target with the suggestion for gift cards to restaurants near the hospital. She’ll undoubtedly be at the hospital so frequently as he is recovering, and being able to step away for a dinner of something other than hospital food will be a wonderful thing.

I just wanted to add that something that you can continue to do as he recovers is to call her from time to time and be sure to ask how she is feeling. Caring for a loved one who has a long-term illness or injury is so difficult, and she’s bound to feel the strain. Even just a phone call where she can vent to you about how difficult things have been could be an enormous release for her.

Post # 8
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I have a friend who sent me cards every week after a loss – funny cards with a sweet “im thinking of you note” of some sort hand written in.  It is a sweet and thoughtful way for her to be there for me when there is not much that can be done.

Personally if she sent me money or gift cards it would be weird – unless I was in a tough financial position, it would be awkward. 

Cards, phone calls, “im thinking of you, xo” text messages will help her feel less alone. 

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