- 4 months ago
Hi bees. I have lurked here for a while, while planning my wedding. This post isn’t about weddings at all, but a new-ish friend of mine and how she acted this weekend.
Some background: I am in my late 20’s, my Dear Fiance and I have been together since college, living together for 4 years and engaged for 2 years. Getting married this fall! Last fall I met a woman around my age at the dog park. We started chatting every time we were both there and discovered our workplaces were only 2 blocks apart. We starting meeting for lunch every week or 2 and over the course of the last 9 months have become friends. She is single and has a good group of girlfriends and has invited me out with them. I have also invited her out with my girlfriends, everyone liked her and we always had fun. Dear Fiance and I host a lot of game nights, cookouts, etc. and we started inviting her to those. It can be hard to make friends once you’re out of school, so I was psyched I had a new friend.
So- this weekend. Dear Fiance and I both love craft beer and had purchased tix to a beer fest on Saturday. At the last minute he decided to surprise his dad for Father’s Day. My new friend (let’s call her Emily) also likes beer, so I invited to join me and use DF’s ticket. The day started off great. For those that haven’t attended an event like this, each brewery has a booth, and are serving a few of their beers. Everyone gets a glass that holds 3 oz, so that is the serving size. You wander around and chat with the brewery people and taste their beers, there’s live music, food trucks, etc.
About 1 hour into the event I notice that Emily is pretty drunk- slurring her words and swaying a bit. I suggest slowing down and going to get some food and some water. She rolls her eyes, goes up to the next booth, orders their highest alcohol content beer and slams it down. She starts walking in front of me, and hurries to the next booth, gets another beer, and as she’s turning away, falls down. I hurry over, get her on her feet and guide her over to the food area. I sit her down, and go get some pizza and waters. For some reason, she started being really mean to me. Started mocking my engagement ring (wtf?), how I work out (she is a Cross Fit junkie) telling me I was a “shit dog mom” because we only have one dog, and a bizarre series of other topics. Finally this older woman who was sitting at our same picnic table and was overhearing all this craziness said to me “When they turn on you, it’s time to take them home.” That snapped me out of it, and I got her up and out of there.
The next hour: wrestling her into the Uber, cringing while she loudly demanded the Uber driver change the music, she fell getting out of the Uber, she fell walking up the steps to her townhouse. She couldn’t find her keys, didn’t want to let me in, her lip was bleeding, blood all over her shirt. Just a nightmare. I got her inside (the whole time she is shouting at me to leave) let her dogs out to pee, got her water, and finally left. I sat on her stoop and texted one of her friends that lives nearby. Thank God she was home and came right over. I sat outside while she got Emily to drink some water and lay down on the couch. She was studying and said she would bring her school stuff over and hang out while Emily slept it off. I Ubered home.
So this morning, bright and early, Emily texts me to say “Thanks for taking care of me when I was drunk yesterday!” I replied that it was pretty crazy and she was beyond drunk and quite mean to me. She replies that she’s sorry, she doesn’t remember anything, and look at what she’s dealing with, and attaches a pic of her swollen lip. I am SO mad, bees. What do you think my next step is? I honestly wonder if she secretly hates me after all the crap she was saying…but up until this point she has been a great friend! Lots of things we have done include alcohol (concerts, dinners out, cookouts) and she has never even seemed more than slightly buzzed or happily tipsy! Just not sure how to proceed from here.