Post # 1
This is just a little venting session on how aggravated I am about this…
My now Fiance proposed August 13th, 2011 and my cousin the Maid/Matron of Honor. Back in the day, I dated one of her cousins (other side of the family) but it was no big deal, we were extremely young, feelings carried over until we were adults but now there is nothing of it. Let’s just say, My Fiance and I, Maid/Matron of Honor and her boyfriend, another couple and my ex and his new girlfriend all hang out occasionally.
After we got engaged, my ex’s now fiance, had a heart attack over my ring! She loved it and couldn’t stress it enough to him how much she LOVED my ring and she wanted one JUST like it. Cool. I didn’t think anything of it… they were newly dating at that point. & not for nothing, I knew my ring was pretty badass<3 Lol.
Last weekend, Fiance and I were laying in bed and he goes Oh wow, they got engaged! & then he scrolls down and sees a picture of MY ring on HER finger… PHENOMENAL! He literally went out and got the saaaaame exact ring as mine for her. How annoying! and when I mean same ring, I mean same ring. Setting, size, everything. I keep joking that he must have taken a pic of my ring to the jewelers and said I want this one.
It doesn’t annoy me that I dated him and he bought his fiance the same ring… it just bothers me in general that SHE HAS THE SAME RING. I’m very much a person of I have my own taste… I don’t have things that other people have or want what other people want/have. BE ORIGINAL, please.
Regardless – I mentioned something to my cousin, Maid/Matron of Honor, which again is my ex’s cousin as well that I was upset he got her the same ring and her reaction was “OMG PLEASE. He didn’t go with intentions of buying YOUR ring.” ….. Complete attitude. I could have gotten up and walked away from dinner. I understand that, but I for one would NOT buy the exact same thing that someone has KNOWING that they have it. (He was WELL aware)
What do you bee’s think? Would this aggravate you? How would you handle my MOH’s response to that?… Maybe I am overreacting?
Post # 3
haha yes, that would annoy me!! its weird! that said, its a huge compliment. what does the ring look like?
Post # 4
@wrkbrk: It’s nothing outrageous which is the BEST part about this whole thing, but it’s my ring, i frikken love it. 2ct. total weight, three stone with side diamonds but the middle diamond sits in a tulip setting which was my favorite part about it. It is a compliment, but please… get your own $h!t. Lol.
Post # 5
Can you post a picture of your ring? Unless your ring is pretty out there or unique I think this is a non issue. Like if it’s a halo or a solitare I don’t see the issue. But if you have a pear halo or a heart diamond or something that is out of the norm then yes I’d be annoyed. Not saying the feeling is altogether justified, but you can’t help how you feel.
Post # 6
I feel like you may get flamed for this, b/c I’ve seen too many posts criticizing bees at every opportunity….BUT I totally agree with you! That’s just insane and weird! I’d be very peeved, but remind yourself that they’re just that pathetic-they had to copy your ring and couldn’t dare pick something out themselves. I’d never want something on my hand if I knew someone already had the same one, that’s just bizarre. Is she going to copy your wedding dress too?! I’ve always had a huge issue with copy cats-I feel your pain 🙁 I know it’s catty, but I wouldn’t hold back a comment regarding it the next time you see her. I’d probably say something like “Wow, you must have REALLY wanted something else I already had” 😛
Post # 7
@mixtapehearts: I left my ring to get resized on Friday… once I get it back I’ll have to post a new pic! It’s nothing OUT THERE like I said in my last post. Which I understand completely. But the nerve of some. It’s not like we’re acquiantances… we hang out atleast once or twice a month. I’d be embarrased if I was them to get the same ring.
Post # 8
I guess that yes, it would aggravate me, but there isn’t much you can do about it. Everyone’s tastes are unique, but generally you’re not going to have the same thing as other people unless you go for a 100% customized look.
Post # 9
It sounds like a pretty common ring – 3 stone tulip setting. I dont think it’s a big deal as long as its not some crazy unique setting. Half my friends have the same type setting as mine – solitare on a pave band. No compares and notices if they are identical or not when its such common a ring.
Post # 10
UGH! I would be SOOOOOOO annoyed. I’ve had friends over the years copy all sorts of stuff. Even had a family member steal a name of a future baby. Yep. She did that. That’s why I say nothing to anyone anymore! I’m not sure I’ll have children so whatever.
Here’s why I would feel annoyed:
Someone took something intimate & personal of yours & made it their own.
I don’t like when people say it should feel like a compliment. No. A compliment is “You have great hair” or “Your Fiance is a handsome man”. A compliment is not a rip off. And that’s what happened. Sure, other women might have similar rings with a tulip setting but it wouldn’t be YOUR ring. You know what’s really going on so just follow your gut.
As far as your Maid/Matron of Honor not validating your feelings… She doesn’t have to share your opinions. Let her have her own. Just don’t talk to her about this. 🙂
I’m sorry, Girl. I get it!
Post # 11
@Beijocanaboca: That’s a tough one. Maybe you can get your two side stones switched out for your birthstone or something, just to make a statement that you’d like to be unique. I’d be highly annoyed, but how do you address something like that? You could say something, but it’s not like they’re going to go back and change it. And it’ll just make things awkward for your future get-togethers. I do sympathize.
Post # 12
Actually, I had a very similar thing happen.
I had my diamond reset several years ago in a Scott Kay 3 stone setting. 3 stone settings are not uncommon, but this one was rather unusual (at the time) because it was a delicate trellis setting with surprise diamonds on the side.
One of my friends saw it and went nuts. She said she had been looking for a new setting for a long time and never considered a 3 stone ring until she saw mine. A few months later she had her diamond reset into my exact setting. She had a similar sized diamond too so it did look like we had the identical ring.
The way I looked at it, there are soooo many settings out there that it’s really tough to find one that you absolutely love (at least it was tough for me). The fact that my friend loved the same one I did says nothing about her lack or creativity or her wanting to copy me. We both had great taste 🙂 In fact, I was flattered that she liked my ring so much that she wanted the same thing.
I understand this would be slightly annoying to you, but honestly blow it off. I would not have said anything to the Maid/Matron of Honor. I think it made you look kind of bridezilla-ish to be honest.
Post # 13
Yea, that’s kinda weird that they would want that. I’d be sort of put off, but I don’t think I’d dwell on it much. Don’t get mad at your Maid/Matron of Honor for not agreeing with you 100%, you mentioned your frustration to her with hopes that she would validate your feelings and she gave you her opinion, which wasn’t exactly what you were hoping for-not a good reason to be frustrated with her. I have an idea of the ring you have because I’ve seen that type of setting and style, if it’s the one I’m thinking about it’s very pretty and you are a lucky girl! I think it makes them look silly, you were the original beholder of the ring, so if they want to play copycat it just makes them look odd.
Post # 14
@Beijocanaboca: It would aggravate me, but there isn’t much you can do about it. You don’t see them *that* often, you had the ring first, etc. Let her enjoy it. If you want a relationship w. her you better stop mentioning it.
Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery…
Post # 15
@Beijocanaboca: sounds pretty! completely agree. id feel the same. lame-o!!
Post # 16
I wouldn’t be aggrivated in the slightest bit.
It’s a compliment to your ring. And obviously other people are wearing the same ring as you are if it’s mass produced and unless he or your fiance bought it custom made or from a small shop that only made one, chances are many other people have that ring as well.