Post # 17
Would I be annoyed? Yes! Would I vent to my very best friend friend? Yes! Would I ever mention my frustrations to anyone else? Noooooooo. I’d just take the high road and remain classy in public. I dont think it will look favorable on you to publicly point out that its the same ring. People will notice anyways so you don’t have to point it out. But I’m sorry, that does suck!
We have a daughter that we named A**** S***** OurLastName. A few months later, someone in my husbands family named their daughter the SAME EXACT NAME! And we have the same last name so this child literally has the EXACT name as our daughter. WTH?! At first I was super annoyed but everyone in my husbands family thinks its SO FUNNY (it’s not!!) that I just dropped it. Grrrr!
Post # 18
Thanks for all the feedback girls. I can see where everyones coming from. I’m not going to confront her about it, I never had intentions to… I am obv. more than happy for them and glad that she loves her ring just as much as I love mine. It’s just weird and frustrating that they couldn’t be there own person when it came to which ring they picked out.
I know EXACTLY where you’re coming from with this. Growing up my younger cousins always had to get what I had no matter what it was. I think growing up and seeing it done ALL YOUR LIFE makes you even that much more bitter to the subject. For once, I had something of MY OWN that nobody I knew had. So annoying. I am the same way with kids names also… I’ve never spoken of the names I like for that reason. So sorry to hear that it happened to you.
I would feel like a complete moron picking out the same ring I know someone else has. I haven’t seen her in person yet but when I do, I’d love to see if she goes to show it to me. LOL. And what do I say at that point? Oh, nice… I’ve seen one JUST like it?! HAHA. Some people… I just don’t get it.
Post # 19
Your ring setting sounds pretty common. I can understand why it would bother you, but it’s not like your Fiance had it custom made.
Post # 21
I’d be annoyed too.. and in a sick way, a little flattered.. but mostly annoyed!
Post # 22
Well, unless your ring was custom designed using the lost wax process or handmade, it is not as unique or original as you think it is. You likely were not the first to get it, and your ex’s Fiance is not likely the last to get it. Yes, you have “your own taste”, but who is to say that same test is not shared by others in some respects? Obviously, she really liked the ring.
Her Fiance cared to buy the ring SHE wanted. It certainly would have been silly for him to buy her something else she clearly was not interested in to protect your feelings.
This really would not bother me. I would be surprised to see someone with my ring since it is a little different, but not bothered or offended at all. Rather, I’d be a little excited to find out if they had the same person make it and so forth.
Your ring is still your ring, and her ring is her ring.
Post # 24
Initially I might feel a little peeved but then I would feel flattered.
Post # 25
Unless my husband or I designed the ring ourselves and someone else was “stealing”/copying our ORIGINAL work, I don’t think this would bother me in the slightest.
If I were forced to choose a new wedding set, I would choose something identical to one of my friends because I love it and I think it’s awesome. I hope she wouldn’t care. I just don’t see what the big deal is. In another five years, you’ll probably forget this ever happened.
Post # 26
Unless you have your ring designed or find a vintage ring chances are you’re wearing a ring exactly like some else and someone else is wear a ring like your’s. Nothing to get your panties in a wad about. 🙂
Post # 27
Sould I be a little annoyed? Yes! But I live by imitation is the sincerest form of flattery:) Be flattered
Post # 28
- Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX
I actually had a simular situation except her ring was the exact same ring but in a smaller ctw. I don’t think she did it on purpose but It did bother me for a bit….So I understand. But I wore mine proudly for 2.5 years and when I got the chance to upgrade, I made sure it was to something that it would be kinna hard to copy..lol.
Post # 29
Honestly, I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. Like PP’s said, if it’s not a custom ring then other people are GOING to have it. My ring is mass produced, if someone I know liked it and got the same one it wouldn’t bother me (I actually know someone who got engaged around the same time as me and our rings are almost identical). It happens.
Post # 30
‘Imitation is the best form of flattery’
I would probably be annoyed as well but if its a pretty basic design you can expect other people to have the same ring. Maybe she really does just love the ring that much… take it as a compliment and move forward. There are bigger things to worry about in the world. Dont bring petty stress like this into your life!
—I want to see a pic of this ring!!!— 😀
Post # 31
and this is an issue, because…