(Closed) "Friend" got my *same* e-ring… Not thrilled

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2002

Would I be annoyed? Yes! Would I vent to my very best friend friend? Yes! Would I ever mention my frustrations to anyone else? Noooooooo. I’d just take the high road and remain classy in public. I dont think it will look favorable on you to publicly point out that its the same ring. People will notice anyways so you don’t have to point it out. But I’m sorry, that does suck!

We have a daughter that we named A**** S***** OurLastName. A few months later, someone in my husbands family named their daughter the SAME EXACT NAME! And we have the same last name so this child literally has the EXACT name as our daughter. WTH?! At first I was super annoyed but everyone in my husbands family thinks its SO FUNNY (it’s not!!) that I just dropped it. Grrrr! 

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Your ring setting sounds pretty common. I can understand why it would bother you, but it’s not like your Fiance had it custom made.

Post # 20
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@kris325:  +1

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’d be annoyed too.. and in a sick way, a little flattered.. but mostly annoyed!

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

Well, unless your ring was custom designed using the lost wax process or handmade, it is not as unique or original as you think it is. You likely were not the first to get it, and your ex’s Fiance is not likely the last to get it. Yes, you have “your own taste”, but who is to say that same test is not shared by others in some respects? Obviously, she really liked the ring.

Her Fiance cared to buy the ring SHE wanted. It certainly would have been silly for him to buy her something else she clearly was not interested in to protect your feelings.

This really would not bother me. I would be surprised to see someone with my ring since it is a little different, but not bothered or offended at all. Rather, I’d be a little excited to find out if they had the same person make it and so forth.

Your ring is still your ring, and her ring is her ring.

Post # 23
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@kris325:  +2

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

Initially I might feel a little peeved but then I would feel flattered. 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

Unless my husband or I designed the ring ourselves and someone else was “stealing”/copying our ORIGINAL work, I don’t think this would bother me in the slightest.

If I were forced to choose a new wedding set, I would choose something identical to one of my friends because I love it and I think it’s awesome. I hope she wouldn’t care. I just don’t see what the big deal is. In another five years, you’ll probably forget this ever happened.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Unless you have your ring designed or find a vintage ring chances are you’re wearing a ring exactly like some else and someone else is wear a ring like your’s.  Nothing to get your panties in a wad about.  🙂

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Sould I be a little annoyed? Yes! But I live by imitation is the sincerest form of flattery:) Be flatteredSealed

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX

I actually had a simular situation except her ring was the exact same ring but in a smaller ctw. I don’t think she did it on purpose but It did bother me for a bit….So I understand. But I wore mine proudly for 2.5 years and when I got the chance to upgrade, I made sure it was to something that it would be kinna hard to copy..lol.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Honestly, I don’t think it’s that big of a deal.  Like PP’s said, if it’s not a custom ring then other people are GOING to have it.  My ring is mass produced, if someone I know liked it and got the same one it wouldn’t bother me (I actually know someone who got engaged around the same time as me and our rings are almost identical).  It happens.

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

 ‘Imitation is the best form of flattery’

I would probably be annoyed as well but if its a pretty basic design you can expect other people to have the same ring. Maybe she really does just love the ring that much… take it as a compliment and move forward. There are bigger things to worry about in the world. Dont bring petty stress like this into your life!

—I want to see a pic of this ring!!!— 😀

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

and this is an issue, because…

 

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