(Closed) Friend has forgotten to ask guest's dietary requirements

posted 8 years ago in Food
  • poll: Should I tell my friend she's forgotten to ask if her guest's have dietary requirements?

    Yes! She needs to know

    No! It will upset and stress her that she's forgotten

  • Post # 47
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m not, it’s an English Afternoon Tea Reception and I’m not having special meals for guests. We are only having hot tea to drink. Everyone knows what kind of reception it is and while I have had some people complain, it’s not been over allergies, it’s been over the type of food and drink. I figure if they don’t like what we are serving, then they don’t have to come. If it were an allergy, I would have English Afternoon Tea  food that they could eat, but that’s not the case, and nobody is allegeric to tea.

    Post # 48
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

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    @abbie017:  +1. I didn’t put a section. I had 2 individuals with special requirements. I spoke to them both seperately as well as the venue. They pretty much got to order whatever they wanted.

    I think it’s a little pretentious to suggest that she “forgot”, implying that it’s a massive fauxpas not to have accomodated in this way. I think you should ask casually what your options will be but do not imply that she forgot.

    Post # 49
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

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    @Scc6a:  But we are the “guests of honor” and are foodies. I don’t see why the menu should reflect anything other than our tastes. Should I go round asking everyone what they like to eat and create something based upon that? Just because someone CHOOSES to eat or not eat something should not have bearing. That is just how I feel. I have a vegetarian friend. She is a bridesmaid. She is preparing her own meal. I did mention that we could have someone bring something in for her, but I would not be changing my whole menu for her. She joked and made a great point, she didn’t serve meat at her wedding for me, so why should I serve veggitarian food at mine for her? PS, I didn’t demand and/or ask for a meat product at her wedding even tho I don’t eat tofu. I chose not to eat the tofu. I didn’t make a big deal about it. Sure I was a little hungry, so I had another piece or bread or an extra bit of cake. Missing 1 meal, won’t kill me. 

    I have 1 person allergic to berries, those have been completely removed from the menu. 

    The TRULY funny thing about this is, I don’t eat fish. For my own reasons. Yet, Fiance does, it is a big part of his family and growing up. We will be serving seafood apps. 

    Post # 51
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @LadyCupcake: I can’t imagine you’re not aware of this, but many people are vegetarian for religious, moral or ethical reasons. Sure, one’s religion is a “CHOICE,” but expecting your Buddhist/Hindu/7th Day Adventist/etc. guests to starve because of their religion seems quite intolerant.

    Post # 52
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

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    @robotgal:  Her guests may all be Christian just like mine. It’s our wedding and if people don’t like what we are serving or are not serving then tough. Sorry, I am really irriated about this, if I get one more person who is coming to our wedding complaining about English Afternoon Tea and only serving hot tea to drink, I am going to scream.

    Post # 53
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Don’t have any of those on my side, so I guess I don’t have to worry about that. Again, you are there at OUR WEDDING. To see us wed… You are not just there for the food. Bring a PB and J if you can’t make if a few hours without perishing from starvation

    Post # 55
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

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    @mrsrigsby60:  Can I come… I would love to go to a wedding that only served HOT tea!!! I think that is such a nifty idea

    Post # 56
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

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    @LadyCupcake:  I have to say I agree with most of what you have said.

     

    It comes down to this in my opinion – as a guest, are you more interested in watching two people you care about commit to one another for the rest of their lives and celebrate with them? Or are you only coming to get some free food?

    I have never seen this on any wedding invite so it seems a little different to me.

    Post # 57
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    All I can think of is the line from Ever After where the step sister with the dark hair says …

    “Sorry Mother, I’m just here for the food”

    Post # 58
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

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    @LadyCupcake:  Sure Smile Thanks We are big tea drinkers. so it works for us. I will have iced tea for my dad, but he is paying and I like all kinds of tea, but only hot tea for everyone else.  Smile

    Post # 60
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

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    @LadyCupcake:  for what it’s worth, I don’t necessarily agree with a vegetarian not differing any meat options at her wedding either. My friend is a vegetarian since birth, but she’s still having some meat at her wedding. I think we really just disagree about the purpose of the reception. yes, the bride and groom are the ones being honored, but as I said, while I think the ceremony is absolutely all about the bride and groom, I see the reception as being about thanking guests for witnessing the ceremony. If you have multiple entree options, I just don’t see why it’s that difficult for one to be vegetarian.

    Post # 61
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

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    @Scc6a:  It’s not difficult, but it should be whatever the bride and groom want.

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