(Closed) Friend having a "Winning a wedding-bet"? Asking for 12k?!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What do you think of this plan
    Smart; If you can't afford it, make the appeal to friends and family : (7 votes)
    2 %
    Funny; Why so serious? : (49 votes)
    16 %
    Offensive; You should never ask for money : (250 votes)
    82 %
  • Post # 92
    4656 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m not offended, this is just hilarious. More power to them if they can make it work, but I’m not gonna say I’d find it a worthy cause unless we were REALLY close…

    Post # 93
    1075 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think if they hadn’t posted a public page on indiegogo or youtube then yes this thread would be in poor taste, but clearly the friend wants the internet’s attention. Honestly this is way more kind of a treatment then she would probably recieve on reddit or anywhere else that would find something like this. 

    Post # 94
    12246 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    That’s horrible! (Her actions, not your telling us about them!)

    Post # 96
    680 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012


    I posted my original thought.

    I responded to someone who responded to me.

    I responded to you.

    And I responded to someone who was addressing the people “chiding” you… since I was the only one.

    You’re reaching.

    Post # 97
    5 posts
    • Wedding: August 2007

    Wow, I just HAD to respond to this.

    I can’t help but feel like this is a bit cruel. I could understand if this girl was just a random person you were judging but she’s your friend. You were able to speak to her openly about your concerns, so his makes me wonder, why post this in the first place? I’m sure she would much rather you convince her to take the page down or better yet, to hold your tongue because she’s important to you.

    Also, there seems to be so much hate on this page. She’s not forcing anyone into paying her for her wedding.  Not everyone can afford their own wedding, and even though there is a lot of joking (i.e. thanks for almost nothing), she seems careful to show her appreciation across the board. She already has one update thanking those who have given her the small amount she has raised so far…  It’s just a dollar. It’s easy to hate on someone but I think there should be more support and less poison in a forum that is meant to HELP brides, not trash them.

    In fact, I’m going to go give a dollar to help this girl’s wedding happen. It’s just a dollar and I think it’s sweet.

    Post # 98
    3638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    The Ingogogo page seems to not exist any more? Sad 🙁 I do think it’s tacky but the video was pretty funny. 

    To those saying that the OP is bad mouthing a friend. This is a FACEBOOK friend. The OP never said she was super close to this girl. Chill out. 

    Post # 99
    2440 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @mockingjay:  +1

    Post # 100
    5 posts

    [content moderated for personal attack]

    Post # 101
    5 posts
    • Wedding: August 2007

    @Everdeen:  [link removed]

    The page still works for me… and the only reason I said this is because the OP mentioned that she contacted this girl. If this is true, and she felt close enough to contact her, I feel as though she is close enough not to post something like this behind her back. But that is my opinion.

    Post # 102
    3638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @mockingjay:  Thanks for the link!

    If I was the OP and I used to be friends with this girl in high school but was no longer real friends with her, I might have felt close enough to send an email but not so close that I wouldn’t want to make a post about it. 

    That being said, even if this was a close friend, I don’t have to agree with every decision she makes. Especially if it is this crazy.


    Post # 103
    7556 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Only $68 raised so far. The only thing sadder than having a fundraiser to make your boyfriend propose is when the fundraiser fails…

    Post # 104
    5 posts
    • Wedding: August 2007

    @Everdeen:  I just hope the poor girl doesn’t see this. The sad thing about the internet is anything that is written comes out pretty harsh, and it stays there until removed. Whatever we may think of this girl, she’s still a human being.

    Post # 105
    461 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m not going to lie, just reading about it, I thought, “wow… this is weird, tacky strange…”

    But watching the video and reading the indiegogo page, I actually think it’s kind of fun. Plus… papier mache swan!

    Post # 106
    9951 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I have already commented here (Reply # 68) so my position is out there… Fundraising for an Engagement / Wedding is TACKY

    That said, I want to add another reason WHY I found this whole thing leaving a very bad taste in my mouth

    Before someone was so kind to post the link to her Indiegogo page… and as others were talking about it (her comments regarding donation amounts) I went looking for it on my own

    First stop… Home Page for Indiegogo

    And I was taken aback by the featured people on the front-page who were looking for help funding their VERY SERIOUS Medical issues…

    Well it all kind of put it even more in perspective for me.

    Fundraising, charging folks to come to your Wedding (and bring a gift too) is very tacky.  And frivolous… especially when you can haul butt down to a Courthouse any time and get the job done for under $ 100.

    BUT trying to raise money to save the life of your dying child or Mother… or even make their last days more comfortable. 

    NOW THAT is what really matters in life.

    As I said originally, IMO this really is a SAD Statement on the state of things in this gal’s life.


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