Post # 1
I have a friend her name is DeeDee, and she is only 19. She is still going to college. She is having a hard time deciding whether or not she should wait til after school or what time she is still attending to have a wedding. She has the man of her dreams, they are working on building their house and she has 2 years left in school. I am seeking advice as to what I should tell her. She is just wanting to know which is better to do. Has any other brides gotten married while in school?
Post # 3
We waited until after we were done school. It sounds like they are financially stable since they are building their own house which is a good first step to getting married!
Post # 4
I think they should wait until after school is finished, until they are financially stable and they are able to handle paying for a wedding and their life together.
Post # 5
@jacjar13: Can they afford to pay for a wedding, build a home and support themselves at this point? It sounds like they have some financial stability, but all three of those things would cost a lot at once and could cause a great deal of stress.
I personally would wait until after graduating (that’s what I did) and after both were in stable careers/jobs, but if they think they can handle all of it now…then they should go for it.
Post # 6
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: Yea the building is a good step! It’s just taking practically all they have. I hope they decide something they will be happy with.
@abbie017: I agree I think that maybe waiting til after school would be a good idea.
Post # 7
@jacjar13: I think maybe she should wait until she finishes school, a lot of hard work goes into organizing a wedding I think for now it’s better to concentrate on graduating with the best grades she can.
Post # 8
I’m in school and getting married in 13 Days. It’s all on how you budget and if youre going to have any help. If she does want to get married while she’s in school she should wait till a break, like for example I’m getting married during my holiday break from school because honestly, I’m inpatient and was just tired of waiting. lol.
I will admit it’s been a bit stressful because he’s working, I’m in school, and the electricity won’t run off hopes and dreams BUT we have a great support system and people helping us in paying for things and getting things done.
Post # 9
At 19– I would wait until after school. My fiance and I waited until we both had our bachelors. I am so glad we did.
I am 24 and in my first year graduate school and am finding the whole process overwhelming. I wanted to wait until I finished my Masters- so exactly 1 month after I finished school I will be saying “I do”-
even with this longer engagement, being older and finanicially stable- it is a lot to take on. Things that seem fun- become stressful. Just registering for presents can take HOURS. Dealing with family- all that changes as soon as the ring is on your finger. Tell her there is no rush. She should at least be able to legally drink at her own wedding too. Brain development isnt complete until AT LEAST 21!