(Closed) Friend helping a Friend

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We waited until after we were done school.  It sounds like they are financially stable since they are building their own house which is a good first step to getting married!

Post # 4
13248 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think they should wait until after school is finished, until they are financially stable and they are able to handle paying for a wedding and their life together.

Post # 5
4035 posts
Honey bee

@jacjar13:  Can they afford to pay for a wedding, build a home and support themselves at this point? It sounds like they have some financial stability, but all three of those things would cost a lot at once and could cause a great deal of stress.

I personally would wait until after graduating (that’s what I did) and after both were in stable careers/jobs, but if they think they can handle all of it now…then they should go for it.

Post # 7
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@jacjar13:  I think maybe she should wait until she finishes school, a lot of hard work goes into organizing a wedding I think for now it’s better to concentrate on graduating with the best grades she can. 

Post # 8
30 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m in school and getting married in 13 Days. It’s all on how you budget and if youre going to have any help. If she does want to get married while she’s in school she should wait till a break, like for example I’m getting married during my holiday break from school because honestly, I’m inpatient and was just tired of waiting. lol.

I will admit it’s been a bit stressful because he’s working, I’m in school, and the electricity won’t run off hopes and dreams BUT we have a great support system and people helping us in paying for things and getting things done.


Post # 9
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

At 19– I would wait until after school. My fiance and I waited until we both had our bachelors. I am so glad we did.


I am 24 and in my first year graduate school and am finding the whole process overwhelming. I  wanted to wait until I finished my Masters- so exactly 1 month after I finished school I will be saying “I do”-

even with this longer engagement, being older and finanicially stable- it is a lot to take on. Things that seem fun- become stressful. Just registering for presents can take HOURS. Dealing with family- all that changes as soon as the ring is on your finger. Tell her there is no rush. She should at least be able to legally drink at her own wedding too. Brain development isnt complete until AT LEAST 21!

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