(Closed) Friend in bad situation!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Nope. He’s a regular and if he complains to your manager, you could get fired. Don’t get involved for your friend, she’s a hot mess. 

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 3 months ago by Erin418.
Post # 3
9252 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

The only way you should get involved is to be there for your friend. If your friend wants to confront her ex then she needs to do it. She should not ask you to talk to him.

If he approaches you and asks after her then I think you should encourage him to talk to her and leave it at that.

Post # 4
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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Kacey23:  Sounds like an incredibly personal situation. Unless you are extremely close with both of them, I’d stay out of it and just do what you can to support your friend. It sounds like you know she is in the wrong, but if she means a lot to you, that’s probably the best thing you can do for her. 

Post # 5
7199 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

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Kacey23:  The absolute most I would do is tell him she’s pregnant if she asked me to. But trying to get him to think better of her? No. She knows what she did is wrong. He wasn’t willing to put up with someone bad mouthing his child’s mom and that is a very good sign. If he goes in a lot let her come in and wait for him. Or she can write him a letter. Whatever. This is her problem- not yours. Her behavior thus far has been very immature and you shouldn’t be a part of it. 

Post # 6
824 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Omg no do not get involved. This is up to her, not you. Why did she post that stuff about his ex? Pretty immature.

Post # 7
859 posts
Busy bee

Do not get involved. There is no way that this go well for you. 

Post # 8
1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery

Nope. Don’t get involved. A true friend would not ask you to jeopardize your job. She created this situation by lying and she needs to remedy it. If he asks about her, sure, tell him about her situation. But I wouldn’t try to talk her up. She seems full-o-drama. 

Post # 9
8029 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Are you sure she’s really pregnant, because if she likes to make things up…..?

Post # 10
7584 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I wouldn’t drop the news of her pregnancy on him but I would probably ask him to call her and tell him it’s actually a pretty important thing that isn’t about his ex or his breakup with your friend. If he is going to be a father, he needs to know this sooner rather than later.

Post # 11
2415 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I agree with Erin418. If this guy is a paying customer at your place of work and you corner him to talk to him, you could lose your job. While I understand you want to be there for your friend. I think it best that she continue to reach out to him.

Post # 12
7362 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Nope. Do not let her personal mess interfer with your income. She has some nerve. Playing games with her relationship blew up in her face. She has to deal with the consequences now. 

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