(Closed) Friend is a lying to another friend, what to do?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would tell her the truth.  I was involved in a very similar situation, except I was Jill.  My “Jack” turned out to be two shakes away from being a pathelogical liar… and my friend KNEW this when she let me go out with him… off and on for 2 years.  I’d always feel like he was lying about things, but I never had any solid proof… eventually it came to light though.  I’m still friends with this girl, even though we’ve never been super close, but I was let down and upset that she didn’t warn me about him up front.

Post # 5
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree, tell her, I dated a guy that my friends knew was lying to me. My roommate ended up telling me the things she heard after I complained about three different things. I guess for her she wanted to make sure she wasn’t ruining true love or something. She really handled it well, didn’t make me feel stupid for falling for it nor did she attack him. She told me what she knew and encouraged me to find out the truth. I think it is easy for these types of situations to go bad, people get very defensive. We were very lucky, it wasn’t easy at the time and I thought she was being dramatic at first, but he really was psycho, in fact his nickname is psycho james, we are still good friends today- my roommate- not psycho james, almost 15 years later.

Post # 6
4500 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Normally I fall on the side of minding your own business, but I definitely think that in this situation you should tell her. If she’s telling you stuff that you KNOW he’s lying about, then it’s totally natural to say, “Wait a minute, what? I know that’s not true!” It would be unnatural for you NOT to say something, I think.

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