- 3 years ago
of course it can be real. When I had my first wedding with my husband I almost booked a cook and a venue that our friends used, but we decided to go another way. After I got married my boss got engaged with plans to marry about 9 months after I did so. She used my photographer. She interviewed my cake maker but went with someone else due to schedule conflict and she almost booked my venue. In the end she didn’t because one of the mothers threw a fit that I wouldn’t be at their church and a bit out of town for most people.
She picked a menu very close to mine, registered at the same places and did a lot of things the way I did because she was overwhelmed by planning and liked the way I did things. Ours and my husband’s brother’s engagement overlapped and my SIL and I ended up with the same wedding ring set. It was totally a accident, though I guess if anyone was to blame It was me, because I did briefly see her ring the morning of the wedding because my husband the best man showed it to me, but all I remembered was the round diamond and that the set had saphires. I had no idea I was picking the same set.
I don’t think you did anything wrong. For myself, I wouldnt pick the same Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses as someone I knew because that’s pretty obvious, but I dont think it would be wrong for someone to do so. The only thing I can think of that maybe could have been stepping on her toes a bit was to ask the officiant at the rehersal dinner. I suppose that was her time, but there’s no rule that the only discussion to happen at wedding parties are ones approved by the couple. At my Brother-In-Law and SIL’s rehersal dinner the priest and I got into a intense discussion over the practices of my younger brother’s High school. Apparently they were breaking a lot of church and school rules, and the priest planned to pay a visit. I guess we got a little loud (not arguing at all) over the topic and the bride came down to sit at the table and directed the conversation to something else, because we were drawing some attention and people were getting irritated. woops.
and btw- my boss and I registed for a lot of the same plate patterns and glasses and things. We just knew who to call if we were having a party, have her bring some of her stuff because they’d match. 🙂 Even if people do find you rude, anyone that has ever worked at a photo lab can tell you that people have the same bouquets, dresses, decorations, venues, unity candles and officiants all the time. I think your friends are being way too touchy, and out of line to attack you with the messages you mentioned. If the bride is upset, then it would be her place to try and speak with you privately about it. I think those that contacted you were rude and unrealistic. I think they owe you a apology for their behavior.