(Closed) friend is not a bridesmaid and will not talk to me

posted 13 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I would still invite her to the wedding because otherwise you will risk loosing her friendship forever.  I would back off and give her time; you’ve obviously done everything you can to reach out to her at this point, so give her time to come around. 

My wedding is now said and done, and I can tell you that emotions and jealousy run high during the wedding planning process; however, when it is all said and done your friends will still be your friends through all the fighting, tears, cold shoulders, and cattiness. 

Please keep us updated, and good luck!

Post # 18
16 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would still invite her, leave the ball in her court…as far as not picking up the phone, I would leave a message not to detailed but since she won’t answer say what you want to say in the VM, that way you atleast get your message across to her….

Post # 20
1652 posts
Bumble bee

Yes, I’m intersted in hearing how it turns out.  Good luck.  I hope she’s coming around.

Post # 21
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I know everyone says to invite her still and I would agree on certain terms. If she ends up coming around and you guys can talk about it, then yes. However, it does seem like a very childish way to act. I understand being hurt and probably incredibly disappointed because in her own head she always thought she would be in your wedding. You have tried to contact her and her responses have contined to be the same. I wouldn’t let someone get in the way of your big day, especially after your many attempts of contacting her. You said she has maturity issues-could this chime in at your wedding? I would say don’t worry about her and if it was me-I wouldn’t invite her unless you both have come to terms of acceptance and know she would not do anything to jeopordize your big day!

 Keep us posted!

Post # 23
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

bridesmaids and friendship can be SUCH a mess.  I am sorry that happened…and I can honestly say I have an idea of how you feel.  It sucks.

Post # 24
1172 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Talk about passive aggressive. I totally have a friend like this. I would not even respond to her email, and just enjoy the memories from your special day!

Post # 25
14 posts
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think I would probably let it go and move on.   I mean you didn’t want her to be in the wedding from the get go.  She does seem like she would be alot to handle, but i didnt’ seem like you were all that concerned to begin with.  Sorry, I think you starting off your story as she is immature and lives at home, just ruined it.  I mean she would have been a bridesmaidn not paying for the event, and what do you care is she lives at home.  Anywho, didn’t really seem like you wanted her there, why worry now?


Just my 2 cents

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